"Kuv yog ib tug swb", "Kuv yeej tsis muaj kev sib raug zoo li qub", "Kuv yuav poob dua". Txawm tias cov neeg ntseeg tus kheej, tsis muaj, tsis muaj, yog, thiab ntes lawv tus kheej ntawm cov kev xav zoo li no. Yuav ua li cas sai thiab muaj txiaj ntsig cam koj tus kheej cov tswv yim txog koj tus kheej? Psychotherapist Robert Leahy muab cov cuab yeej yooj yim tab sis muaj zog.
Dab tsi tuaj yeem pab koj daws cov kev ntxhov siab thiab ua tiav koj lub hom phiaj? Yuav ua li cas tshawb nrhiav tus qauv ntawm kev xav? Tag nrho cov no yog qhia los ntawm ib tug tshiab monograph los ntawm ib tug psychotherapist, tus thawj coj ntawm American Institute of Cognitive Therapy Robert Leahy. Phau ntawv "Techniques of Cognitive Psychotherapy" yog npaj rau cov kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab cov tub ntxhais kawm ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws universities thiab lawv cov tswv yim ua haujlwm nrog cov neeg siv khoom, tab sis cov kws kho mob tsis tuaj yeem siv qee yam. Piv txwv li, cov txheej txheem, uas tus sau hu ua "180 Degree Tig - Kev Pom Zoo Ntawm Qhov Tsis Zoo", tau nthuav tawm hauv kev tshaj tawm raws li kev ua haujlwm tom tsev rau tus neeg siv khoom.
Nws yog qhov nyuaj heev rau peb lees peb tus kheej qhov tsis zoo tag nrho, peb mloog zoo, "dai" ntawm peb tus kheej qhov ua yuam kev, ua qhov kev txiav txim siab loj ntawm peb tus kheej los ntawm lawv. Tab sis peb txhua tus yeej muaj qhov tsis zoo.
“Peb txhua tus muaj tus cwj pwm lossis cov yam ntxwv uas peb pom tias tsis zoo. Xws li yog tib neeg xwm txheej. Ntawm peb cov neeg paub tsis yog ib tus neeg zoo tagnrho, yog li kev siv zog rau kev ua tiav tsuas yog tsis muaj tseeb, tus kws kho mob hlwb xav tias nws txoj haujlwm. - Cia peb saib seb koj thuam koj tus kheej li cas, yam koj tsis nyiam txog koj tus kheej. Xav txog tej yam tsis zoo. Thiab tom qab ntawd xav txog seb nws yuav zoo li cas yog tias koj pom lawv raws li qhov koj muaj cai. Koj tuaj yeem kho nws zoo li ib feem ntawm koj tus kheej - tus neeg tsis zoo tag nrho uas nws lub neej muaj kev poob siab.
Kho cov txheej txheem no tsis yog riam phom ntawm kev thuam tus kheej, tab sis yog ib qho cuab yeej rau kev lees paub, kev nkag siab thiab kev nkag siab ntawm tus kheej.
Leahy mam li caw tus nyeem ntawv xav txog tias nws muaj qee qhov tsis zoo. Piv txwv li, hais tias nws yog ib tug poob, ib tug neeg sab nrauv, vwm, dab tuag. Cia peb hais tias koj xav txog tias qee zaum koj yog ib tus neeg sib tham tho txawv. Es tsis txhob sib ntaus sib tua, ua cas ho tsis txais? "Yog lawm, Kuv tuaj yeem dhuav rau lwm tus, tab sis muaj ntau yam nthuav hauv kuv lub neej."
Txhawm rau xyaum qhov no, siv lub rooj, uas tus sau hu ua qhov no: "Kuv yuav ua li cas yog tias nws muab tawm tias kuv yeej muaj qhov tsis zoo."
Hauv kab ntawv sab laug, sau qhov koj xav txog koj tus cwj pwm zoo thiab tus cwj pwm. Hauv kab nruab nrab, nco ntsoov yog tias muaj qhov tseeb hauv cov kev xav no. Hauv kab ntawv sab xis, sau cov laj thawj vim li cas qhov zoo thiab tus cwj pwm no tseem tsis yog teeb meem loj rau koj - tom qab tag nrho, koj muaj ntau yam zoo thiab tuaj yeem koom nrog ntau yam dej num.
Tej zaum koj yuav ntsib teeb meem thaum lub sij hawm txhaws. Qee tus neeg xav tias kev lees paub peb tus kheej qhov tsis zoo yog qhov ua rau muaj kev thuam tus kheej, thiab cov lus ua tiav yuav yog qhov tseeb tias peb xav txog peb tus kheej hauv txoj kev tsis zoo. Tab sis tom qab ntawd nws tsim nyog nco ntsoov tias peb tsis zoo tag nrho thiab txhua tus muaj qhov tsis zoo.
Thiab ib qho ntxiv: kho cov txheej txheem no tsis yog riam phom ntawm kev thuam tus kheej, tab sis yog ib qho cuab yeej rau kev lees paub, kev nkag siab thiab kev nkag siab ntawm tus kheej. Tom qab tag nrho, thaum peb hlub ib tug me nyuam, peb paub thiab lees txais nws cov shortcomings. Cia peb, tsawg kawg ib ntus, ua ib tug me nyuam rau peb tus kheej. Nws yog lub sijhawm los saib xyuas koj tus kheej.
Tau qhov twg los: Robert Leahy "Techniques of Cognitive Psychotherapy" (Peter, 2020).