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Lub insidiousness ntawm cov kab lus no yog tias lawv tsis suab tsis zoo los yog ua phem rau poj niam pob ntseg. Zoo, yog dab tsi tsis ncaj ncees lawm nrog cov lus "Okay, kuv yuav zoo dua ua nws tus kheej" los yog "Ua txiv neej!"? Lawv ua phem rau txiv neej ego! Thiab yuav ua li cas - tam sim no peb yuav piav qhia.
Yog hais tias koj twb tau hais ib zaug, ua tib zoo mloog thiab tsis txhob hais dua. Vim peb tsev neeg kws kho mob tau kawm los ntawm lawv cov neeg tau txais kev pab tias cov no yog cov lus txaus ntshai uas koj tuaj yeem hnov los ntawm koj tus khub.
1. "Okay, kuv yuav zoo dua ua nws tus kheej"
Pro cov lus qhia: Yog tias koj hais kom ib tug txiv neej kho tus faucet - lossis tsuas yog hais kom nws hu ib tus neeg los kho tus kais dej - cia nws ua nws tus kheej.
Ann Crowley, kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg hauv Austin hais tias "Txawm tias koj tus khub tsis nco qab ua qhov no ob peb zaug, lawv yuav muaj feem xav pab koj tiag tiag," - Cia nws cawm lub ntsej muag, tsis txhob hais tias: "Okay, kuv yuav zoo dua ua nws tus kheej." Nov yog ib lo lus phem heev. Rau ib tug txiv neej, nws txhais tau tias koj tsis xav tias nws muaj peev xwm ua txhua yam, thiab koj tsis xav tau nws.
2. "Kuv tuaj yeem twv tau…"
Cov lus phem no yuav tsis dhau los ua kev txhawb siab rau nws ua, vim koj tab tom thov qhov yuav luag tsis tuaj yeem.
Cov txiv neej tsis zoo ntawm kev nyeem ntawv ntawm kab thiab tsis ua qhov kev xav. Qhia rau kuv raws nraim qhov koj xav tau los ntawm nws
Ryan Howes, tus kws kho mob puas siab puas ntsws Pasadena hais tias "Cov poj niam yuav cawm lawv tus kheej ntau lub sijhawm thiab ntxhov siab yog tias lawv tsuas yog tso siab rau qhov tseeb tias cov txiv neej tsis zoo ntawm kev nyeem ntawv ntawm kab thiab tsis ua qhov kev xav," hais tias Ryan Howes, tus kws kho mob puas siab puas ntsws Pasadena. “Lawv tsis tau tsim los rau qhov no, thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem rov cob qhia lawv. Cia li qhia nws ncaj qha tias koj xav tau dab tsi los ntawm nws.
3. "Peb yuav tsum tham"
Tsis muaj lwm cov lus muaj peev xwm ntawm instilling ntau txaus ntshai nyob rau hauv lub plawv ntawm ib tug txiv neej li no harmless, thaum xub thawj siab ib muag, kab lus. Qhov no yog ib qho harbinger ntawm kev sib tham loj, kev tsis txaus siab thiab kev thuam.
Koj puas paub nws yuav ua li cas? Marcia Berger, tus kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg hais tias "Nws yuav xav tias nws yog tus swb thiab sim khiav tawm." "Tab sis qhov no yog qhov txawv ntawm qhov koj xav zaum ua ke thiab tham."
4. "Ua txiv neej!"
Rau koj tus kheej zoo thiab nws tus kheej, tsis txhob siv cov lus no. Qhov no yog kev tawm tsam tsis zoo rau nws tus kheej, nug nws tus txiv neej thiab koom nrog pab pawg neeg miners, tiv thaiv, tsim thiab tsim khoom.
5. “Cia li ntxuav koj tus kheej. Kuv tsis yog koj niam!”
Ua kom muaj tswv yim thiab nrhiav txoj hauv kev yooj yim dua los yaum nws kom muab cov khoom tso rau hauv lawv qhov chaw lossis hauv qhov chaw. Hais tias nws tseem xav tau nws niam, koj, tsis paub nws, tuaj yeem ncav cuag - kom nco ntsoov nws zoo npaum li cas nrog nws.
Qee zaum, tom qab mloog tag nrho cov dab neeg ntawm lawv cov phooj ywg, koj tus khub los xaus lus tias nws yog ib tug txiv zoo.
6. "Koj puas tawm nrog koj cov phooj ywg dua?"
Tsis txhob pom nws ua kev hem thawj rau koj txoj kev sib yuav, Howes hais. Ntawm chav kawm, qee zaum mus ncaws pob nrog cov txiv neej tsuas yog ib qho euphemism rau haus dej haus zoo, tab sis rau cov txiv neej feem ntau, kev sib ntsib cov phooj ywg yog qhov chaw sib tham ntawm qhov sib npaug, sib pauv kev xav thiab lawv cov tub hluas cov cim ntawm lub hwj chim thiab xwm txheej.
Xws li bachelor tog muaj nyiaj tshwj xeeb rau koj thiab. Qee zaum, tom qab mloog tag nrho cov dab neeg ntawm lawv cov phooj ywg, koj tus khub los xaus lus tias nws yog ib tug txiv zoo. Thiab xws li txiv neej nplua nuj kev sib txuas lus ua rau nws nco koj lub tuam txhab.
8. "Koj puas xav tias nws ntxim hlub?"
Koj tab tom muab nws tso rau hauv qhov xwm txheej uas koj tsis tuaj yeem muab cov lus teb raug. Txiv neej qhov xwm txheej yog xws li tias lawv ib txwm kos tus ntxhais ntxim nyiam tshaj plaws. Tej zaum, qhov no, nws twb tau sau tseg rau nws tus kheej. Thiab tam sim no nws yuav tsum txiav txim siab yuav ua li cas muab ob nqe lus tseeb sib npaug - tias tus ntxhais zoo nkauj thiab nws hlub koj, tsis yog nws.
9. "Aw, cas lub plab!"
Koj yuav tsum tau ceev faj kom nco ntsoov cov kev hloov pauv ntawm nws cov tsos, txij li cov txiv neej tsis muaj tus cwj pwm ntawm kev lom zem ntawm lawv tus kheej, tsis zoo li peb. Tsis yog txhua yam yuav tsum tau hais tawm, qee zaum nws yooj yim dua mus ncaj qha rau kev nqis tes ua. Thiab qhov no tsuas yog qhov xwm txheej. Nws yuav muaj txiaj ntsig ntau dua yog tias koj nyob hauv lub tiaj ua si ua ke ib qho ntawm ob peb hnub tom ntej no thiab siv ob peb teev nyob rau ntawd, thiab hnub so koj tau tsheb kauj vab thiab mus taug kev.