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Txawm tias qhov tseeb tias kev hlub ua haujlwm zoo kawg nkaus, muaj qee yam uas nws ua tsis tau. Peb tsis tuaj yeem hloov tus cwj pwm zoo uas txhais tau tus cwj pwm ntawm peb tus hlub. Feem ntau, kev sim yuav xaus nrog qhov tseeb tias kev sib raug zoo raug rhuav tshem. Tab sis txawm tias peb xav tias peb yuav tshem tawm cov yam ntxwv ntawm nws qhov xwm txheej uas peb ntxub, peb yuav tsum tau npaj rau qhov tseeb tias peb yuav ntsib lwm tus. Tsis yog txhua tus uas peb hlub. Cov kws tshaj lij tau sau cov cwj pwm zoo thiab kev nyiam ntawm tus khub, uas yog qhov tseem ceeb los nrhiav kev sib haum xeeb.
1. Kev sib raug zoo nrog tsev neeg
Hauv kev tso dag uas paub zoo: peb tsis yuav tus khub, tab sis nws tsev neeg tag nrho - muaj qhov tseeb ntau. Kev xav txog yav tom ntej ntawm cov kwv tij tuaj yeem sib sib zog nqus thiab yuav tsis hloov, txawm li cas los xij peb xav kom nws sib txuas lus nrog lawv tsawg dua thiab siv sijhawm ntau rau peb lub koomhaum.
"Yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem nkag mus rau hauv nws tsev neeg nyob ze, tom qab ntawd txhua qhov kev sim kom yeej ib tus khub rau koj sab thiab hais kom nws siv sijhawm tsawg dua nrog cov neeg koj hlub yuav raug puas tsuaj," hais tias tus kws qhia kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus kheej Chris Armstrong. - Thiab rov qab: nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau muab kev ywj pheej rau koj tus khub kom tsis txhob tuaj koom kev sib ntsib hauv tsev neeg ntau npaum li koj ua. Kev nkag siab ntawm tsev neeg yog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis tseem tsis tau them nqi ntawm kev sib raug zoo nrog tus neeg hlub.
2. Introversion / extroversion
Cov kev tawm tsam ua rau nyiam, tab sis tsuas yog mus txog qhov taw tes. Muaj ib hnub koj yuav xav tau tus khub uas nyiam nyob ntsiag to thiab nyob ntsiag to los txhawb koj lub siab xav siv ob peb hmo ua ke nyob deb ntawm tsev. "Koj hloov tsis tau ib tug neeg lub siab ntev," ceeb toom rau psychologist Samantha Rodman. "Yog tias, txawm tias muaj kev puas siab puas ntsws, koj txiav txim siab ua ke, koj yuav tsum muab kev ywj pheej rau ib leeg los ua koj tus kheej."
3.Hobby
Peb cov kev txaus siab, uas tsis muaj dab tsi ua nrog kev paub txog kev ua haujlwm, pab tswj kev sib npaug sab hauv. Chris Armstrong hais tias "Peb poob kev nkag siab ntawm kev ua tiav thiab tswj hwm peb lub neej yog tias peb poob qhov peb tsis ua rau kev khwv nyiaj, tab sis tsuas yog rau peb tus kheej txaus siab," Chris Armstrong hais. "Yog tias thaum pib ntawm kev sib raug zoo nws zoo li rau koj tias koj tus hlub mob siab rau ntau lub sijhawm rau kev caij ski, seev cev hauv tsev lossis tsiaj, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob xav tias qhov no yuav hloov pauv thaum koj pib nyob ua ke."
4. Kev tswj hwm kev ua phem
Yog tias tus neeg uas koj npaj siab yuav tsim kev sib raug zoo tawg dhau qhov teeb meem tsis tseem ceeb uas tuaj yeem daws tau yooj yim, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob cia siab tias kev hlub tuaj yeem hloov pauv qhov no. Carl Pilmar, tus kws tshaj lij ntawm kev noj qab haus huv ntawm Cornell University thiab tus kws sau ntawv zoo tshaj plaws ntawm XNUMX Cov Lus Qhia rau Cov Neeg Hlub tau hais tias "Qhov no yog ib qho teeb meem uas yuav tsum tau ua tiag tiag los ntawm qhov pib. "Kev ua phem thiab kev kub ntxhov yog qhov zoo uas tsuas yog yuav ua phem rau ntau xyoo."
5. Kev ntseeg kev ntseeg
"Feem ntau qhov teeb meem ntawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb ntawm kev ntseeg kev ntseeg tau pom tsuas yog tom qab yug me nyuam. Samantha Rodman hais tias "Txawm tias tus khub tsis tau tham txog nws txoj kev ntseeg ua ntej, nrog rau kev tshwm sim ntawm cov menyuam yaus, nws xav kom lawv coj mus rau hauv kev coj noj coj ua ntawm sab ntsuj plig ze rau nws," Samantha Rodman hais. "Yog tias lwm tus khub tuav lwm txoj kev ntseeg, hloov mus ua neeg tsis ntseeg Vajtswv lossis tsis ntseeg, feem ntau nws yuav tsis txhawb lub tswv yim tias kev ntseeg txawv teb chaws rau nws tau tsim rau hauv tus menyuam."
6. Kev xav tau kev nyob ib leeg
Koj siv zog siv txhua feeb dawb ua ke, thaum tus neeg hlub xav tau lawv qhov chaw. Chris Armstrong piav qhia tias "Qhov xav tau rau tus khub nyob ib leeg tuaj yeem nyeem tau raws li qee yam uas koj raug tsis lees paub, thiab ua rau mob siab rau," Chris Armstrong piav qhia. - Lub sijhawm no, lub sijhawm siv sib nrug tso cai rau koj tswj hwm qhov kev xav tshiab, tus kheej ntawm txhua tus, uas thaum kawg tsuas yog txhawb nqa lub koomhaum.
Thaum tib neeg nyob ua ke tas li, ib tus ntawm lawv yuav muaj kev xav tias kev sib raug zoo yog qhov lawv ua. Qhov no ua rau muaj kev tawm tsam sab hauv hauv tus khub, leej twg xav tau sijhawm ntxiv rau nws tus kheej txhawm rau txhawm rau xav txog qhov kev paub tshiab, kom paub txog kev hloov pauv thiab kev xav tau.
7. Qhov xav tau ntawm kev npaj
Koj yuav tsum ua tib zoo npaj txhua kauj ruam, thaum tus khub nyiam qhov kev txiav txim siab ntawm txhua yam. Thaum xub thawj, qhov sib txawv no tuaj yeem muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau kev sib raug zoo: ib sab pab rau lwm tus kom nyob hauv lub sijhawm tam sim no thiab hnov qhov kev zoo nkauj ntawm lub sijhawm, lwm tus muab kev ntseeg siab rau yav tom ntej thiab kev nplij siab los ntawm qhov tseeb tias ntau dhau los ua kom tau zoo. .
"Nws zoo nkaus li tias cov no tsis yog hom polar opposites hauv kev xav uas tuaj yeem rhuav tshem kev sib raug zoo. Txawm li cas los xij, txhua yam nyob ntawm qhov hnyav ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, ceeb toom tus kws kho mob hlwb Jill Weber. - Yog tias koj siv tag nrho koj lub zog los ua kom sib sib zog nqus siv lub lis piam thiab seb nws puas tsim nyog los ua tib zoo npaj cov peev nyiaj hauv tsev neeg, qhov no yuav ua rau muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb. Xws li qhov sib txawv yog txuam nrog cov yam ntxwv ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws, thiab koj yuav tsis hloov nyob rau hauv ib tug neeg nws txoj kev tau txais kev puas siab puas ntsws kev ruaj ntseg thiab kev nplij siab.
8. Kev coj cwj pwm rau menyuam yaus
Yog tias thaum pib ntawm cov rooj sib tham nws ncaj ncees hais tias nws tsis xav tau cov menyuam yaus, koj yuav tsum ntseeg qhov no. Armstrong hais tias "Kev cia siab tias nws cov kev xav yuav hloov pauv thaum koj txoj kev sib raug zoo txhim kho zoo li yuav tsis them rov qab," Armstrong hais. - Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev thaum ib tug neeg ceeb toom tias nws npaj yuav muaj menyuam tsuas yog thaum nws ntseeg siab rau nws tus khub, tau nyob nrog nws rau ib lub sijhawm. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias koj hnov tias nws tawm tsam los ua niam txiv, thiab qhov no tsis sib haum nrog koj lub siab nyiam, nws tsim nyog xav txog yav tom ntej ntawm kev sib raug zoo.
9. Kev lom zem
"Kuv txoj hauj lwm nrog cov khub niam txiv uas tau nyob ua ke ntev ntev qhia tias muaj ntau yam teeb meem yav tom ntej tuaj yeem kwv yees los ntawm kev nug ib lo lus nug: tib neeg puas pom tib yam funny? Carl Pilmer paub tseeb. Ib qho zoo sib xws ntawm kev lom zem dhau los ua qhov qhia tau zoo ntawm ob peb txoj kev sib raug zoo. Yog tias koj luag ua ke, feem ntau koj yuav muaj tib txoj kev xav hauv ntiaj teb no, thiab koj yuav kho tej yam hnyav dua li qhov zoo sib xws.