Txhawm rau zam txim rau kev ntxeev siab ntawm ib tus neeg hlub - qhov haujlwm no zoo li ua tsis tau rau ntau tus. Koj tuaj yeem rov qab ntseeg tau li cas tom qab tus khub hloov pauv, tus kws kho mob hais tias.
Cov koom tes feem ntau muaj cov tswv yim sib txawv txog qhov suav tias yog kev dag. Rau qee tus, kev sib deev virtual yog kev lom zem dawb huv, rau lwm tus nws yog kev ntxeev siab. Rau qee tus, saib yeeb yaj kiab porn yog qhov tshwm sim ntawm kev tsis ncaj ncees, thiab kev sau npe thiab kev sib tham ntawm qhov chaw sib tham tsis muaj kev sib tham tiag tiag tuaj yeem ua rau kev sib nrauj.
Nws yog lub sijhawm los xaus qhov tsis paub tseeb. Kuv thov ib tug universal txhais ntawm treason.
Kev dag ntxias (kev tsis ncaj ncees) yog kev puas tsuaj ntawm kev ntseeg vim yog kev txhob txwm zais ntawm lub sijhawm tseem ceeb ntawm ib tus neeg lub neej los ntawm tus khub.
NRHIAV TXOJ CAI
Kuv tau muab cov ntsiab lus zoo li no yam tsis muaj qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib deev sphere thiaj li hais tias qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev ntxeev siab yog kev poob ntawm kev ntseeg. Qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb vim tias qhov tseeb nws tus kheej yuav nco ntsoov mus ib txhis, tab sis kev ntseeg siab tuaj yeem rov qab los.
Kuv 25 xyoo ntawm kev paub txog kev kho cov teeb meem kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab kev sib deev uas cuam tshuam nrog kev tsis ncaj ncees qhia tau hais tias kev daws teeb meem pib thiab xaus nrog kev rov qab los ntawm kev ntseeg siab.
Nyob rau hauv tus txheej txheem ntawm kev txhim kho kev ntseeg siab, cov neeg koom tes yuav tsum kawm kom qhib siab thiab ncaj ncees rau txhua yam. Nws tsis yog yooj yim. Ntau tus neeg dag ntxias hauv kev kho tsuas yog ua txuj tias lawv tab tom sim hloov, tab sis qhov tseeb lawv tseem dag. Qhov kev tawm tsam no ua haujlwm, tab sis tsis ntev los sis tom qab, cov neeg koom tes rov ua txhaum lawv ntawm kev dag ntxias.
Yog tias koj muaj kev tu siab tiag tiag thiab xav cawm txoj kev sib raug zoo, koj yuav tsum sim ua kom ncaj ncees.
Kev ntseeg tsis tau rov qab los tsuas yog vim tias ib tus neeg koom tes tau tso tseg kev dag rau lwm tus. Nws tsuas tuaj yeem maj mam coj rov qab yog tias koj cog lus kom qhia qhov tseeb ib txwm, txawm tias nws yuav mob npaum li cas. Tus neeg dag ntxias tsis yog tus dag ntxias thaum nws pib qhia nws tus khub txog txhua yam: txog khoom plig rau menyuam yaus thiab mus rau lub gym, kev siv nyiaj txiag thiab txiav nyom nyom, thiab, ntawm chav kawm, txog txhua yam kev sib raug zoo, txawm tias cov uas nws xaiv. tsis nyiam.
IB TUG TXIV NTXHAIS TUAG IB TUG POJ NIAM
Kev ncaj ncees ncaj ncees yog qhov teeb meem ntawm tus cwj pwm, tsis yog kev xav thiab kev xav. Yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem tiv thaiv kev sib txuas lus nrog koj tus ex, koj yuav tsum qhia koj tus khub txog nws. Tab sis yog tias koj tsuas yog xav txog yuav ua li cas nws yuav zoo rau hu lossis ntsib koj tus ex, tab sis tsis txhob ua rau nws, koj tuaj yeem qhia tus phooj ywg lossis tus kws kho mob txog nws, tab sis tsis yog koj tus txij nkawm.
Stephen Arterburn thiab Jason Martinkus hauv Trustworthy piav txog kev ncaj ncees tiag tiag li "Kuv xav plam koj dua li dag koj." Lawv sau tias: “Yuav tsum muaj kev hloov pauv hauv koj qhov kev ncaj ncees. Qhov tseeb yuav tsum yog koj qhov tseem ceeb thib ib. » Cov kws sau ntawv sib cav hais tias ib tus neeg dag ntxias yav dhau los yuav tsum qhia qhov tseeb: "Yog tias koj tus poj niam nug koj tias nws nyiam lub ris rog, koj yuav tsum qhia nws tias koj xav li cas tiag."
ACTIVE HONESTY
Cov neeg dag yuav tsum kawm kom hais qhov tseeb. Yog tias koj tus khub xav paub txog qee yam, koj yuav tsum qhia nws sai li sai tau. Tsis tas li ntawd, koj yuav tsum tau npaj rau qhov tseeb tias nws yuav npau taws rau qhov tseeb. Tus khub yuav npau taws thiab npau taws ntau dua yog tias nws pom tias koj dag lossis tuav ib yam dab tsi.
Nag hmo cov neeg dag ntxias feem ntau yws tias, txawm tias lawv ncaj ncees, cov txij nkawm tsis ntseeg lawv. Nws yog ib qho nyuaj rau lawv to taub tias lub hlis thiab xyoo tom qab kev ntxeev siab, nws yog ib qho nyuaj rau unconditionally tso siab rau tus neeg uas dag koj.
Restoring kev ntseeg siab hauv kev sib raug zoo yuav siv sij hawm thiab siv zog. Tsuas yog kev ncaj ncees tas li tuaj yeem ua kom cov txheej txheem no. Qhia qhov tseeb, tsis yog hais txog yam uas koj tus khub twb paub lossis nws tab tom pib twv. Ua siab ncaj txog tej yam me me: "Huab Tais, kuv tsis nco qab nqa lub thoob khib nyiab tag kis no."
TRAPS RAU Cheaters
Muaj kev nyuaj ntawm txoj kev ntawm cov neeg dag ntxias yav dhau los. Txawm hais tias lawv xav ua ncaj ncees, lawv tuaj yeem poob rau hauv ib qho ntawm lawv.
- tsis ncaj ncees lawm. Yog tias tus khub xav tias lawv ntawm ib yam dab tsi, lawv yuav lees txim, tab sis tsis qhia qhov tseeb tag nrho, ntseeg tias cov ntsiab lus tuaj yeem ua rau kev sib raug zoo lossis raug mob.
- Qhov tseeb ib nrab. Hauv qhov no, qhov tseeb tau nthuav tawm hauv daim ntawv me me.
- Ua si lub luag haujlwm ntawm menyuam yaus. Tus neeg dag ntxias tos tus khub kom "rub" qhov tseeb ntawm nws. Yog nws tsis hais, nws tsis hais dab tsi.
- Kev kwv yees. Nws sim ua ncaj ncees, tab sis downplays los yog tshem tawm cov ntsiab lus txaj muag thiaj li tsis ua mob rau nws tus khub.
- suav nrog kev tiv thaiv lossis tawm tsam kev tawm tsam. Tus qub dag qhia tus khub qhov tseeb. Nws npau taws thiab npau taws. Ces tus deceiver «reverses» thiab pib excuses los yog, conversely, reacts aggressively thiab pib liam tus khub rau tag nrho cov kev txhaum.
- Cia siab tias yuav zam txim tam sim. Tus qub dag tsuas hais qhov tseeb xwb thiab thov kom tus khub zam txim rau nws. Txawm li cas los xij, lub sijhawm uas peb txhua tus yuav tsum muaj sia nyob ntawm kev ntxeev siab yog tus kheej.
Txawm hais tias koj qhov kev ncaj ncees ua tsis tiav los txhawb koj tus khub tias koj tuaj yeem ntseeg tau, kev ntsuas hnyav tseem nyob. Koj tuaj yeem nruab cov kev pabcuam taug qab hauv koj lub xov tooj: ua li no, koj tus khub tuaj yeem tsis tsuas yog nrhiav tau koj nyob qhov twg, tab sis kuj taug qab koj cov kev txav thiab kev ua si hauv Web. Muab kev nkag mus rau koj lub computer thiab bank account. Tag nrho cov pob tshab tuaj yeem rov qab ntseeg tau.
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