Tsom ntsoov rau qhov tseem ceeb: yuav ua li cas thiaj ua tau qhov tseem ceeb

"Hmoov tsis zoo, cov xwm txheej uas kuv tswj hwm los tso kuv qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov ua ntej yog qhov qauv tsis yog qhov zam. Kuv sim npaj kuv txoj haujlwm rau hnub ntawd, hais txog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis thaum kawg ntawm hnub kuv xav tias qaug zog tag nrho vim kuv cuam tshuam los ntawm kev hu xov tooj, kev hloov pauv me me thiab kev sib tham. Cov hauj lwm tseem ceeb tshaj plaws tseem raug ncua, thiab cov phiaj xwm loj tshaj plaws rau xyoo tseem sau rau ntawm daim ntawv. Koj tuaj yeem ua dab tsi los pab koj tus kheej? » nug Olga, 27 xyoo.

Kuv feem ntau tuaj hla qhov kev thov zoo sib xws hauv kev cob qhia txog kev tswj hwm kev ua tau zoo. Cov neeg siv khoom ntseeg tias qhov laj thawj tseem ceeb ntawm lawv qhov teeb meem yog qhov tsis muaj qhov tseem ceeb. Tab sis nyob rau hauv kev muaj tiag lawv yog, tsuas yog ib tug neeg yog tsis heev concentrated rau lawv.

Thiab thawj kauj ruam hauv kev daws qhov teeb meem no yog xaiv cov cuab yeej zoo los ua haujlwm ntawm koj qhov kev xav. Nws yuav tsum haum rau koj tus kheej yam ntxwv: koj yuav tsum coj mus rau hauv tus account cov xwm txheej ntawm koj txoj haujlwm thiab qhov chaw nyob.

Txhawm rau pib, koj tuaj yeem siv ntau txoj hauv kev nrov uas tau ntev tau lees paub tias muaj txiaj ntsig zoo. Kuv sim qhia lawv rau cov neeg siv khoom uas peb nyuam qhuav pib ua haujlwm.

Thawj Txoj Kev: Nkag siab txog Kev Ntsuas Kev Ntsuas

Ua ntej, teb cov lus nug: Koj siv cov qauv dab tsi thaum koj ua qhov tseem ceeb? Cov lus teb feem ntau yog qhov "ceev ceev" cov txheej txheem. Nrog nws, tag nrho cov xwm txheej nyob rau hauv kab nyob ntawm lub sijhawm kawg. Thiab tsuas yog tom qab ntawd peb tsim cov haujlwm tshiab rau hauv qhov ua tau "virtual constructor", hloov mus deb ntawm cov uas tuaj yeem ua tiav tom qab.

Dab tsi yog qhov tsis zoo ntawm txoj hauv kev no? Cov npe ntawm qhov tseem ceeb niaj hnub no yuav tsum suav nrog tsis yog dab tsi yuav poob qhov tseem ceeb tag kis, uas yog, ceev, tab sis kuj yog qhov peb hu ua "tseem ceeb". Qhov no yog qhov uas txav peb mus rau qhov ua tiav ntawm lub hom phiaj, lossis dab tsi tshem tawm cov teeb meem loj ntawm txoj kev mus rau nws.

Thiab ntawm no ntau tus ua yuam kev ntawm kev hloov cov qauv. Laconically, qhov no tuaj yeem hais tau raws li hauv qab no: "Qhov no yog qhov ceev heev, vim tias nws tseem ceeb heev!" "Qhov no tseem ceeb heev vim tias hnub kawg yog tag kis!" Tab sis yog tias koj daim ntawv teev npe tseem ceeb rau hnub tsis muaj cov haujlwm ua rau kev ua tiav ntawm cov hom phiaj tseem ceeb rau koj, koj yuav tsum ua tib zoo txheeb xyuas koj daim ntawv teev npe yuav tsum ua.

Koj yuav tsum txiav txim siab seb koj siv cov txheej txheem twg los txiav txim qhov "kev ceev" thiab "qhov tseem ceeb" ntawm cov dej num thiab seb koj puas sib xyaw ob lub ntsiab lus no.

Txoj Kev Thib Ob: Txheeb xyuas Peb Pawg Ua Ntej

Raws li koj paub, kev npaj horizons txawv. Yog tias peb tab tom xav txog kev npaj lub qab ntug ntawm ib hnub, nws yog qhov zoo dua los ua raws li hauv qab no:

• Teem ib qho tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau hnub. Nov yog txoj haujlwm uas koj yuav siv sijhawm ntau tshaj plaws ntawm koj lub sijhawm thiab lub zog niaj hnub no;
• Txheeb xyuas peb lossis plaub yam uas koj yuav siv sijhawm tsawg tshaj plaws thiab kev rau siab rau hnub no. Nws yog qhov zoo dua yog tias koj sau sijhawm ntau npaum li cas (tsib feeb, kaum feeb) koj npaj yuav siv rau ib rooj plaub tshwj xeeb. Qhov no yuav dhau los ua koj cov npe "qhov tseem ceeb kawg".
• Nyob rau hauv thib peb qeb yuav poob dab tsi yuav hu ua "cov ntaub ntawv ntawm residual txoj cai." Lawv yuav ua kom tiav yog tias muaj sijhawm dawb rau lawv. Tab sis yog tias lawv tseem tsis tau paub, nws yuav tsis cuam tshuam dab tsi.

Ntawm no peb tab tom ntsib cov lus nug: "Yuav ua li cas tsis siv lub zog siab tshaj plaws ntawm "qhov tseem ceeb kawg", tsis nco qab muab tso rau "qhov tseem ceeb"? Qhov thib peb txoj kev yuav pab teb nws.

Txoj Kev Thib Peb: Siv Lub Sijhawm Sijhawm Ua Si

Peb siv feem ntau ntawm peb lub sij hawm ua hauj lwm nyob rau hauv "lub sij hawm ceev" hom. Peb yuav tsum koom nrog cov txheej txheem niaj hnub thiab ua cov ntaub ntawv ntau heev.

"Lub sijhawm qeeb" yog txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws los nres qhov niaj hnub "khiav hauv lub log". Qhov no yog kev saib xyuas koj tus kheej thiab qhov pib ntawm kev nrhiav cov lus teb rau cov lus nug: "Kuv ua dab tsi? Dab tsi rau? Kuv tsis ua dab tsi thiab vim li cas?

Rau txoj kev no kom ua haujlwm zoo tshaj plaws, ua raws li peb cov lus qhia no:

1. Nkag mus rau hauv koj qhov niaj hnub niaj hnub ua ib qho kev ua yeeb yam. Qhov no yuav tsum yog ib qho kev ua ub no txhua hnub uas yuav ua rau koj nyob rau hauv "slow time" hom. Nws tuaj yeem yog tshuaj yej so, thiab squats tsis tu ncua. Lub ritual yuav tsum tsis pub dhau 5 feeb thiab cia koj nyob ib leeg. Thiab, ntawm chav kawm, coj koj kev xyiv fab thiab kev zoo siab - ces koj yuav tsis tso nws tawm mus txog rau tag kis.
2. Nco ntsoov tias "lub sijhawm qeeb" tsis yog lub sijhawm txaus siab xwb, tab sis kuj yog lub sijhawm los ua kom koj txaus siab rau hom "ceev sijhawm". Thiab nug koj tus kheej peb lo lus nug: "Yuav ua li cas kuv yuav ua tiav hnub no?", "Yuav ua li cas yog kauj ruam me me tom ntej ntawm qhov kev tshwm sim uas kuv yuav tsum tau ua?", "Dab tsi cuam tshuam kuv ntawm nws thiab yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob cuam tshuam?" Cov lus nug no yuav pab koj khaws koj lub hom phiaj tseem ceeb hauv siab. Thiab kev npaj cov kauj ruam me me tom ntej no yuav yog ib qho kev tiv thaiv zoo ntawm kev ncua sij hawm.
3. Siv lub sijhawm qeeb ob mus rau plaub zaug hauv ib hnub. Ntau zaus thiab muaj zog dua koj raug cuam tshuam los ntawm cov xwm txheej ntawm lub ntiaj teb sab nraud, ntau zaus koj yuav tsum hloov mus rau hom no. Peb lo lus nug thiab ob peb feeb ib zaug yuav txaus. Lub hauv paus ntsiab lus yog tias nws yuav tsum ua rau koj txaus siab. Tab sis nco ntsoov: siv cov txheej txheem tsawg dua ib zaug ib hnub tsis yog yuav tsum xyaum nws kiag li.