Loj loj: yuav ua li cas kawm kom tsis txhob boil rau ib qho laj thawj

Kev ntxhov siab, khaus, npau taws, npau taws, ntshai - thaum cov kev xav no tawm mus, peb tuaj yeem pib qw thiab lashing tawm ntawm cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig peb. Peb ntsib kev ntxhov siab ntau dhau, thiab cov txheeb ze poob rau hauv tes kub.

Nws tshwm sim txawv: peb tuav cov kev xav thiab zoo li "boil" los ntawm sab hauv. Tau kawg, lwm tus nyiam peb tus cwj pwm ntau dua, tab sis rau peb, tus nqi tuav tus cwj pwm yog siab dhau. Boiling feem ntau yog nrog los ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws: qhov muag tsaus nrog kev npau taws, ob txhais ceg mus loog, indignation indignation transforms mus rau hauv ib tug mob caj pas, unexpressed npau taws rau ib tug mob taub hau, thiab repressed ntxhov siab vim thiab ntshai provoke jamming los yog lwm yam kev noj haus tsis zoo.

Kev xav li cas "npau taws" tshwm sim?

1. Kev sib cuag ua ntej

Koj puas yuav khaus khaus, npau taws thiab tawg ntau zaus? Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab tias yam dab tsi provoke tus mob no, los kawm txog cov xwm txheej thiab ua rau lub boiling. Piv txwv li, nws muaj peev xwm ua rau muaj kev tsis ncaj ncees thaum ib tug neeg ua phem rau ntawm koj ob lub qhov muag. Lossis - xav tsis thoob thiab npau taws vim tias koj tau raug dag tsis ncaj ncees: piv txwv li, lawv txiav lub Xyoo Tshiab, uas koj twb tau npaj lawm. Lossis - ua txhaum ntawm ciam teb, thaum tag nrho koj cov txheeb ze xav tuaj rau koj rau hnub so, uas koj yuav tau ntxuav tag nrho cov hnub so.

Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum kawm txhua qhov xwm txheej uas ua ntej qhov tshwm sim ntawm kev xav tsis zoo, thiab yog tias ua tau kom zam dhau lawv. Tham nrog cov txheeb ze txog cov xwm txheej ntawm lub rooj sib tham uas yooj yim rau koj, thiab yog tias qhov no ua tsis tau, nce qhov kev ncua deb. Nrhiav kom paub ua ntej nyob rau hauv lub accounting department txog tus nqi nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav zam tau ib tug unpleasant surprise.

Koj tuaj yeem hloov pauv txhua lub sijhawm, yog tias tsis yog qhov xwm txheej, ces koj tus cwj pwm ntawm nws, kos cov ciam teb, hais meej meej tias qhov tsis haum koj, thiab muab lwm txoj kev daws teeb meem.

2. Rhaub hau

Nyob rau theem no, peb twb tau koom nrog qhov xwm txheej thiab ua rau nws tshwm sim. Qee lub sij hawm peb txhob txwm tshaj tawm kom muaj peev xwm tswj tau peb. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau kawm kom paub pom tej yam qias neeg no. Nug koj tus kheej vim li cas koj tus khub xav kom koj npau npau. Nws qhov txiaj ntsig yog dab tsi? Yog li, thaum kev sib tham ua lag luam, qee zaum kev tsis sib haum xeeb yog txhob txwm tshaj tawm kom tus interlocutor muab cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb ntawm kev xav, thiab tom qab ntawd ua kev pom zoo kom txuag lub ntsej muag.

Hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus kheej, nws tshwm sim tias tus khub tshwj xeeb yuam peb ua si nws qhov kev ua si. Piv txwv li, ib tug txiv neej provokes ib tug ntxhais los kua muag. Nws pib quaj, thiab nws hais tias: "Koj zoo ib yam, koj zoo ib yam li lwm tus, kuv paub nws." Tus ntxhais tau koom nrog hauv qhov kev ua si, pib cog lus hauv kev hlub, ua pov thawj tias nws tsis yog "tsis zoo li ntawd", thaum lub kua muag tseem "tom qab lub scenes".

Paub txog dab tsi yog qhov txiaj ntsig ntawm tus interlocutor, sim ua kom qeeb. Nug koj tus kheej tias dab tsi yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los ua kom ua raws li koj nyiam.

3. Kev tawg

Lub sijhawm no, peb tsis tuaj yeem ua lwm yam tab sis tawm ntawm qhov xwm txheej tag nrho. Thaum muaj kev cuam tshuam thiab tawg, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom paub tias leej twg nyob ib sab ntawm peb.

Hmoov tsis zoo, peb feem ntau ua siab ntev thiab tsis qhia kev xav rau cov neeg uas lawv tau hais txog, xws li tus thawj coj lossis tus khub lag luam. Peb coj cov kev xav no los tsev thiab nchuav rau cov neeg hlub, rau cov neeg hlub peb, thiab qee zaum txawm tias qaug zog thiab tsis tuaj yeem teb. Yog li, cov niam txiv qw rau lawv cov menyuam yog tias nws yog hnub phem tom haujlwm, thaum lawv tus kheej tiv thaiv kev ua phem los ntawm cov txiv uas tsis lees paub los ntawm lawv tus thawj coj.

Yog tias koj xav tias koj tab tom yuav tawg, nrhiav tus neeg sib tw tsim nyog, ib tus neeg tuaj yeem tiv taus koj qhov kev cuam tshuam.

Piv txwv li, tus neeg laus thib ob. Tsis tas li, tsawg kawg sim nkag siab qhov koj xav tau. Tshem tawm tsuas yog txhawm rau txo kev ntxhov siab? Tom qab ntawd nrhiav lwm txoj hauv kev tawm - piv txwv li, mus rau lub gym. Yuav ua li cas koj tawm ntawm qhov xwm txheej yog nyob ntawm koj lub peev xwm nkag siab koj tus kheej thiab tswj kev xav.

4. Kev poob siab ntawm kev xav

Kev npau taws thiab kev chim siab yog hloov los ntawm kev txaj muag thiab kev txhaum. Ua tib zoo nrog lawv. Tau kawg, cov neeg tswj hwm tus cwj pwm no pab peb nkag siab txog kev sib txuas lus zoo dua nrog tib neeg. Tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tsis txhob poob qhov laj thawj ntawm kev npau taws, vim nws yog tus yuam sij rau kev hloov. Kev txaj muag thiab kev ua txhaum tsis pom qhov ua rau, peb txaj muag los tham txog dab tsi coj mus rau qhov tawg, thiab peb tsom mus rau kev tshem tawm nws qhov tshwm sim. Qhov no yuav pab kom nyob twj ywm hauv kev sib raug zoo, tab sis koj yuav tsum txheeb xyuas qhov ua ntej qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb thiab dab tsi tuaj yeem ua tau tom ntej kom tsis txhob npau taws.

Yog hais tias tsis muaj kev ceev faj, lub boiling theem yuav inevitably ua raws li kev tawg. Yog li ntawd, ua tib zoo mloog koj tus kheej thiab kawm los tswj qhov xwm txheej, coj mus rau hauv tus account lub peculiarities ntawm koj lub siab lub ntsws.