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Hluas: txwv hnub nyoog, yuav ua dab tsi
The mother of a 16-year-old teenager wrote a column for healthy-food-near-me.com. She is sure: this horror story about a difficult period of growing up was invented by adults to justify the misunderstanding between themselves and the child.
Ua ntej koj pib pov pob zeb rau kuv, cia kuv qhia kuv tus kheej. Kuv lub npe yog Natalya, thiab kuv - tsis yog, tsis yog cawv. Kuv yog niam hluas. Kuv zoo nkauj Alexandra muaj 16 xyoo.
Lub hnub nyoog zoo heev, puas yog? Romance, kev vam meej, hluas - txhua yam uas peb tau ncaim yav dhau los yog feem ntau npog nrog ib tug romantic flair. Tab sis cov niam txiv uas tseem me nyuam yaus xav nrog ntshai heev tias lawv cov me nyuam yuav muaj ib hnub ua cov hluas.
"Cov no yog kev ua tsov rog hormonal, whims, kev tawm tsam - saib seb cov hluas niaj hnub coj li cas. Yuav ua li cas kom tau ib tug tattoo? Los yog lub qhov hauv pob ntseg? Los yog tej zaum nws yuav pib haus luam yeeb, haus dej haus cawv, kev sib deev thaum ntxov, rho menyuam ..." Muaj ntau ntau yam uas yuav dag koj tus kheej. Tab sis nws puas tsim nyog?
Tag nrho cov kev tawm tsam thiab kev tawm tsam no uas cov niam txiv niaj hnub ntshai heev (thiab peb li thiab koj tau ntshai ib yam), lawv tsuas yog xav ua kom pom lawv cov neeg laus xwb. Nco ntsoov koj tus kheej - tom qab tag nrho, peb, ib yam nkaus, ib zaug pom rau peb tus kheej ob qho tib si kev phem thiab kev xyiv fab ntawm lub cev. Tab sis tag nrho cov kev sim no tsis ua rau muaj cua daj cua dub ntawm kev mob siab rau, puas yog?
Thiab peb tau ua pov thawj rau leej twg peb txoj kev ntxhab thiab kev laus? Cov neeg sib tw - yog. Tab sis kuv ntseeg hais tias lawv tau ua pov thawj ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov vim hais tias cov niam txiv, uas mus txog rau thaum nyuam qhuav yog mlom rau peb thiab, feem ntau, txhua yam, txhua yam, txhua yam, peb cov hluas, tsis xav txog lawv tus kheej sib npaug. Tab sis nyob rau hauv vain. Tau kawg, cov tub ntxhais hluas tsis muaj kev paub dhau los. Ntawm chav kawm, lawv cov kev txiav txim yog overly romantic thiab categorical. Tab sis kev txawj ntse ntawm lub hnub nyoog no twb tau txhim kho zoo, thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem sib cav nrog qhov ntawd. Thiab yog tias koj tau tswj hwm tus menyuam lub peev xwm los txiav txim siab ntawm nws tus kheej, ces nws yuav yog lub sijhawm kom tsis txhob ua rau nws zoo li tus menyuam tsis tsim nyog.
Nyuaj? Tsis yog, nws tsis nyuaj.
Los ntawm txoj kev, thiab lees paub tus kheej hauv lub voj voog ntawm cov phooj ywg tam sim no tau txais tsis yog los ntawm kev sim nrog cov tsos thiab cov hluas haus cawv (txawm tias lawv dhau lawm), tab sis los ntawm lub hlwb. Botanists yog tag nrho cov npau taws niaj hnub no.
Los ntawm kev xav mus rau kev paub. Rau qee yam, kuv tsis ntshai lub hnub nyoog hloov pauv. Txawm hais tias nws tus kheej tseem yog tam sim no - discos, cov tub hluas, kuv sim haus luam yeeb hauv qib 9, txiav tawm tsuas yog 10 xyoo dhau los. Hauv qab ntawm kuv tus ntxhais, los ntawm txoj kev, uas ua tsaug ntau rau nws.
"Ugh, dab tsi tsis hnov tsw," kuv tus poj niam muaj rau xyoo ib zaug twisted nws lub qhov ntswg. Thiab yog tag nrho. Yuav txiav li cas.
Tab sis Sasha - txhua yam zoo nrog nws. Koj puas nkag siab? Nws kawm, mus rau hauv kev ua kis las, xav sau software rau Android. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, nws tsis ua rau muaj kev chim siab ntawm cov tub hluas. Tus ntxhais zoo nkauj (Kuv yuav sau tsis muaj kev coj ncaj ncees). Ntau tus phooj ywg, suav nrog hauv peb tsev.
Cov tub ntxhais hluas sim nrog cov tsos? Zoo, tsis muaj nws. Sasha muaj tsib qhov nyob rau hauv nws pob ntseg, thiab nws cov plaub hau yog periodically dyed vwm xim. Tab sis kuv lees txim kuv tsis pom dab tsi tsis ncaj ncees lawm nrog qhov ntawd. Nws ua qhov tho nrog nws tus kheej thawj zaug khwv tau nyiaj. Kuv tau pab nws zas nws cov plaub hau - txawm tias nws zoo dua nrog cov tshuaj zawv plaub hau zoo dua li ntawm lub tshuab plaub hau rau ib nrab ntawm nws lub neej. Thiab kuv tus kheej muaj plaub pob ntseg hauv kuv pob ntseg ... Tsis txhob hais txog ob peb tattoos uas ua rau kuv niam clutch ntawm nws lub siab.
Lub caij no, kuv yog tus niam uas nyiam tshaj plaws ntawm cov kwj deg. Sasha cov phooj ywg zoo li kuv hauv Facebook, thiab kuv tham nrog lawv hauv cov lus.
Ib daim duab los ntawm kev nthuav qhia, thiab tsis muaj dab tsi ntxiv. Koj puas tau pom tias tsis muaj txiv nyob hauv nws? Nws yeej tsis nyob hauv peb lub neej. Peb sib nrauj 12 xyoos dhau los, nws muaj tsev neeg sib txawv, nws tsis tshua nco txog nws tus ntxhais hlob, hais ncaj ncaj. Tej zaum ua tsaug rau qhov no, ib yam nkaus, Alexandra thiab kuv tau los ua phooj ywg zoo tshaj.
Ntawm no nws yog, tus yuam sij. Peb tsis yog niam thiab txiv xwb. Peb yog phooj ywg. Tau kawg, kuv tuaj yeem hais lus thuam thiab thuam. Thiab thov txim thiab. Rau ib lub sij hawm ntev heev kuv tau siv los perceiving kuv tus ntxhais raws li ib tug neeg ywj pheej, thiab tsis yog ib yam ntawm kuv appendage. Yog li ntawd, ntau zaus peb tsuas pom zoo. Thiab feem ntau - peb tham. Peb tab tom tham txog peb cov hluas nraug (yog, kuv muaj lawv, thiab Sasha paub txog lawv). Nws cov phooj ywg thiab cov phooj ywg. Peb txawm hais lus thuam cov xib hwb. Peb mus ua ke haus kas fes lossis caij tsheb kauj vab - koj tsuas tuaj yeem xav txog lub tuam txhab zoo dua. Zoo, thiab tsis quav ntsej cov kev xav ntawm tus phooj ywg, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum nws los txog rau lub hauv paus ntsiab lus rau nws - koj puas ua li ntawd? Kuv tsis.
Thiab nws kuj paub tseeb tias: Kuv ib txwm nyob ntawm nws sab. Thiab txawm tias Sasha tua thiab noj ib tug neeg, kuv yuav ntseeg siab tias nws tsis muaj lwm txoj kev xaiv. Thiab kuv ntseeg ruaj khov tias nws yuav teb kuv nrog kev txhawb nqa tib yam nkaus.
Ntawm no, tej zaum, nws yog tsim nyog ua ib tug reservation. kuv muaj 35 xyoo. Kuv yug tau kuv tus ntxhais ntxov, thaum 19. Tej zaum yog vim li cas nws yooj yim dua rau kuv nrhiav lus nrog nws. Tom qab tag nrho, kuv tseem nco ntsoov cov kev xav uas nplawm kuv txoj kev xav mus rau hauv cov tsiaj qus soufflé ntawm ntau txhiab cov khoom xyaw. Puas yog qhov no txhais tau hais tias kev hloov pauv lub hnub nyoog tsis yog kev kub ntxhov ntawm menyuam yaus, tab sis koj tus kheej, uas tau loj hlob tawm ntawm ib tiam neeg sib txawv? Nws tsis raug cais tawm. Nws tsis yog qhov teeb meem nws tus kheej, tab sis koj pom nws li cas.
Cov niam txiv feem ntau pom tus menyuam ua ib qhov project. Thiab lawv tsim qhov project no los ntawm txhua txoj kev, nrog dab ntxwg nyoog tenacity. Thiab tus cwj pwm ntawm tus me nyuam nws tus kheej poob ntawm cov txheej txheem. Tej zaum nws tseem tsis muaj hnub nyoog. Thiab ntau npaum li cas koj npaj yuav qhia rau koj tus menyuam: “Koj yog ib tug neeg laus. Kuv hlub koj thiab kuv ntseeg koj. “Thiab ntseeg nws tiag tiag.
Kev sib tham
Ua phooj ywg lossis tus cob qhia: koj xaiv txoj kev twg?
Rau ib tug me nyuam, cov niam txiv yuav tsum yog ib txoj cai tsis muaj lus nug
Alas, feem ntau yuav tsum tau siv nplawm kom yooj yim rau tus menyuam tom qab lub neej. Tus me nyuam yuav txaus siab rau nws thaum nws loj hlob tuaj
Kuv nyiam qhov kev zoo siab ntawm tus me nyuam rau kev qhuab qhia, peb nyob ntawm qhov sib npaug
Kuv yuav sau kuv tus kheej version hauv cov lus