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- Niam Txiv: Muaj pes tsawg tus me nyuam raug tsim txom niaj hnub no?
- Yuav piav li cas rau cov duab?
- Puas tsis muaj "txoj cai tseem ceeb" uas yuav tsum tau ua txhawm rau zam kom tsis txhob nthuav tawm cov menyuam yaus rau kev sib deev?
- Yog li cas peb yuav tiv thaiv menyuam los ntawm kev ua phem no?
- Puas yog niam txiv uas raug tsim txom thaum menyuam yaus qhia rau lawv cov menyuam txog nws?
Niam Txiv: Muaj pes tsawg tus me nyuam raug tsim txom niaj hnub no?
Muriel Salmona: XNUMX Lab tus kiv cua tos koj rau Webtalk! Peb tsis tuaj yeem cais incest los ntawm lwm yam kev ua phem rau kev sib deev. Cov neeg ua txhaum cai yog pedophiles sab hauv thiab sab nraum tsev neeg. Niaj hnub no nyob rau Fabkis, ib tug ntawm tsib tus ntxhais thiab ib tug ntawm kaum peb tus tub yog cov neeg raug tsim txom ntawm kev sib deev. Ib nrab ntawm cov kev ua phem no yog ua los ntawm cov neeg hauv tsev neeg. Cov lej tseem ntau dua thaum menyuam yaus muaj kev tsis taus. Tus naj npawb ntawm pedophile duab nyob rau hauv net doubles txhua txhua xyoo nyob rau hauv Fabkis. Peb yog lub tebchaws thib ob uas cuam tshuam ntau tshaj plaws hauv Tebchaws Europe.
Yuav piav li cas rau cov duab?
MS Tsuas yog 1% ntawm cov pedophiles raug txim vim feem coob tsis paub txog lub tsev hais plaub. Lawv tsuas yog tsis qhia thiab yog li tsis raug ntes. Yog vim li cas: cov me nyuam tsis hais lus. Thiab qhov no tsis yog lawv qhov txhaum tab sis qhov tshwm sim ntawm qhov tsis muaj ntaub ntawv, kev tiv thaiv thiab kev tshawb pom ntawm qhov kev ua phem no. Txawm li cas los xij, muaj cov cim qhia txog kev puas siab puas ntsws uas yuav tsum ceeb toom cov niam txiv thiab cov kws tshaj lij: tsis xis nyob, tshem tawm mus rau hauv tus kheej, npau taws heev, pw tsaug zog thiab noj mov tsis zoo, kev coj cwj pwm, kev ntxhov siab, phobias, pw tsaug zog ... Qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias tsis yog tag nrho cov cim hauv tus me nyuam yuav tsum qhia txog kev nruj kev tsiv. Tab sis lawv tsim nyog peb nyob nrog tus kws kho mob.
Puas tsis muaj "txoj cai tseem ceeb" uas yuav tsum tau ua txhawm rau zam kom tsis txhob nthuav tawm cov menyuam yaus rau kev sib deev?
MS Yog lawm, peb tuaj yeem txo qhov kev pheej hmoo los ntawm kev ceev faj txog cov menyuam yaus ib puag ncig, los ntawm kev saib xyuas lawv cov neeg koom tes, los ntawm kev ua kom tsis pom kev nyob rau hauv lub ntsej muag ntawm kev txaj muag me ntsis, cov lus hais txog poj niam txiv neej xws li lub npe nrov "hais tias nws loj hlob!" », Los ntawm kev txwv cov xwm txheej xws li da dej lossis pw nrog tus neeg laus, txawm tias ib tus neeg hauv tsev neeg.
Lwm qhov kev xav zoo los txais yuav: piav qhia rau koj tus menyuam tias "tsis muaj leej twg muaj cai kov nws qhov chaw ntiag tug lossis saib nws liab qab". Txawm hais tias tag nrho cov lus qhia no, qhov kev pheej hmoo tseem nyob, nws yuav yog lus dag hais tias lwm yam, muab cov duab. Kev nruj kev tsiv tuaj yeem tshwm sim nyob txhua qhov chaw, txawm tias cov neeg nyob ze uas ntseeg siab, thaum muaj suab paj nruag, hais lus qhuab qhia, ncaws pob, thaum so hauv tsev neeg lossis tsev kho mob…
Qhov no tsis yog niam txiv qhov txhaum. Thiab lawv tsis tuaj yeem poob rau hauv kev ntxhov siab mus tas li lossis tiv thaiv menyuam yaus los ntawm kev ua neej nyob, ua haujlwm, mus so, muaj phooj ywg ...
Yog li cas peb yuav tiv thaiv menyuam los ntawm kev ua phem no?
MS Qhov riam phom nkaus xwb yog tham nrog koj cov menyuam txog qhov kev ua phem ntawm kev sib deev, mus rau hauv kev sib tham thaum nws tshwm sim, los ntawm kev tso siab rau cov phau ntawv uas hais txog nws, los ntawm kev nug cov lus nug tsis tu ncua txog cov kev xav ntawm cov menyuam vis-a-vis xws li cov xwm txheej, xws li ib tug neeg, txawm los ntawm cov me nyuam thaum yau nyob ib ncig ntawm 3 xyoos. “Tsis muaj leej twg ua phem rau koj, ntshai koj? "Qhov tseeb peb yuav tsum hloov mus rau lub hnub nyoog ntawm cov menyuam yaus thiab rov hais dua rau lawv tib lub sijhawm. Tsis muaj ib daim ntawv qhia txuj ci tseem ceeb. Qhov no cuam tshuam rau txhua tus menyuam yaus, txawm tias tsis muaj cov tsos mob ntawm kev txom nyem vim qee qhov tsis muaj dab tsi tab sis lawv tau "ua kom puas tsuaj los ntawm sab hauv".
Ib qho tseem ceeb: cov niam txiv feem ntau piav qhia tias thaum muaj kev ua phem, koj yuav tsum hais tsis tau, qw, khiav tawm. Tsuas yog hais tias nyob rau hauv kev muaj tiag, confronted nrog ib tug pedophile, tus me nyuam tsis yeej ib txwm tswj los tiv thaiv nws tus kheej, tuag tes tuag taw los ntawm qhov teeb meem. Tom qab ntawd nws tuaj yeem ua rau nws tus kheej ua txhaum thiab nyob ntsiag to. Nyob rau hauv luv luv, koj yuav tsum mus kom deb li deb hais tias "yog tias qhov no tshwm sim rau koj, ua txhua yam koj ua tau los tiv thaiv koj tus kheej, tab sis nws tsis yog koj qhov txhaum yog tias koj tsis ua tiav, koj tsis muaj lub luag haujlwm, xws li thaum muaj tub sab lossis tub sab. tshuab. Ntawm qhov tod tes, koj yuav tsum qhia tam sim ntawd kom muaj kev pab thiab peb tuaj yeem ntes tus neeg ua txhaum cai ". Namely: txhawm rau rhuav tshem qhov kev ntsiag to sai sai, tiv thaiv tus menyuam los ntawm tus neeg ua phem, ua kom tsis txhob muaj qhov tshwm sim loj hauv lub sijhawm nruab nrab lossis ntev rau tus menyuam qhov sib npaug.
Puas yog niam txiv uas raug tsim txom thaum menyuam yaus qhia rau lawv cov menyuam txog nws?
MS Yog lawm, kev tsim txom kev sib deev yuav tsum tsis txhob txwv. Nws tsis yog ib feem ntawm keeb kwm ntawm kev sib deev ntawm niam txiv, uas tsis saib tus menyuam thiab yuav tsum nyob twj ywm. Kev tsim txom ntawm kev sib deev yog kev raug mob uas peb tuaj yeem piav qhia rau cov menyuam yaus thaum peb yuav piav qhia rau lawv lwm yam kev nyuaj hauv peb lub neej. Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv tsis xav kom qhov no tshwm sim rau koj vim nws ua phem rau kuv." Yog tias, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, kev ntsiag to kav dhau qhov kev puas tsuaj yav dhau los, tus me nyuam tuaj yeem hnov qhov tsis yooj yim ntawm nws niam nws txiv thiab nkag siab implicitly "peb tsis tham txog qhov ntawd". Thiab qhov no yog precisely qhov opposite ntawm cov lus yuav tsum conveyed. Yog hais tias nthuav tawm zaj dab neeg no rau lawv tus menyuam mob heev, niam txiv yuav ua tau zoo nrog tus kws kho mob.
Kev xam phaj los ntawm Katrin Acou-Bouaziz