Puas yog txhua yam koj ua yuav tsum ua kom tiav? Koj puas tau teem lub hom phiaj uas feem ntau siab, lossis txawm tias tsis tuaj yeem ua tiav? Cov kev coj cwj pwm no yeej tsis xav txog qhov kev xav rau kev ua tiav. Nws muaj peev xwm ua neej nyob nrog tus cwj pwm zoo li no. Coj mus rau qhov kawg, txawm li cas los xij, nws tuaj yeem ua tsis zoo thiab ua rau muaj kev noj qab haus huv zoo thiab txawm tias nyob ib puag ncig qee tus neeg.

 "Cov cim qhia txawv ntawm ib tus neeg mus rau lwm tus," piav qhia Frédéric Langlois, tus xibfwb hauv Department of Psychology ntawm University of Quebec ntawm Trois-Rivières (UQTR).

Cov cwj pwm no tuaj yeem tshwm sim hauv ntau qhov chaw, xws li hauv chaw ua haujlwm, kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus, lossis txawm tias ua haujlwm txhua hnub. "Perfectionism ua tsis zoo thaum ib tug neeg tsis tuaj yeem hloov kho cov kev ua tau zoo uas nws ua rau nws tus kheej raws li nws lub sijhawm lossis qee theem ntawm nws lub neej", tus kws tshawb fawb qhia.

Perfectionism yuav tsis noj qab nyob zoo thaum¹ :

Los ntawm 2005 txog 2007, Frédéric Langlois thiab nws pab neeg tau xa ib daim ntawv nug rau cov neeg mob uas tuaj koom lub chaw kho mob ntxhov siab vim thiab kev xav tsis zoo. Raws li cov txiaj ntsig ntawm lawv txoj kev kawm¹, cov neeg koom nrog uas pom cov tsos mob ntawm over-perfectionism muaj kev pheej hmoo ntau dua ntawm kev tsim cov kev puas siab puas ntsws xws li kev nyuaj siab, kev ntxhov siab dav dav lossis kev xav xav-cuam tshuam.

"Tus pathological perfectionist hnov ​​​​qhov tsis txaus siab nyob mus ib txhis thiab lub siab tsis tu ncua uas nws ua rau nws tus kheej. Yog hais tias nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, tus neeg no yuav tsum tau nrog ib tug siab ntawm kev nyuaj siab, uas occupies tag nrho nws lub zog. Nws dhau los ua qhov tsis zoo thiab qhov tshwm sim tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev phom sij heev, "tshaj Frédéric Langlois.

Kev daws teeb meem?

Yuav ua li cas ib tug perfectionist tawg tawm ntawm lub vicious voj voog ntawm over-perfection? Qhov siab dua nws cov hom phiaj, qhov tsawg dua lawv muaj. Qhov xwm txheej no dhau los ua ntau dua thiab ntau dua thiab tus neeg yuav them rov qab los ntawm kev thov ntau dua ntawm nws tus kheej. Tab sis nws muaj peev xwm rov qab tau koj tus kheej kev hwm.

Frédéric Langlois hais tias "Lub hom phiaj yog hloov tus cwj pwm me me ib zaug," Feem ntau cov perfectionists tsis nco qab lub hom phiaj ntawm lawv ua dab tsi. Lub tswv yim yog kom txaus siab rau qhov koj ua, so koj tus kheej cov kev cai kom lawv muaj tseeb dua thiab tawm mus ua tiav. “

Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj, tsis txhob yig mus sab laj. Kev puas siab puas ntsws tuaj yeem pab hloov kev nkag siab thiab teeb tsa cov hom phiaj ua tiav.

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1. Los ntawm cov ntawv xov xwm Ntawm koj lub siab, lub tsev kawm ntawv xov xwm ntawm University of Quebec ntawm Trois-Rivières.