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Txawm hais tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los ua ib tus neeg koom nrog koj cov menyuam, qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias koj yuav tsum qhia lawv txhua yam. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los khaws lawv, qee yam tsuas yog hais txog cov neeg laus ...
Sib tham txog dab tsi cuam tshuam nws tus kheej
Yog tias peb paub niaj hnub no yuav ua li cas muaj kuab lom hauv tsev neeg zais cia, peb kuj paub tias cov ntaub ntawv tshaj tawm tau muab rau thaum ntxov tsuas yog muaj tshuaj lom. Yog li cas peb xaiv cov ntaub ntawv zoo los qhia rau peb cov me nyuam? Nws yog qhov yooj yim heev, cov menyuam yaus muaj txoj cai paub qhov kev txhawj xeeb rau lawv ncaj qha. Piv txwv li tsev neeg hloov, txav mus los, kev tuag hauv tsev neeg, lawv cov mob lossis cov niam txiv. Lawv kuj muaj cai paub txhua yam ntsig txog lawv lub hauv paus chiv keeb, lawv qhov chaw nyob rau hauv filiation, lawv muaj peev xwm saws. Yog lawm, peb tsis hais tus menyuam hnub nyoog 3 lossis 4 xyoos ua ib tug tub hluas hnub nyoog 15 xyoos! Nws raug nquahu kom tso tus kheej kom ncav cuag, nrhiav cov lus yooj yim uas nws tuaj yeem nkag siab thiab txwv cov ntsiab lus tsis txaus ntseeg uas tuaj yeem cuam tshuam nws. Nws yeej tsis yooj yim rau kev mus cuag cov teeb meem ntawm lub neej nrog tus me nyuam me, tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb vim nws muaj qhov muag, pob ntseg thiab nws pom tau tias tsev neeg muaj kev ntxhov siab. Qhov tseem ceeb yog yuav tsum nrog cov xov xwm phem nrog cov lus zoo ntawm kev cia siab: “Txiv tau poob haujlwm, tab sis tsis txhob txhawj, peb yeej yuav muaj yam tsim nyog nyob, noj mov, nrhiav chaw nyob, peb kov cov nyiaj pub dawb. Koj txiv tab tom nrhiav haujlwm tshiab thiab nws yuav nrhiav tau. » Npaj tej yam koj yuav hais zoo, tos kom txog thaum koj muaj zog txaus los hais lus zoo, tsis muaj kev txhawj xeeb, tsis muaj kua muag hauv qhov muag. Yog hais tias ib tug neeg hlub muaj mob, muab cov lus qhia ncaj ncees thiab qhov zoo: “Peb txhawj xeeb vim koj pog mob, tab sis cov kws kho mob ua txhua yam lawv ua tau los saib xyuas nws. Peb txhua tus cia siab tias nws yuav kho. “
Teeb txwv
Txawm hais tias nws suab phem heev, tus menyuam me yuav tsum tau ceeb toom thaum tus neeg tseem ceeb hauv tsev neeg tuag, nrog cov lus yooj yim, meej, muaj hnub nyoog tsim nyog: “Koj yawg tuag. Peb txhua tus tu siab heev, peb yuav tsis hnov qab vim peb yuav khaws cia rau hauv peb lub siab. "Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb tsis txhob siv cov lus piv txwv uas yuav tsum tsis tshua hnyav rau pob ntseg me me, xws li:" Koj txiv yawg nyuam qhuav tas sim neej, nws tau mus saum ntuj, nws tau taug kev ntev, nws tau ncaim peb, nws tsaug zog mus ib txhis ”. Tseeb tiag, tus me nyuam siv txhua yam lus thiab nws ntseeg tias tus neeg tuag yuav rov qab los, sawv, rov tshwm sim… Ua tib zoo hais lus rau nws lub ntsej muag, saib xyuas nws cov kev xav, mloog nws. Yog tias koj pom tias nws zoo li tu siab, txhawj xeeb, ntshai, txhawb kom nws qhia koj tias nws zoo li cas, ua rau nws zoo siab thiab nplij nws.
Thaum koj tau muab cov ntaub ntawv, ib zaug koj tau teb ib lo lus nug los yog ob qho tib si, tsis txhob nkag mus rau hauv cov ntsiab lus tshwj xeeb, lossis cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb heev. Koj lub luag haujlwm ua niam txiv yog, ib yam li txhua yam, txhawm rau teeb tsa: “Kuv tau hais rau koj tias koj yuav tsum paub tam sim no. Tom qab ntawd, thaum koj laus lawm, peb tuaj yeem tham txog nws dua yog tias koj xav tau. Peb yuav piav qhia rau koj thiab koj yuav paub txhua yam koj xav paub. » Qhia rau nws tias muaj tej yam uas nws tseem tsis tau nkag siab vim tias nws muaj me me heev ua rau muaj kev txwv ntawm ntau tiam neeg thiab yuav ua rau nws xav loj hlob…
Tham nrog nws tactfully txog cov neeg nws hlub
Qhia rau koj tus menyuam txog qhov nws txhawj xeeb yog qhov zoo, tab sis nws puas yog ib lub tswv yim zoo los qhia nws tias koj xav li cas rau cov neeg laus nyob ib puag ncig nws? Los ntawm nws pog yawg, piv txwv li, uas yog peb niam thiab txiv… Kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov me nyuam me nrog lawv pog yawg yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev thiab peb yuav tsum tau ceev faj. Peb tuaj yeem hais tias: "Nrog kuv, nws nyuaj, tab sis koj hlub lawv thiab lawv hlub koj, thiab kuv pom tau tias lawv zoo rau koj! Kev ua siab zoo tib yam yog tias koj tus poj niam tau txais kev ntxhov siab. Koj tsis tas yuav qhia rau koj tus me nyuam tias koj niam tais ua rau koj lub neej puas, txawm tias qhov tseeb. Nws tsis yog tus interlocutor txoj cai los daws koj cov qhab nia… Raws li txoj cai dav dav, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob hais kom tus menyuam los koom nrog ob tus neeg laus uas nws nyiam. Yog nws coj sab, nws xav tias txhaum thiab nws mob heev rau nws. Lwm yam taboo, nws cov phooj ywg thiab cov hluas nkauj. Txawm nws muaj hnub nyoog li cas los xij, peb tsis "tawg" nws cov phooj ywg vim nws yog tus uas xav tias raug hu mus nug thiab ua rau nws mob. Yog tias koj tsis txaus siab rau tus cwj pwm ntawm ib tus ntawm nws cov phooj ywg, koj tuaj yeem hais tias: "Nws yog peb tus uas xav li ntawd, nws yog peb lub zeem muag, tab sis nws tsis yog lub zeem muag nkaus xwb, thiab koj tuaj yeem pom nws. txwv tsis pub. Qhov tseem ceeb yog ib txwm tiv thaiv kev sib raug zoo uas nws tsim nrog lwm tus neeg. Lwm qhov tseem ceeb hauv lub neej ntawm tus me nyuam me, nws tus poj niam. Tom qab ntawd ntxiv, txawm tias koj tsis nyiam nws, tsis txhob mus ua txhaum nws txoj cai ntawm koj tus menyuam qhov muag. Yog tias nws yws txog nws thiab nws txoj hauv kev, yog tias nws raug txim tsis tu ncua vim nws tus cwj pwm hauv chav kawm, tsis txhob tso lub luag haujlwm rau tus kws qhia: "Nws nqus, nws hnyav dhau, nws tsis paub nws txoj haujlwm, nws tsis muaj. kev puas siab puas ntsws! Hloov chaw, ua si hauv qhov xwm txheej los ntawm kev pab koj tus menyuam los daws nws qhov teeb meem, qhia nws tias muaj kev daws teeb meem, txhais tau tias ua, kev kho. Qhov no tsis tiv thaiv kev luag nrog nws los ntawm kev muab piv txwv rau tus kws qhia ntawv lub npe funny uas yuav yog tus lej ntawm koj thiab nws. Cov lus zoo kom hla dhau yog tias peb tuaj yeem ua qhov sib txawv txhua lub sijhawm.
Ua ntsiag to txog koj tus kheej
Hos yog ib txwm niam txiv nug lawv tus me nyuam qhov twg lawv tawm mus thiab nrog leej twg vim lawv muaj lub luag haujlwm rau lawv, kev sib tham tsis muaj tseeb. Kev hlub lub neej thiab ib tug fortiori lub neej poj niam txiv neej, lawv cov kev sib raug zoo teeb meem, kiag li tsis txhawj xeeb cov me nyuam. Qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias thaum muaj kev sib yuav tsis sib haum, koj yuav tsum ua txuj ua txhua yam zoo. Tsis muaj leej twg raug dag thaum qhov kev ntxhov siab thiab qhov tsis xis nyob tau nyeem ntawm lub ntsej muag thiab dhau los ntawm qhov hws ntawm daim tawv nqaij… Koj tuaj yeem hais rau tus menyuam me: “Nws muaj tseeb, peb muaj teeb meem rau koj txiv thiab kuv, ib qho teeb meem loj. Nws tsis muaj dab tsi ua rau koj thiab peb tab tom nrhiav kev daws teeb meem. ”Lub sij hawm. Thaum muaj hnub nyoog no, nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas nrog kev ntseeg siab, nws hnyav heev thiab mob siab rau nws vim nws raug ntes ntawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb ntawm kev ncaj ncees. Txhua tus niam txiv yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias tus me nyuam tsis tuaj yeem yog tus neeg ntseeg siab, tus neeg tsis tuaj yeem hais lus rau nws kom txo tau nws lub siab, tso nws txoj kev tu siab lossis kev npau taws, tsis txhob thuam lwm tus niam txiv, nrhiav kev pom zoo, hais kom nws hais tias yog tus yog thiab qhov tsis ncaj ncees lawm, thov kom nws txhawb nqa… Feem ntau, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los tiv thaiv tus menyuam me los ntawm txhua yam uas tsis tau txiav txim siab, kom tsis txhob muaj nws cov txheej txheem hauv kev ua tiav vim nws xav tau qhov tseeb thiab cov qauv ntsuas tseeb. Tsuav nws niam nws txiv xav tias lawv yuav sib ncaim, tsuav yog lawv tsis ntseeg, lawv cia nws mus lawv tus kheej! Thaum qhov kev txiav txim siab, thaum kawg, lawv tsuas qhia qhov tseeb rau nws: "Niam thiab txiv tsis hlub ib leeg txaus los ua neej nyob mus ntxiv." Needless hais tias txiv muaj ib tug poj niam los yog niam ib tug hlub! Qhov kev txhawj xeeb ntawm tus menyuam yog paub tias nws yuav nyob qhov twg thiab seb nws puas yuav mus ntsib ob niam txiv. Txoj kab ntawm kev txiav txim siab meej no tseem siv tau rau cov niam thiab txiv. Khaws lawv cov menyuam tawm ntawm lawv lub neej romantic yuav tsum nyob twj ywm lawv qhov tseem ceeb yog tias kev sib raug zoo tsis ntev.
Hais kom yooj yim
Qhov tseeb, kev ua siab ntev yog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis kev ncaj ncees yog qhov tseem ceeb. Kev tuaj txog ntawm ib tug txiv neej nyob rau hauv lub neej ntawm leej niam muaj kev cuam tshuam rau nws lub neej raws li ib tug me nyuam. Tej yam yuav tsum tau hais yooj yim: "Cia kuv qhia koj M, peb zoo siab heev los ua ke." M yuav nyob nrog peb, peb yuav ua qhov no thiab ua ke rau hnub so, peb vam tias koj yuav zoo siab thiab. "Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob nug nws lub tswv yim, tab sis ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, muab nws tso rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm lub xeev ntawm cov xwm txheej, thaum nws rov hais dua:" Tsis muaj dab tsi yuav hloov, koj yuav pom koj txiv ib txwm. Yog, kuv nkag siab, koj txhawj xeeb thiab / lossis npau taws, tab sis kuv paub tias nws yuav zoo dua. Leej niam lossis leej txiv tsis tuaj yeem thov lawv tus menyuam kom tso cai rau lub neej kev hlub, vim qhov ntawd yuav ua rau lawv nyob hauv niam txiv. Thiab yog tias nws hais kom paub yog tias nws qhov kev tshawb nrhiav ua rau koj txaj muag, tsuas yog qhia nws: "Nws yog ib lo lus nug loj, peb yuav tham txog nws thaum koj laus dua." » Tsis zoo li qhov peb pom ntau niaj hnub no hauv TV tshaj tawm, peb muaj cai tsis teb cov lus nug ntawm menyuam yaus, cov neeg laus yog peb, tsis yog lawv!