Xyoo Tshiab: vim li cas thiaj muaj ntau yam khoom plig?

Zoo Santa Claus tuaj rau peb hnub no. Thiab nws tau coj khoom plig rau peb rau hnub so Xyoo Tshiab. Zaj nkauj qub no tseem hu tau rau cov me nyuam hnub tshiab. Txawm li cas los xij, cov menyuam yaus niaj hnub no tsis tas yuav ua npau suav ntev ntev txog cov ntsiab lus tsis meej ntawm Xyoo Tshiab Yawg lub hnab. Peb tus kheej unwittingly wean lawv ntawm no: lawv tseem tsis muaj sij hawm los xav, thiab peb twb muas. Thiab cov menyuam yaus coj peb cov khoom plig rau kev tso cai. Peb feem ntau tsis nrhiav kev coj lawv tawm ntawm qhov kev xav tsis zoo no. Hloov chaw, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws: lub xov tooj ntawm tes, kev sib ntaus sib tua game, chaw ua si, tsis hais txog qhov avalanche ntawm khoom qab zib ... Tag nrho cov no ntog rau cov menyuam yaus nyiam los ntawm cornucopia. Peb txaus siab txi ntau yam kom ua tiav lawv lub siab nyiam.

Nyob rau sab hnub poob, cov niam txiv tau pib ua phem rau lawv cov menyuam ib yam nkaus nyob ib ncig ntawm 60s, thaum cov neeg siv khoom tau tsim. Txij thaum ntawd los, qhov kev sib txawv no tsuas yog intensified. Nws kuj manifests nws tus kheej nyob rau hauv Russia. Peb cov menyuam puas yuav zoo siab dua yog tias peb tig lawv chav mus rau hauv khw muag khoom ua si? Child psychologists Natalia Dyatko thiab Annie Gatecel, psychotherapists Svetlana Krivtsova, Yakov Obukhov thiab Stephane Clerget teb cov lus nug no thiab lwm yam.

Vim li cas peb thiaj muab khoom plig rau me nyuam thaum lub caij so Xyoo Tshiab?

Cov neeg siv khoom hauv zej zog, uas peb tau ua neej nyob rau qee lub sijhawm tam sim no, tau tshaj tawm tias muaj ib yam khoom los ua ke nrog txhua yam uas zoo thiab raug hauv lub neej. Qhov teeb meem "yuav tsum muaj lossis ua" niaj hnub no yog hloov pauv txawv: "yuav tsum muaj." Peb ntseeg hais tias kev zoo siab ntawm cov me nyuam muaj ntau, thiab cov niam txiv zoo yuav tsum muab rau nws. Yog li ntawd, qhov ua tau tsis raug, tsis ua tiav qhov kev ntshaw thiab kev xav tau ntawm tus menyuam ua rau ntshai ntau tus niam txiv - ib yam li kev cia siab ntawm kev tsis muaj tsev neeg, ua rau muaj kev cia siab, ua rau muaj kev txhaum. Qee cov niam txiv, tsis meej pem qhov kev ntshaw ntawm lawv cov menyuam yaus nrog qhov tseem ceeb rau lawv, ntshai ua rau lawv tsis muaj dab tsi tseem ceeb. Nws zoo nkaus li rau lawv tias tus menyuam yuav raug kev nyuaj siab yog tias, piv txwv li, nws pom tias nws tus phooj ywg hauv chav kawm lossis tus phooj ywg zoo tshaj plaws tau txais khoom plig ntau dua li nws tus kheej. Thiab cov niam txiv sim, yuav ntau thiab ntau dua…

Cov khoom ua si uas peb muab rau ib tug me nyuam feem ntau cuam tshuam tsis yog nws, tab sis peb lub siab nyiam.

Peb tsis muaj ntau txoj kev zoo siab, kev lig kev cai. Muab khoom plig rau Xyoo Tshiab yog ib qho ntawm lawv. Thiab nws yuav tsum tsis txhob ua nyob ntawm tej yam kev mob. Muaj ntau lub sijhawm zoo dua los muab nqi zog lossis rau txim rau menyuam yaus. Thiab nyob rau hnub so, nws yog qhov zoo dua los siv lub sijhawm los ua ke nrog tag nrho tsev neeg thiab, ua ke nrog tus menyuam, txaus siab rau cov khoom plig muab lossis tau txais.

Cov me nyuam ntawm niam txiv sib nrauj feem ntau tau txais khoom plig ntau dua li lwm tus. Nws tsis ua rau lawv lwj?

Ntawm qhov tod tes, cov niam txiv sib nrauj muaj kev nkag siab zoo ntawm kev ua txhaum rau tus menyuam thiab sim ua kom nws nrog kev pab ntawm khoom plig.

Ntawm qhov tod tes, tus menyuam no feem ntau ua kev zoo siab rau hnub so ob zaug: ib zaug nrog txiv, lwm yam nrog niam. Txhua tus niam txiv ntshai tias hauv "tsev ntawd" kev ua koob tsheej yuav zoo dua. Muaj kev ntxias mus yuav khoom plig ntau dua - tsis yog rau qhov zoo ntawm tus menyuam, tab sis rau lawv tus kheej nyiam nyiam. Ob lub siab xav - muab khoom plig thiab yeej (lossis lees paub) kev hlub ntawm koj tus menyuam - sib koom ua ke. Cov niam txiv sib tw rau lawv cov menyuam nyiam, thiab cov menyuam yaus dhau los ua neeg ua phem rau qhov xwm txheej no. Tom qab lees txais cov xwm txheej ntawm qhov kev ua si, lawv yooj yim tig mus rau hauv kev tsis txaus siab nyob mus ib txhis: "Koj puas xav kom kuv hlub koj? Tom qab ntawd muab txhua yam kuv xav tau rau kuv!”

Yuav ua li cas thiaj paub tseeb tias tus menyuam tsis tshaib plab?

Yog tias peb tsis muab sijhawm rau tus menyuam los qhia nws txoj kev ntshaw, ces, raws li ib tug neeg laus, nws yuav tsis muaj peev xwm xav tau dab tsi tiag tiag. Tau kawg, yuav muaj kev ntshaw, tab sis yog tias muaj teeb meem tshwm sim ntawm txoj kev mus rau lawv, nws feem ntau yuav tso tseg rau lawv. Ib tug me nyuam yuav tshaib plab yog tias peb muab khoom plig cuam tshuam rau nws lossis cia nws xav tias peb yuav tsum muab txhua yam rau nws tam sim ntawd! Muab sijhawm rau nws: nws cov kev xav tau yuav tsum loj hlob thiab loj hlob, nws yuav tsum tau ntev rau ib yam dab tsi thiab muaj peev xwm qhia tau nws. Yog li cov menyuam kawm ua npau suav, ncua lub sijhawm ntawm kev ua tiav ntawm kev ntshaw, tsis poob rau hauv kev npau taws ntawm kev ntxhov siab me ntsis *. Txawm li cas los xij, qhov no tuaj yeem kawm tau txhua hnub, thiab tsis yog rau Christmas Eve xwb.

Yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob khoom plig tsis xav tau?

Ua ntej koj mus tom khw, xav txog qhov koj tus menyuam npau suav txog dab tsi. Tham nrog nws txog nws thiab yog tias daim ntawv teev npe ntev dhau lawm, xaiv qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws. Tau kawg, rau nws, tsis yog rau koj.

Khoom plig nrog ib tug hint?

Cov menyuam yaus yuav ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab yog tias lawv tau nthuav tawm cov khoom siv hauv tsev kawm, cov khaub ncaws hnav "kom loj hlob" lossis phau ntawv tsim kho zoo li "Txoj Cai Kev Coj Zoo." Lawv yuav tsis txaus siab rau cov khoom plig uas tsis muaj txiaj ntsig los ntawm lawv qhov kev xav, tsis yog rau kev ua si, tab sis rau kev dai kom zoo nkauj ntawm txee. Cov menyuam yaus yuav pom tias nws yog kev thuam thiab qhov khoom plig "nrog ib qho lus qhia" (rau cov tsis muaj zog - dumbbells, rau cov txaj muag - phau ntawv "Yuav ua li cas los ua ib tug thawj coj"). Cov khoom plig tsis yog tsuas yog qhia txog peb txoj kev hlub thiab kev saib xyuas xwb, tab sis kuj yog ib qho pov thawj ntawm qhov kev nkag siab thiab kev hwm rau peb tus menyuam li cas.

Txog nws

Tatyana Babushkina

"Dab tsi yog khaws cia hauv hnab ris thaum yau"

Lub Chaw Haujlwm Saib Xyuas Kev Kawm Txuj Ci, 2004.

Martha Snyder, Ross Snyder

"Tus me nyuam raws li ib tug neeg"

Lub ntsiab lus, Harmony, 1995.