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Thaum koj tus menyuam nyuam qhuav rov mus kawm ntawv, tsuas yog ib lo lus nug yog "qhuav" rau koj: nws puas tau ua phooj ywg thiab hluas nkauj? Nyob rau hauv peb lub neej, raug extroverted thiab nyob ib puag ncig los ntawm cov phooj ywg yog qhov muaj nuj nqis, thaum lub sij hawm hloov, cov neeg ntawm ib tug ntau reserved los yog nyob ib leeg tsis tshua pom zoo. Raws li txoj cai, cov niam txiv feem ntau xav paub tias lawv tus menyuam yog "lub hnub qub" ntawm kev so, phooj ywg nrog txhua tus, nyiam thiab "nrov".
Hmoov zoo, los yog hmoov tsis, tsis yog txhua yam ib txwm hloov tawm zoo li no. Qee cov menyuam yaus tsis tshua muaj kev sib raug zoo dua li lwm tus, lossis txawv heev.
Cov phooj ywg thaum yau: cov lus nug ntawm tus cwj pwm
Tsis txhob tso siab rau tus menyuam los ntawm kev nug nws tas li yog tias nws tau ua phooj ywg, thiab yog li taw tes rau qhov tseeb tias nws tsis yog "ib txwm" rau nws Yog tias tsis yog, nws yog qhov zoo los xav txog tus menyuam " social style", hais txog nws tus cwj pwm. txaj muag, tseg, npau suav… Qee tus menyuam yaus nyiam ua si ntau nyob ib leeg, lossis ua khub, dua li hauv pab pawg, thiab nyiam kev sib cuam tshuam me me rau "cov nyhuv loj". Lawv yooj yim dua nrog ib lossis ob tus menyuam uas lawv paub, tsis yog tag nrho pawg. Thiab tom qab tag nrho, puas yog qhov phem?
Yog tias koj tus menyuam txaj muag, qhia nws tias nws yuav tsum ncav tes rau lwm tus yuav tsis pab, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws. Zoo dua ua si li no shyness, yog vim li cas ho tsis qhia nws tias koj ib yam nkaus thiab txaj muag (los yog lwm tus tswv cuab ntawm koj tus neeg koom tes, qhov tseem ceeb yog tias nws xav tias nws nyob ib leeg). Thiab tawm tsam cov kab lus tsis zoo, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau hauv pej xeem, txog nws kev txaj muag. Txhawb kom nws kov yeej nws, nrog rau kev nyuaj me me uas yuav tau qhuas tom qab, yog ib tug tsawg culpable thiab ntau constructive mus kom ze.
"Kuv tus me nyuam yeej tsis tau caw mus rau hnub yug ..." Cov lus qhia ntawm lub ntsws
Hauv chav kawm, cov ntawv caw hnub yug tab tom ntws… thiab koj tus menyuam yeej tsis tau txais ib qho. Thiab qhov ntawd ua rau nws nyuaj siab! Qhov xwm txheej tsis yooj yim rau nws… Angélique Kosinski-Cimelière, kws kho mob puas siab ntsws hauv Paris, muab nws cov lus qhia los daws qhov teeb meem.
> > peb sim nrhiav ntxiv, piv txwv ntawm tus xib hwb. Nws nyob li cas thaum so: peb tus menyuam puas ua si nrog lwm tus? Nws puas raug tsis lees paub? Puas muaj qee yam tshwj xeeb tshwm sim? Nws puas txaj muag? Yog tias muaj, peb tuaj yeem pab nws ua haujlwm ntawm nws tus kheej. Nws raug txhawb kom muab nws lub tswv yim. Peb qhuas nws ntawm nws txoj kev vam meej. Peb txhawb kom nws ncav tes mus rau lwm tus, txiav txim siab thiab.
>> Peb ua si. Yuav kom nws paub tseeb, peb piav rau nws tias cov niam txiv tsis tuaj yeem caw cov me nyuam ntau dhau rau hnub yug vim lawv yuav tsum tau saib xyuas thiab muaj chaw txaus tos txais lawv. Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias nws cov phooj ywg tsis nyiam nws. Ntawm no dua, peb tuaj yeem pib los ntawm peb qhov piv txwv: peb cov phooj ywg qee zaum kuj muaj noj hmo tsis muaj peb. Thiab qee zaum nws yog lwm tus phooj ywg uas tsis tau caw. Angélique Kosinski-Cimelière hais tias "Peb tseem tuaj yeem npaj ua haujlwm zoo uas nws nyiam ua hnub ntawd, xws li mus noj pancake, piv txwv li," qhia Angélique Kosinski-Cimelière. Lossis thov caw ib tug phooj ywg tim ntsej tim muag los tsim kev sib raug zoo. Tej zaum nws yuav xav caw nws rov los. Peb nrhiav lwm qhov chaw ntawm kev phooj ywg los ntawm kev ua ub no xws li judo, ua yeeb yam, kos duab zaj lus qhia… Thiab tom qab ntawd, peb nco nws tias cov phooj ywg tiag tiag feem ntau tsim thaum peb loj hlob.
Dorothée Blancheton: koj puas xav tau ntau tus thwjtim?
Yuav ua li cas pab koj tus menyuam ua phooj ywg
Nws yuav yog ib qho kev txaj muag rau tus menyuam tsis tuaj yeem tsim kev phooj ywg thaum yau, vim tias cov no muaj lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb rau nws lub neej yav tom ntej thiab tuaj yeem coj nws ntau yam.
Tsis yog yuam nws tus menyuam mus rau hnub yug yog tias nws tsis xav tau, lossis tso npe rau nws tawm tsam nws qhov kev xav tau hauv kev kawm ntxiv, peb yuav nyiam muab nws raucaw ib tug phooj ywg los yog ob tug tuaj thiab ua si tom tsev, nyob rau hauv cov av uas paub.
Peb tuaj yeem tham nrog nws, xaiv ib qho kev qhia ntxiv hauv ib pab pawg me, xws li seev cev, judo, ua yeeb yam… Cov kev sib txuas uas tsim muaj tsis zoo ib yam li hauv tsev kawm ntawv, nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw saib xyuas ntau dua.
Yog tias nws txaj muag, ua si nrog tus menyuam yaus me (piv txwv li tus neeg nyob ze, kwv tij txheeb ze lossis kwv tij txheeb ze) tuaj yeem pab nws muaj kev ntseeg siab rau cov menyuam yaus nws hnub nyoog, los ntawm kev muab nws tso rau hauv txoj haujlwm "loj".
Thaum kawg, yog tias koj tus menyuam yog "precocious", es tsis txhob tso npe rau nws hauv cov haujlwm uas nws yuav ntsib cov menyuam yaus "zoo li nws". Piv txwv li hauv ib lub club chess yog tias nws txaus siab rau qhov kev ua si no, kev tshawb fawb, kev ua haujlwm ceev ceev, thiab lwm yam.
Ib tug me nyuam kuj yuav muaj ob peb tus phooj ywg nyob rau ib ntus, vim muaj kev txav mus los, kev nyuaj siab lossis kev thab plaub hauv tsev kawm ntawv. Mloog nws txoj kev xav, thiab tsis txhob yig mus nrog nws tus kws qhia ntawv kom nrhiav kev daws teeb meem ua ke.