"Kuv xav thiab kuv yuav": tawg ntawm phau ntawv Mikhail Labkovsky

Yog tias koj xav sib yuav, ntsib lossis txawm nyob ua ke rau rau lub hlis lossis ib xyoos thiab tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim, koj yuav tsum sim ua kom koj tus kheej. Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej tsis npaj yuav pib tsev neeg, nws yog lub sij hawm los hais lus zoo rau nws. Nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev zoo, tau kawg. Ib yam li ntawd, kuv ua siab dawb siab zoo rau koj thiab yuav nyob hauv tib lub siab, tab sis nyob deb ntawm koj.

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Qee tus pom xaiv ib tus khub ua ib txoj hauv kev los daws lawv cov teeb meem. Khoom siv, puas siab puas ntsws, vaj tse, kev yug me nyuam. Qhov no yog ib qho ntawm feem ntau yuam kev thiab tuag taus. Tsuas yog kev sib koom tes ncaj ncees tuaj yeem noj qab nyob zoo. Kev ua tau zoo tsuas yog cov kev sib raug zoo, lub hom phiaj ntawm qhov yooj yim - ua ke. Yog li, yog tias koj npau suav ntawm kev sib yuav ntev, kev hlub, kev phooj ywg, koj thawj zaug yuav tsum tau nrog koj tus kheej thiab koj "dab laug".

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Yog koj xav sib yuav, thawj qhov koj yuav tsum tau ua yog kom tau lub tswv yim tawm ntawm koj lub taub hau. Yam tsawg kawg ib ntus. Cov neeg tau txais yam lawv lub siab lub siab nqig.

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Ib qho xwm txheej tshwm sim thaum muaj kev sib cav sib ceg ua rau kev sib daj sib deev tsis zoo. Tsis txhob nqa mus. Cov kev sib raug zoo no xaus nrog kev tsis sib haum xeeb kawg, tab sis tsis muaj kev sib deev. Yog tias kev sib cav sib ceg yog ib feem ntawm koj lub neej, ib hnub kev txaj muag, kev chim siab, npau taws thiab lwm yam tsis zoo yuav tsis kov yeej. Kev tsis sib haum xeeb yuav nyob twj ywm, tab sis kev sib deev yuav xaus mus ib txhis.

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"Dab tsi ntawm cov txiv neej (poj niam) koj nyiam?" kuv nug. Thiab kuv hnov ​​​​txog tib yam: txog txiv neej-femininity, siab zoo-kev ntseeg, zoo nkauj ob lub qhov muag thiab ob txhais ceg zoo nkauj. Thiab tom qab ntawd nws hloov tawm tias cov neeg koom tes tiag tiag ntawm cov neeg no yog qhov txawv ntawm qhov zoo tagnrho. Tsis yog vim qhov zoo tshaj plaws tsis muaj nyob, tab sis vim tias kev xaiv ntawm ib tus khub hauv lub neej yog ib qho txheej txheem tsis nco qab. Tom qab 5-7 vib nas this tom qab ntsib koj twb paub tias koj xav tau tus neeg no los tsis. Thiab thaum koj ntsib ib tug neeg zoo nrog lub qhov muag thiab ob txhais ceg zoo nkauj, koj yooj yim tsis quav ntsej nws. Thiab koj poob rau hauv kev hlub, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, nrog tus dab ntxwg nyoog ua rau qaug dej qaug cawv (kev xaiv: tus menyuam mos luav ua rau shopaholism thiab qia dub).

Cov neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj loj hlob tawm ntawm cov menyuam yaus uas tau mob siab rau thiab mob siab rau ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv. Cov neeg zoo li no nyob nrog ib leeg xav kom muaj kev sib raug zoo, vim yog lawv tsis muaj kev sib raug zoo, lawv tsis nyob.

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Nug koj tam sim no: "Koj puas tau muaj kev hlub?" thiab koj yuav teb: "Tau kawg!" Thiab koj yuav ntsuas kev hlub los ntawm theem ntawm kev txom nyem. Thiab kev noj qab haus huv kev sib raug zoo raug ntsuas los ntawm qib kev zoo siab.

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Tau kawg, ntau nyob ntawm seb peb ntsib "peb" tus neeg lossis tsis. Xws li tias ob tus phooj ywg thiab tus hlub (cov phooj ywg ntawm lub neej / tus hlub) tib lub sijhawm yog kev sib koom ua ke zoo tshaj plaws thiab kev lav phib xaub ntawm tsev neeg lub neej ntev. Peb txhua tus npau suav txog qhov no, ua tsaug rau txoj hmoo lossis tsis txaus siab txog nws, tsis nco qab tias tsis muaj dab tsi tshwm sim hauv kev sib ntsib zoo siab. Tias lawv tus khub zoo tshaj plaws tau ntsib los ntawm cov neeg uas tau npaj txhij rau lub rooj sib tham no: lawv tau daws nrog lawv tus kheej, lawv cov kev raug mob thaum yau thiab kev nyuaj siab, lawv tau ntsib thiab tawm tsam cov neuroses nyuaj, lawv paub lawv xav tau dab tsi los ntawm lub neej thiab kev sib deev, thiab lawv ua. tsis muaj teeb meem loj nrog lawv tus kheej. Txwv tsis pub, txhua qhov kev sib raug zoo tshiab dhau los ua qhov kev sim ntawm lub zog rau ob tus neeg koom thiab inevitably xaus rau hauv kev sib nrig sib poob siab thiab cov complexes tshiab.

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Koj tuaj yeem, tau kawg, xaiv tus khub rationally. Zoo li, txhim khu kev qha, tsis cuam tshuam, kuj xav tau cov menyuam yaus ... Tab sis nws ua rau kuv nco txog qhov kev sim hauv Is Taws Nem: "Tus dev twg zoo dua kom tau txais, nyob ntawm koj lub siab nyiam?" Yos hav zoov los yog sab hauv? Koj puas yuav taug kev nrog nws peb zaug hauv ib hnub rau 45 feeb lossis cia nws tso rau hauv lub tais? Ua tau! Tab sis tsuas yog tias koj tsis xav tau kev xav hauv kev sib raug zoo. Nws kuj tshwm sim. Kuv paub tseeb tias lub hauv paus ntawm kev sib raug zoo, thiab ntau dua li kev sib yuav, ntawm chav kawm, yuav tsum yog kev hlub.

Nws tsis muaj txiaj ntsig los tawm ntawm ib tus neeg mus txog thaum koj tau hloov pauv sab hauv thiab txog thaum tus khub yog ib txoj hauv kev rau koj los daws koj cov teeb meem sab hauv. quaj, quaj ces koj yuav nrhiav tau ib tug tshiab li nws.

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Tus neurotic ib txwm nrhiav ib tus neeg uas tso nws txoj kev chim siab rau lub neej. Lawv tsis yog nyob ntawm tus khub, tab sis ntawm lub sijhawm kom ua rau nws chim. Vim yog koj tso kev chim siab rau koj tus kheej, nws yuav tig mus rau kev nyuaj siab.

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Thaum ib tug neeg tsis npaj txhij rau kev sib yuav lossis kev sib raug zoo, nws subconsciously xaiv cov neeg koom tes nrog uas nws tsis tuaj yeem tsim lawv.

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Nyob rau hauv kev noj qab haus huv kev sib raug zoo, cov tais diav yog ntxuav tsis yog vim hais tias ntawm "nws yog tsim nyog", tab sis vim hais tias tus poj niam tuaj nkees, tus txiv, tsis ua txuj ua ib tug hero, sawv thiab ntxuav. Nws hlub nws tiag tiag thiab xav pab. Thiab yog hais tias nws ya mus rau hauv thiab paub tias nws yog tibneeg hu tauj coob, nws yuav tsis hais tias nws ntsib nws nyob rau hauv lub gangway. Tsis muaj teeb meem, tsheb tavxij yuav siv.

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Yog hais tias koj tsis xav kom poob siab los ntawm illusions, ces, ua ntej, tsis txhob tsim illusions. Tsis txhob xav tias kev hlub, kev sib yuav lossis lwm yam xwm txheej yuav hloov koj lub hlwb lossis lub hlwb ntawm koj xaiv. Kev xav/kev npau suav/kev npau suav tias “thaum peb sib yuav, nws yuav tsum tsis txhob haus dej” yog qhov yuam kev. Thiab hais tias nws taug kev ua ntej tshoob, thiab tom qab ntawd maj mam dhau los ua tus txij nkawm ncaj ncees - ib yam nkaus. Koj tsuas tuaj yeem hloov koj tus kheej xwb.

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Qhov kev xav tau ntawm kev sib raug zoo nyob rau hauv ib tug neurotic yog ntau dua li nyob rau hauv ib tug noj qab nyob zoo. Ib tug me nyuam yaus tsis muaj leej twg tab sis nws niam nws txiv, thiab tag nrho nws txoj kev xav tsuas yog nyob ntawm lawv. Thiab yog hais tias kev sib raug zoo nyob rau hauv tsev neeg yog phem, ces lub neej mus wry. Thiab nws rubs rau ... Nws tsis tshwm sim nrog tus neeg noj qab haus huv tias yog kev sib raug zoo xaus, tag nrho lub neej tsuas yog poob nws lub ntsiab lus. Tseem muaj lwm yam thiab. Kev sib raug zoo muaj lawv qhov chaw nyob rau hauv nws hierarchy ntawm qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis tsis tas yuav yog thawj.

Nyob rau hauv ib qho kev noj qab haus huv, ib tug neeg xav nyob ua ke nrog nws tus hlub. Nws tsis yog "raws li koj nyiam", tab sis ib yam li ntawd. Kev hlub? Yog li koj nyob ua ke! Txhua yam yog qhov tsis zoo, kev sib raug zoo neurotic. Yog tias lawv qhia lwm yam rau koj: txog "tsis tau npaj", txog ib tus qhua lossis kev sib yuav txawv teb chaws, tsis txhob dag. Yog tias koj tus kheej ntshai nyob ua ke, tsawg kawg yuav tsum paub tias qhov no yog neurosis.

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Kev sib deev attraction nyob rau hauv peb tag nrho peb lub neej ua rau kwv yees li tib yam tsos thiab tib yam zoo thiab zoo. Attraction tig rau los yog nyob ntsiag to thaum peb xub pom ib tug neeg thiab tsis nco qab soj ntsuam nws. Raws li koj paub, ib tug txiv neej txiav txim siab "xav tau - tsis xav tau" nyob rau hauv 3-4 vib nas this, ib tug poj niam ntev - 7-8. Tab sis tom qab cov vib nas this yog xyoo thiab xyoo ntawm kev paub thaum ntxov. Libido nyob ntawm tag nrho cov kev paub ntawm cov menyuam yaus thiab cov tub ntxhais hluas cov kev xav, duab, kev xav, kev txom nyem. Thiab tag nrho cov ntawm lawv tau muab zais tob hauv qhov tsis nco qab, thiab ntawm qhov chaw nyob, piv txwv li, cov duab ntawm cov rau tes, pob ntseg, xim ntawm daim tawv nqaij, lub hauv siab, ob txhais tes ... tab sis qhov tseeb txhua yam yog qhov tob thiab ntau dua tsis nkag siab.

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Kuv tawm tsam kev sib cais los ntawm kev quab yuam. Kev koom ua ke hauv ib hom ntawv "Kuv yuav tsis hnov ​​qab koj, Kuv yuav tsis pom koj ..." Pov, kev txom nyem, thiab tawm mus - ua yeeb yam, kua muag, "Kuv hlub koj, Kuv nyob tsis muaj koj, tab sis txij li thaum koj ua qhov no rau kuv… «Koj nyob tsis tau — yog li tsis txhob koom! Neurotic kev sib raug zoo yog precisely thaum nws tsis yooj yim sua kom sib nrug, thiab txawm phem ua ke. Qhov ua kom yuam kev tsis yog kom tau kev sib nrauj lossis ib feem, tab sis kom tsis txhob muaj kev sib deev rau cov neeg uas tsim txom koj, thab koj tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi - kev ntaus los yog kev tsis txaus ntseeg.

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Kev tawm ntawm kev sib raug zoo yog yooj yim dua yog tias koj paub tias qhov tseeb koj tsis nyiam txhua yam no thiab tsis xav tau, tias koj tsis muaj kev hlub, qhov twg tus neeg nws tus kheej tseem ceeb, tab sis kev vam khom ntawm kev xav. Thiab mob siab.

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Cov neeg uas lub hlwb noj qab haus huv yog coj los ntawm lawv txoj kev xav thiab ib txwm xaiv lawv tus kheej. Tsis yog kev zoo nkauj lossis kev hlub yuav tsum muaj kev txi. Thiab yog tias lawv thov, nws tsis yog koj zaj dab neeg. Tsis muaj lub hom phiaj zoo li no rau qhov uas nws tsim nyog ua kom muaj kev sib raug zoo ntawm ib yam dab tsi.