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Tshawb nrhiav lub ntiaj teb kiv taub hau ntawm Instagram, Likee lossis TikTok, peb cov menyuam muaj hnub nyoog 9 txog 10 xyoo tsis muaj lub tswv yim dab tsi hauv kev sib tham tab tom npaj rau lawv tus kheej tsis ruaj khov. Lub mildest ntawm lawv yog khiav mus rau hauv kev tawm tswv yim tawm tsam. Tab sis qhov txaus ntshai ntawm cov neeg ntxub tsis yog qhov laj thawj tsis kam lees kev sib txuas lus. Cov kws tshaj lij kev sib txuas lus - tus neeg sau xov xwm Nina Zvereva thiab tus kws sau ntawv Svetlana Ikonnikova - hauv phau ntawv "Star of Social Networks" qhia yuav ua li cas teb cov lus pom tsis zoo. Tshaj tawm ib qho snippet.
“Yog li koj tau tshaj tawm koj cov ntawv tshaj tawm. Tso video. Tam sim no txhua leej txhua tus pom nws - nrog koj tus avatar, nrog emoticons (lossis tsis muaj lawv), nrog cov duab lossis duab ... Thiab tau kawg, txhua peb feeb koj saib hauv social network saib seb puas muaj kev cuam tshuam? Zoo li? Ib nqe lus? Thiab koj pom - yog, muaj!
Thiab ntawm qhov no, koj txoj haujlwm blogging yuav vau. Vim hais tias txawm tias tus neeg uas paub yuav ua li cas ua yeeb yaj kiab txias thiab sau cov lus zoo yuav tsis dhau los ua tus blogger sab saum toj yog tias nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas teb cov lus pom zoo. Thiab nws yuav tsum ua li cas?
Yuav ua li cas yog tias cov lus tsis qhuas koj?
ua kev zam txim? Los yog nyob twj ywm? Tsis muaj leej twg paub cov lus teb raug. Vim nws tsis muaj. Thiab muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb rau ib puas lus. Dab tsi tseem tshuav? Txais lwm tus xav.
Ib zaug Voltaire hais tias: "Kuv tsis pom zoo nrog koj ib lo lus, tab sis kuv npaj siab tuag rau koj txoj cai hais li koj xav." Qhov no yog kev ywj pheej, los ntawm txoj kev. Yog li ntawd, yog hais tias nyob rau hauv cov lus ib tug neeg qhia ib lub tswv yim uas koj tsis qhia txhua, qhia nws txog nws, sib cav nrog nws, muab koj cov lus sib cav. Tab sis tsis txhob ua phem. Nws muaj cai xav li ntawd. Koj txawv. Txhua yam txawv.
Thiab yog nws sau tej yam tsis zoo txog kuv thiab kuv cov phooj ywg?
Tab sis ntawm no peb twb ua hauj lwm ntawm ib tug txawv txoj cai. Tab sis ua ntej, cia peb ua kom paub tseeb tias qhov no yog qhov phem tiag tiag, thiab tsis yog lwm qhov kev xav. Muaj ib zaug muaj ib tug blogger Dasha. Thiab ib zaug nws tau sau ib tsab ntawv: “Kuv nkees npaum li cas ntawm cov lej no! Tus Tswv, kuv coj tsis tau lawm. Tsis yog, Kuv npaj txhij los ua logarithms thiab taug kev los ntawm cov neeg ntxub ntxaug. Tab sis tsawg kawg kuv yuav tsum to taub yog vim li cas. Kuv yog humanitarian. Kuv yuav tsis xav tau qhov sib npaug cubic hauv kuv lub neej. Vim li cas?! Zoo, vim li cas kuv thiaj siv sijhawm ntau thiab ntxhov siab rau lawv? Vim li cas kuv tsis tuaj yeem kawm oratory, psychology lossis keeb kwm nyob rau lub sijhawm no - qhov kuv nyiam tiag tiag? Yuav ua li cas yuav tsum tau tshwm sim rau algebra thiab geometry yuav tsum tau xaiv nyob rau hauv high school?
Cov lus tsis pom zoo heev los nag rau Dasha. Nyeem tsib ntawm lawv thiab hais tias: qhov twg ntawm lawv, ntawm koj lub tswv yim, sau rau hauv cov ntsiab lus, thiab qhov twg yog kev thuam?
- "Yog lawm, koj tsuas yog tsis tuaj yeem tau txais dab tsi siab dua "triple" hauv algebra, yog li koj npau taws heev!"
- "Auj, nws pom tseeb tam sim ntawd - ib tug daj ntseg! Koj zoo dua tso koj cov duab, tsawg kawg lawv muaj qee yam saib!
- “Qhov ntawd yog bullshit! Koj nyob li cas tsis muaj lej?
- "Lwm tus neeg raug tsim txom ntawm qhov kev xeem!"
- “Kuv tsis pom zoo! Kev ua lej tsim kev xav, thiab tsis muaj nws, ib tug neeg yuav luag zoo li amphibian, ntawm tib txoj kev xav.
Yog lawm, insults yog thawj, thib ob thiab plaub cov lus.
Nyob rau hauv lawv, cov sau phau ntawv tsis sib cav nrog lub tswv yim qhia los ntawm Dasha, tab sis soj ntsuam Dasha cov kev txawj ntse theem. Thiab lawv tseem ceeb heev. Thiab ntawm no yog peb cov lus pom… Vim li cas koj xav tias nws tseem tsis tuaj yeem raug ntaus nqi rau kev thuam (txawm tias kuv xav tau tiag tiag)? Vim hais tias tus sau ntawm cov lus no tsis ntsuas Dasha, tab sis qhov kev xav qhia los ntawm nws. Tau kawg, nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas thiaj li qhia nws qhov kev ntsuam xyuas, tab sis tsawg kawg nws tsis sau tias Dasha yog neeg ruam.
Nco ntsoov tias qhov no yog qhov sib txawv loj. Qhia rau tus neeg tias nws yog neeg ruam, lossis hais tias nws lub tswv yim yog ruam. Kev ruam yog kev thuam. Lub tswv yim ruam...zoo, peb txhua tus hais lus ruam dhau sijhawm. Txawm hais tias nws yog qhov tseeb dua los teb zoo li no: "Lub tswv yim no zoo li ruam rau kuv." Thiab piav qhia vim li cas. Qhov tseeb, qhov no yog raws nraim li tus sau ntawm tsib lub tswv yim sim ua: nws tau hais tsis pom zoo nrog lub tswv yim (nco ntsoov tias nws tsis ntsuas Dasha nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev) thiab sib cav nws txoj hauj lwm.
Tau kawg, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj rau kev sib cav nrog cov neeg uas paub yuav ua li cas tsis ua mob rau koj tus cwj pwm. Tej zaum koj yuav poob qhov kev sib cav no. Tab sis nws yuav tsuas yog kev tsis sib haum xeeb, tsis yog thuam ya rov qab thiab tawm mus. Tab sis cov lus uas muaj kev npau taws los yog kev thuam ntawm koj thiab koj tsev neeg tuaj yeem raug muab tshem tawm kom nyab xeeb. Koj muaj txhua txoj cai tsis txhob tig koj nplooj ntawv mus rau hauv khib nyiab. Thiab ntawm chav kawm, tshem nws ntawm kev hais lus av.
Lawv txawm tuaj qhov twg los, cov neeg ntxub?
Lo lus "kev ntxub ntxaug" tsis tas yuav piav qhia, puas yog? Peb vam tias cov neeg no tsis tuaj rau koj nplooj ntawv, tab sis npaj siab: koj tuaj yeem ntsib tus neeg ntxub ntxaug ntawm kev sib raug zoo. Tau kawg, cov hnub qub tau txais ntau tshaj plaws los ntawm lawv. Koj qhib ib daim duab ntawm lub hnub qub ntawm Instagram thiab koj yuav pom tseeb hauv cov lus xws li: "Yog lawm, xyoo twb pom lawm ..." los yog "Vajtswv, koj hnav li cas hnav khaub ncaws li no rog rog!" Nco ntsoov tias peb sau ua tib zoo - "rog rog." Haters tsis txaj muag txog lawv cov lus qhia. Cov neeg no yog leej twg? Muaj ob peb txoj kev xaiv.
- Cov neeg ntxub yog cov neeg ua lawv txoj haujlwm. Piv txwv li, lub tuam txhab Romashka tau them tshwj xeeb ntiav cov neeg ntxub ntxaug los sau txhua yam kev phem hauv cov lus ntawm cov lus ntawm lub tuam txhab Vasilek. Thiab lawv sau passionately. Raws li qhov tshwm sim, tib neeg tsis txhob yuav pob kws los ntawm lub tuam txhab Vasilek thiab pib yuav chamomile los ntawm lub tuam txhab Romashka. txhais tau tias? Muaj tseeb tiag. Tsis txhob ua li ntawd.
- Cov no yog cov neeg uas lees paub lawv tus kheej ntawm cov nqi ntawm cov hnub qub. Zoo, thaum nyob rau hauv lub neej tiag tiag, lub ntsiag to poob Vasya yuav ntsib nrog Miss Ntiaj Teb?! Tsis txhob. Tab sis nws yuav tuaj rau ntawm nws nplooj ntawv hauv social network thiab sau: "Zoo, mug! Thiab qhov no tau hu ua kev zoo nkauj? Pfft, peb muaj npua thiab zoo nkauj dua! Vasya txoj kev hwm tus kheej skyrocketed. Tab sis yuav ua li cas - nws qhia nws "fi" rau kev zoo nkauj!
- Cov no yog cov neeg nyiam pom lwm tus raug kev txom nyem los ntawm lawv cov lus. Cov neeg no yuav tsis tawm tswv yim txog Miss World posts. Lawv yuav pib thuam cov uas lawv paub lawv tus kheej hauv kev sib raug zoo: cov tub ntxhais kawm ntawm lawv tus kheej lub tsev kawm ntawv, "cov npoj yaig" hauv ntu kis las, cov neeg nyob ze ... Lawv nyiam hnov lawv lub hwj chim tshaj qhov kev xav ntawm lwm tus. Nws tau sau ib yam dab tsi phem – thiab koj pom li cas ib tug neeg blushes, tig daj ntseg, tsis paub yuav ua li cas los teb… Thiab txhua leej txhua tus muaj caij nyoog los mus rau hauv ib tug ntxub tus qauv No. 3. Koj tuaj yeem rho tawm nws cov lus tawm tsam. Thiab koj tuaj yeem, yog tias koj hnov lub zog hauv koj tus kheej, tawm tsam rov qab.
Yuav ua li cas rov qab ib tug ntxub?
Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws ntawm no yog tsis teb raws li qhov kev ntxub ntxaug qhia. Nws xav li cas los ntawm koj? Resentment, reciprocal insults, excuses. Thiab ib qho ntawm koj cov lus teb hauv hom ntawv no yuav txhais tau tias koj ua raws li cov neeg ntxub ntxaug, lees txais cov cai tswj hwm los ntawm lawv. Tawm ntawm lub dav hlau no! Qhia rau tus neeg ntxub nws ua dab tsi, ua kev lom zem ntawm qhov xwm txheej, lossis… pom zoo nrog nws.
Thaum tus ntxhais Ira sau ntawv hauv ib qho lus: "Zoo, qhov twg koj tau nkag mus rau hauv lub nroog loj li no?" "Zoo, koj tab tom ntxub kuv tam sim no, thiab tsis hais lus rau lub ntsiab lus," Ira teb rau tus neeg hais lus. "Cia peb mus rau kev lag luam lossis kuv yuav tshem koj cov lus." Tsis ua txhaum. Tsis muaj insults nyob rau hauv rov qab. Ira txheeb xyuas cov neeg ntxub cov lus thiab ceeb toom tias nws yuav ua li cas yog tias qhov no tshwm sim dua.
Thiab ob peb lub hlis tom qab, rau cov lus hais: "Yog lawm, koj feem ntau nruab nrab!" - nws sau tias: "Zoo, txhua yam, txhua yam, kuv yeej tus ntxhais! kuv tso tseg! - thiab muab emoticons. Ira tsis txawm xav nkag mus rau hauv kev sib cav. Nws tso dag nyob rau hauv dhau thiab yog li khob qhov av tawm ntawm hauv qab ko taw ntawm cov neeg ntxub. Thiab rau zaum thib peb, rau tib tus neeg ntxub (tus txiv leej tub tau ua kom tawv ncauj), nws tau sau rau cov lus tawm tsam txog nws txoj kev txawj ntse: "Yog, yog lawm. Txoj cai rau lub ntsiab lus. "
"Yog, koj tsis tuaj yeem sib cav!" - tus neeg ntxub tau teb nrog kev chim siab thiab tsis tawm ib qho lus ntawm Ira nplooj ntawv ntxiv lawm. Cia li ntsiag to nyiam nws cov duab. Los ntawm txoj kev, zaj dab neeg tau txuas ntxiv. Thaum Ira pib troll lwm tus neeg. (Ira yog ib tug ntxhais witty, yog li nws qhov blog tau txais koob meej sai sai. Thiab qhov twg muaj koob meej, muaj cov neeg ntxub.)
Yog li ntawd, tus thawj heev neeg ntxub tuaj tiv thaiv ntawm tus ntxhais nrog nws lub hauv siab. Nws tawm tsam txhua qhov kev tawm tsam ntawm tus neeg txawv teb chaws troll. Ira nyeem tag nrho cov no thiab luag nyav.
Nina Zvereva thiab Svetlana Ikonnikova tham txog lwm txoj cai ntawm kev sib txuas lus hauv kev tes hauj lwm, hais txog kev kos duab ntawm kev nthuav qhia cov dab neeg nthuav dav thiab nrhiav cov neeg nyiam hauv phau ntawv "Star of Social Networks. Yuav ua li cas los ua tus blogger txias” (Clever-Media-Group, 2020).