Tom qab kev sib nrauj, peb nrhiav tau cov khub tshiab. Tej zaum lawv thiab peb twb muaj menyuam lawm. Kev so so sib koom ua ke hauv qhov xwm txheej no tuaj yeem ua haujlwm txaus ntshai. Kev daws nws, peb pheej hmoo ua yuam kev. Psychotherapist Elodie Signal piav qhia yuav ua li cas zam lawv.
Ntau npaum li cas nyob ntawm seb lub sijhawm tau dhau mus txij li tsev neeg tshiab tau tsim. Cov tsev neeg uas nyob ua ke tau ntau xyoo muaj kev txhawj xeeb tsawg dua. Thiab yog tias qhov no yog koj thawj hnub so, koj yuav tsum tau ceev faj. Tsis txhob sim siv sijhawm so tag nrho ua ke. Ua tau ib nrab sij hawm siv nrog tag nrho tsev neeg thiab ib nrab tawm mus rau txhua tus niam txiv sib txuas lus nrog nws cov menyuam. Qhov no tseem ceeb heev kom tus me nyuam tsis txhob tso tseg, vim hais tias, siv sijhawm so nrog cov neeg hauv tsev neeg tshiab, niam txiv tsis zoo li yuav muaj peev xwm muab kev saib xyuas tshwj xeeb rau nws tus menyuam.
Txhua tus ua si!
Xaiv cov kev ua ub no uas txhua tus tuaj yeem koom tau. Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias koj pib ua si ntawm paintball, cov hluas tsuas yog yuav tsum tau saib, thiab lawv yuav dhuav. Thiab yog tias koj mus rau Legoland, ces cov txwj laus yuav pib yawn. Kuj tseem muaj kev pheej hmoo tias ib tus neeg yuav nyob hauv qhov nyiam. Xaiv cov haujlwm uas haum rau txhua tus: caij nees, pas dej da, hiking, chav ua noj…
Tsev neeg kab lig kev cai yuav tsum hwm. Cov neeg txawj ntse tsis xav kom cov menyuam skate. Cov neeg ncaws pob tau dhuav hauv tsev cia puav pheej. Sim nrhiav kev sib haum xeeb los ntawm kev tawm tswv yim lub tsheb kauj vab uas tsis xav tau kev ua kis las ntau. Yog hais tias txhua tus me nyuam muaj lawv tus kheej nyiam, cov niam txiv tuaj yeem sib cais. Nyob rau hauv ib tsev neeg nyuaj, ib tug yuav tsum muaj peev xwm sib tham, nrog rau tham txog qhov peb tau ploj lawm. Lwm yam uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov: cov tub ntxhais hluas feem ntau ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab, thiab qhov no tsis yog nyob ntawm qhov muaj pes tsawg leeg ntawm tsev neeg.
Txoj cai ntawm kev ntseeg
Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob teem lub hom phiaj kom zoo li tsev neeg zoo. Hnub so yog thawj zaug uas peb nyob ua ke 24 teev hauv ib hnub. Li no qhov kev pheej hmoo ntawm satiety thiab txawm tias tsis lees paub. Muab sijhawm rau koj tus menyuam nyob ib leeg lossis ua si nrog cov phooj ywg. Tsis txhob yuam nws nrog koj nyob ntawm tus nqi.
Muab sijhawm rau koj tus menyuam nyob ib leeg lossis ua si nrog cov phooj ywg
Peb pib los ntawm kev xav tias ib tsev neeg nyuaj yog leej txiv, leej niam, leej niam thiab leej txiv thiab kwv tij thiab muam. Tab sis nws yog ib qho tsim nyog kom tus me nyuam sib txuas lus nrog niam txiv, uas tsis nrog nws tam sim no. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws, lawv yuav tsum tham hauv xov tooj ob zaug hauv ib lub lis piam. Cov tsev neeg tshiab suav nrog cov poj niam yav dhau los thiab.
Kev tsis pom zoo raug muab tso tseg thaum so. Txhua yam softens, cov niam txiv so thiab tso cai ntau. Lawv nyob ntau dua, thiab cov menyuam yaus muaj kev tsis zoo. Kuv ib zaug tau pom tias cov me nyuam tsis nyiam lawv niam thiab txiv tsis kam nyob hauv nws lub tuam txhab. Tab sis tom qab ntawd lawv tau siv peb lub lis piam so nrog nws. Tsuas yog tsis txhob cia siab tias tus khub tshiab yuav yeej qhov kev ntseeg siab ntawm cov menyuam yaus. Txoj haujlwm ua niam txiv tshiab yuav tsum ceev faj thiab yoog raws. Kev sib tsoo muaj peev xwm ua tau, tab sis feem ntau, kev loj hlob ntawm kev sib raug zoo nyob ntawm tus neeg laus.
Koj tuaj yeem khwv tau kev ntseeg siab nrog tus menyuam tsuas yog los ntawm kev ntseeg siab..
Yog hais tias tus me nyuam hais tias, "Koj tsis yog kuv txiv" lossis "Koj tsis yog kuv niam," teb rau cov lus hais lossis kev thov, nco ntsoov nws tias qhov no twb paub lawm, thiab qhov no tsis yog kev cai.
Cov kwv tij tshiab
Feem ntau, cov menyuam yaus nyiam cov kwv tij tshiab, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias lawv nyob ib puag ncig tib lub hnub nyoog. Qhov no tso cai rau lawv sib koom ua ke rau puam thiab pas dej ua si lom zem. Tab sis nws nyuaj dua los ua ke cov me nyuam me thiab cov hluas. Nws yog qhov zoo thaum muaj cov laus uas nyiam kev sib tham nrog cov hluas. Tab sis qhov no tsis txhais hais tias lawv npau suav txog nws. Lawv tsis xav muab lawv tus kheej ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog lawv cov phooj ywg. Nws yog qhov zoo dua rau cov me nyuam yaus kom saib xyuas lawv cov kwv tij.