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"Kuv puas yuav hlub nws heev?" », Ib lo lus nug uas peb inevitably nug peb tus kheej ib hnub thaum peb tab tom tos peb tus menyuam thib ob. Logically, peb twb paub thawj tus, peb hlub nws heev, yuav ua li cas peb yuav tswj tau kom muab kev hlub npaum li cas rau tus me nyuam no uas peb tseem tsis tau paub? Yuav ua li cas yog qhov qub? Hloov kho nrog peb tus kws tshaj lij.
Niam Txiv: Peb puas tuaj yeem hlub peb cov menyuam ntau tab sis… txawv?
Florence Millot: XNUMX Lab tus kiv cua tos koj rau Webtalk! Vim li cas ho tsis cia li txais lub tswv yim tias koj yeej tsis hlub koj cov me nyuam heev, los yog tib yam? Tom qab tag nrho, cov no tsis yog tib neeg, lawv yuav tsum xa peb tej yam txawv raws li lawv lub siab nyiam, peb cov kev cia siab, thiab cov ntsiab lus ntawm lawv qhov yug. Pom koj tus kheej poob haujlwm lossis hauv kev sib raug zoo uas muaj teeb meem thaum yug tus thib ob, piv txwv li, tuaj yeem ua rau kev sib txuas ntau dua. Piv txwv li, yog hais tias tus yau tshaj zoo li peb heev, nws muaj peev xwm subconsciously reassuring peb, txhawb kev sib raug zoo.
Forging muaj zog bonds kuj yuav siv sij hawm hnub, lis piam, hli, txawm ob peb xyoos rau ib co niam. Thiab qhov tseeb hais tias peb lub neej ua kom dawb huv daim duab ntawm tus niam zoo meej cherish nws tus me nyuam thaum yug los tsis ua rau nws yooj yim rau peb ...
Puas yog qhov xav tau ib tus ntawm koj cov menyuam?
FM: Txawm hais tias tsis yog txhua tus niam txiv yuav tsum paub nws lossis tsis kam lees, peb hlub peb txhua tus ntawm peb cov menyuam vim txawv thiab sib txawv, txawm peb nyiam lossis tsis nyiam. Tsis zoo li peb cov phooj ywg, peb tsis xaiv peb cov menyuam, peb yoog rau lawv, yog li, Thaum ib tug teb zoo dua rau peb cov kev cia siab, peb yuav ua kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws. Qhov tseem ceeb yog tias txhua tus me nyuam pom nws txoj kev xav ntawm nws txiv, nws niam thiab lwm tus neeg hauv tsev neeg, kev siv zog los hlub lawv ib yam nkaus li tsis muaj txiaj ntsig vim tias, nyob ntawm lawv lub hnub nyoog lossis lawv tus cwj pwm, cov menyuam yaus tsis muaj txiaj ntsig. muaj tib qho kev xav tau kev hlub thiab kev saib xyuas thiab tsis qhia lawv tib yam.
Thaum twg peb yuav tsum tham txog nws?
FM: Thaum peb tus cwj pwm ua rau muaj kev sib cav sib ceg - txawm tias, tau kawg, muaj qee leej hauv txhua tsev neeg, ib tus tswv cuab ntawm cov kwv tij yuav tsum xav tias nws txawv - thiab tus me nyuam qhia peb tias nws xav tias nws tsis hlub los yog nyuaj nrhiav koj qhov chaw, koj yuav tsum tham txog nws. Txawm hais tias nws txhais tau hais tias kev sab laj tus kws tshaj lij los nrog peb, los pab peb nrhiav cov lus zoo, vim nws tseem yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev. Leej niam leej twg xav lees rau nws tus menyuam tias nws yeej muaj kev sib txuas nrog nws tus tij laug lossis tus muam? Qhov kev pab sab nraud no kuj tseem tuaj yeem ua rau peb paub tseeb txog qhov tseem ceeb: tsis txhob hlub lawv ib yam, thiab tsis ua rau peb niam txiv phem!
Sib tham nrog cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig peb, peb cov phooj ywg, kuj tseem yuav pab peb ua si hauv qhov xwm txheej thiab txhawb peb tus kheej: lwm tus kuj tuaj yeem muaj lawv cov xeeb ntxwv txaus lossis raug hla los ntawm kev xav tsis zoo, thiab qhov ntawd tsis tiv thaiv lawv los ntawm kev hlub lawv cov menyuam. .
Kuv yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob ua mob rau kuv tus menyuam?
FM: Qee lub sij hawm peb tsis paub tias peb tus cwj pwm ua rau tus me nyuam xav txog kev hlub tsawg dua li nws tus kwv lossis tus muam. Yog tias nws tuaj yws, peb pib nug nws hauv qhov xwm txheej twg nws xav tias nws tawm mus, kho qhov xwm txheej thiab ua kom nws zoo tshaj plaws. Tom qab ntawd, ntxiv rau kev hnia thiab puag, yog vim li cas ho tsis xav txog kev ua ub no uas peb yuav tuaj yeem ntsib thiab sib koom lub sijhawm tshwj xeeb?
Nws tsis yog hais txog kev coj cwj pwm zoo ib yam nrog koj cov menyuam. Ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, kev yuav khoom plig tib yam lossis khawm tib lub sijhawm muaj kev pheej hmoo tsim kev sib tw ntawm cov kwv tij, leej twg yuav sim sawv ntawm peb lub qhov muag. Tsis tas li ntawd, peb cov txwj laus 11 xyoos tsis tas yuav muaj kev xav zoo ib yam li nws tus muam 2 xyoos. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tias txhua tus xav tias hlub, muaj nuj nqis ntawm nws cov singularities: kev ua si nawv, kev kawm, tib neeg zoo, thiab lwm yam.
Anne-Sophie zaj lus tim khawv: “Tus hlob hlob muaj kev cais tawm rau xya xyoo! “
Louise, kuv tus neeg laus, yog ib tug hluas nkauj rhiab heev, txaj muag, tsis paub qab hau… Nws tau mob siab rau, nyob ib ncig ntawm 5-6 xyoo, kom muaj ib tug kwv tij los yog ib tug muam me… Pauline, nws yog ib tug me nyuam uas coj nws qhov chaw. tsis nug yog hais tias nws thab, unfiltered, heev spontaneous thiab txiav txim siab heev.
Txaus siab hais tias ob leeg tsis yog tus neeg koom nrog ... khib heev, Louise ib txwm "tsis lees paub" ntau dua lossis tsawg dua nws tus muam. Peb feem ntau tso dag los ntawm nws qhia nws tias nws muaj hmoo tsis muaj rau 7 tus kwv tij thiab cov muam… Peb kuj sim piav qhia rau nws tias nws muaj qhov tshwj xeeb rau XNUMX xyoo. Yog nws muaj ib tug kwv tij, tej zaum nws yuav txawv. Nws yuav tsis tas yuav tsum tau muab ntau yam khoom rau tus me: cov khoom ua si, khaub ncaws, phau ntawv ... ”
Anne Sophie, 38 xyoo, leej niam ntawm Louise, 12 xyoo, thiab Pauline, 5 thiab ib nrab xyoo
Qhov no puas tuaj yeem hloov pauv lub sijhawm?
FM: Tsis muaj ib yam dab tsi tau kho, cov kev sib txuas tau hloov zuj zus los ntawm kev yug mus rau cov neeg laus. Ib leej niam yuav nyiam ib tug ntawm nws cov me nyuam thaum nws tseem me los yog nyob ze rau nws, thiab nws poob nws txoj kev hlub thaum nws loj hlob tuaj. Sij hawm dhau mus, thaum koj paub koj tus menyuam, tus uas koj xav tau tsawg kawg yog nyob ze, koj tuaj yeem qhuas nws cov yam ntxwv uas koj xav tau muaj - piv txwv li, yog tias koj yog introverted thiab koj tus tub muaj tus cwj pwm sib raug zoo. - Thiab muab peb lub ntsej muag rau nws vim nws yog kev txhawb siab rau peb. Nyob rau hauv luv luv, muaj yuav luag ib txwm nyiam thiab feem ntau uas hloov. Ib lub sij hawm yog ib, ces lwm yam. Thiab ib zaug ntxiv.
Kev xam phaj los ntawm Dorothée Louessard
* Tus sau ntawm blog www.pédagogieinnovante.com, thiab ntawm cov phau ntawv "Muaj dab nyob hauv kuv lub txaj" thiab "Cov ntsiab lus Toltec siv rau cov menyuam yaus", ed. Hatchet.