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Qee lub sij hawm hauv kev sib raug zoo nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom hais ib lo lus raws sij hawm, qee zaum kev ntsiag to yog kub. Tab sis tseem muaj cov kev xav uas tsis hais uas tshwm sim hauv peb lub siab ntau dua. Thiab ntawm no lawv muaj peev xwm imperceptibly undermine kev sib raug zoo. Dab tsi yog qhov zoo dua tsis xav txog thaum sib deev?
1. "Ua li cas rau peb?"
Los sis txawm zoo li no — "Yuav ua li cas tshwm sim rau peb txoj kev hlub?"
Muaj qee zaus koj tham tsis tau txaus thiab tsis faib koj ob txhais tes. Yuav ua li cas rov qab lawv? Tsis muaj txoj kev. Qhov tshiab thiab kev txaus siab hauv kev sib raug zoo, uas yog thaum pib, nrog rau txhua hnub tshiab yuav raug hloov los ntawm kev xav tshiab. Yuav muaj kev sib tw tshiab thiab kev xyiv fab tshiab.
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom txaus siab rau yav dhau los thiab nkag siab tias tsis muaj leej twg yuav rov qab los. Psychotherapist, tus kws kho mob tshwj xeeb hauv kev sib nrauj Abby Rodman qhia - saib yav dhau los los ntawm txoj kev xav: nrog luag nyav, tab sis tsis nrog kua muag.
Tsuas yog lees tias tsis muaj kev tu siab hauv kab lus "Peb txoj kev hlub tsis yog qhov nws yog thaum pib." Nws yog qhov tseeb—koj txoj kev hlub loj hlob thiab hloov nrog koj.
Abby Rodman hais tias: “Qee zaum kuv saib rov qab thiab tom qab ntawd kuv hais rau kuv tus txij nkawm: “Koj puas nco qab koj thiab kuv tau ua li cas? .. ”
Nws luag ntxhi thiab hais tias, “Yog. Ua tau zoo heev.» Tab sis nws yeej tsis qhia kuv tias, "Vim li cas peb tsis ua qhov no ntxiv lawm?" Lossis: “… Tau kawg, kuv nco qab. Ua li cas rau peb thiab peb txoj kev hlub?
Thiab hauv kuv lub tswv yim, qhov no yog qhov kev daws teeb meem zoo tshaj plaws.
2. "Kuv xav paub dab tsi N nyob hauv txaj?"
Cov kev xav zoo li no, thaum tus khub tsis xav tias nyob ze, tuaj yeem chim siab rau kev sib raug zoo sai dua li lwm yam, tus kws kho mob hlwb Kurt Smith hais. Nws qhia cov txiv neej, thiab yog li ntawd nws cov lus qhia feem ntau siv rau lawv. "Nws tsis yog deb ntawm kev xav mus rau kev ua raws li koj xav," nws piav qhia.
3. "Yog nws tsuas zoo li N"
Oddly txaus, tsev neeg puas siab puas ntsws xav txog cov kev xav zoo li no tsis muaj tseeb. Vim hais tias feem ntau lawv muaj cov neeg ua yeeb yam thiab lwm cov neeg muaj koob npe, koj cov tub ntxhais hluas tsoo, lossis cov laus hauv tsev kawm theem siab.
Cia li tsis txhob cia koj tus npau suav coj koj mus deb heev. Tom qab tag nrho, nws yuav zoo dua tias cov yam ntxwv uas zoo siab rau lawv kuj yog nyob rau hauv koj tus khub - tej zaum tsawg me ntsis, tab sis txhua yam nyob hauv koj txhais tes!
4. "Nws ib txwm maj nrawm"
Koj tuaj yeem ua haujlwm nrog qhov tsis sib xws hauv koj qhov kev sib deev rhythms, kev sib deev feem ntau yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws platform rau kev sim. Tab sis grouchiness thiab, yog tias koj hu rau ib tug spade ib tug spade, tediousness yuav tsum tsis txhob tso cai tsis tau tsuas yog nyob rau hauv lub chav pw, tab sis feem ntau nyob rau hauv koj lub tsev.
5. “Kuv yuav tsis teb. Cia nws txom nyem »
Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis ncaj ncees! Koj tau kov, nrhiav kev sib haum xeeb, tsis txhob thawb tawm thiab tsis txhob tawg tawm ntawm lub puag. Koj luag ntxhi — luag ntxhi rov qab. Koj yuav tsum sib haum xeeb sai heev.
Txhawm rau rau txim nrog kev tsis sib deev, zaub mov lossis kev luag nyav tsis yog qhov hnyav. Muaj ntau txoj kev txawj ntse hauv phau Vajlugkub hais tias, "Cia li tsis txhob lub hnub poob rau koj npau taws."
6. “Nws tsis hlub kuv lawm”
Yog tias koj xav txog nws ntau zaus, koj tuaj yeem pib ua xyem xyav txog kev hlub uas mob siab tshaj plaws. Muaj ib qho kev xaiv zoo nkauj. Tsis txhob nug koj tus khub: "Qhia rau kuv, koj puas hlub kuv?" Xaus kev sib tham hauv xov tooj nrog "Kuv hlub koj" lossis tsuas yog hnia nws nyob zoo.