Qhov xwm txheej uas paub zoo: koj pom zoo nrog tus menyuam tias nws yuav ua ib yam dab tsi. Los yog, hloov pauv, yuav tsis ua ntxiv lawm. Thiab tom qab ntawd - tsis muaj dab tsi tau ua tiav: cov khoom ua si tsis tau muab tshem tawm, cov lus qhia tsis tau ua tiav, Kuv tsis tau mus tom khw ... Koj chim siab, chim siab, pib cog lus: "Vim li cas? Tom qab tag nrho, peb pom zoo? Tom qab tag nrho, koj tau cog lus! Kuv tuaj yeem ntseeg koj li cas tam sim no? Tus menyuam cog lus tias nws yuav tsis ua qhov no ntxiv, tab sis lwm zaus txhua yam rov ua dua.
Vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim thiab ua tau ib yam dab tsi txog nws?
Txhua yam yog yooj yim. Tus me nyuam pom nws niam, uas xav tau kev cog lus los ntawm nws, thiab nws yooj yim dua rau nws cog lus dua li xav tias "Kuv puas tuaj yeem ua tau txhua yam no, muab rau kuv lwm yam xwm txheej thiab cov yam ntxwv ntawm kuv tus cwj pwm." Cov menyuam yaus yooj yim heev ua cov lus cog tseg uas tsis yooj yim sua kom ua tiav thiab feem ntau pib nrog cov lus "Kuv ib txwm ..." lossis "Kuv yuav tsis ...". Lawv tsis xav txog lawv cov lus cog tseg thaum lawv hais li no, lawv daws qhov teeb meem "Yuav ua li cas kom tau deb ntawm niam txiv kev npau taws" thiab "Yuav ua li cas kom sai sai tawm ntawm qhov kev sib tham no." Nws ib txwm yooj yim dua hais tias "uh-huh" thiab tom qab ntawd tsis ua nws yog tias "nws tsis ua haujlwm."
Nov yog txhua tus menyuam yaus ua. Koj tus me nyuam puas yog vim koj 1) tsis tau qhia nws kom xav txog thaum nws cog lus ib yam dab tsi thiab 2) tsis qhia nws kom lav ris nws cov lus.
Qhov tseeb, koj tsis tau qhia nws ntau yam tseem ceeb thiab tsis yooj yim. Koj tsis tau qhia nws kom thov kev pab thaum nws xav tau los ua cov haujlwm uas tau muab rau nws. Yog hais tias koj qhia ib tug me nyuam tag nrho cov neeg laus tej yam, tej zaum tus me nyuam yuav hais rau koj: "Niam, Kuv tsuas muaj peev xwm muab tej khoom pov tseg yog hais tias kuv muab lawv tam sim no. Thiab hauv 5 feeb kuv yuav hnov qab txog nws, thiab kuv yuav tsis tuaj yeem npaj kuv tus kheej yam tsis muaj koj!” Los yog yooj yim dua: “Niam, qhov xwm txheej zoo li no — Kuv tau cog lus rau cov txiv neej tias hnub no peb yuav mus rau hauv xinesmas ua ke, tab sis kuv cov lus qhia tseem tsis tau ua tiav. Yog li ntawd, yog tias kuv pib ntxuav tam sim no, ces kuv yuav muaj kev puas tsuaj. Thov — muab txoj haujlwm no rau kuv tag kis, kuv yuav tsis sib tham nrog leej twg!
Koj nkag siab tias tsis yog txhua tus menyuam yaus (thiab tsis yog txhua tus neeg laus) muaj qhov kev xav zoo li no thiab kev ua siab loj hauv kev hais lus nrog cov niam txiv ... Txog thaum koj qhia tus menyuam xav li no, xav zoo li ib tug neeg laus, ntxiv rau txog thaum nws ntseeg tias qhov no yog li cas. yog qhov tseeb thiab muaj txiaj ntsig zoo nyob, nws yuav nrog koj tham zoo li menyuam yaus, thiab koj yuav cog lus rau nws.
Qhov haujlwm tseem ceeb tshaj plaws thiab nthuav dav no yuav pib qhov twg?
Peb xav kom pib nrog tus cwj pwm coj koj cov lus. Ntau precisely, los ntawm tus cwj pwm ntawm kev xav ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov "Kuv puas tuaj yeem ua raws li kuv cov lus"? Ua li no, yog peb nug ib tug me nyuam rau ib yam dab tsi thiab nws hais tias "Yog, kuv yuav ua nws!", Peb tsis nyob twj ywm, tab sis tham: "Koj puas paub? Vim li cas koj thiaj paub tseeb? — Koj tsis nco qab! Koj muaj ntau yam yuav tsum ua!” Thiab ntxiv rau qhov no, peb xav ua ke nrog nws yuav npaj nws lub sijhawm thiab dab tsi tuaj yeem ua kom nws tsis nco qab ...
Ib yam li ntawd, yog hais tias, txawm li cas los xij, cov lus cog tseg tsis ua tiav, ces peb tsis cog lus tias "Ntawm no cov khoom ua si tsis raug tshem tawm dua!", tab sis ua ke nrog nws peb npaj ib qho kev soj ntsuam ntawm qhov tshwm sim: "Koj ua li cas tsis ua kom tiav qhov peb ua. npaj? Koj tau cog lus li cas? Koj puas tau cog lus tiag tiag? Koj puas xav ua nws? Wb xav txog nws ua ke!»
Tsuas yog nrog koj txoj kev pab thiab tsuas yog maj mam pib kawm ua cov lus cog tseg thiab nug nws tus kheej ntau zaus: "Kuv puas tuaj yeem ua qhov no?" thiab "Kuv tuaj yeem ua tiav qhov no li cas?". Maj mam, tus menyuam yuav nkag siab zoo txog nws tus kheej, nws tus yam ntxwv, yuav muaj peev xwm ua tau zoo dua qhov nws ua tau thiab qhov nws tsis tuaj yeem tiv taus. Thiab nws yooj yim dua kom nkag siab tias yuav ua li cas rau ib qho lossis lwm qhov ua rau.
Kev muaj peev xwm khaws ib lo lus rau cov niam txiv thiab kev muaj peev xwm ua tau tsuas yog cov lus cog tseg uas tuaj yeem khaws cia yog qhov tseem ceeb tsis yog tsuas yog txo cov kev tsis sib haum xeeb hauv kev sib raug zoo: qhov no yog kauj ruam tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau kev loj hlob tiag tiag, ib kauj ruam ntawm tus menyuam lub peev xwm tswj hwm nws tus kheej thiab nws lub neej.