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Kev ntseeg tus kheej yog qhov tseem ceeb. Nws muab lub zog rau tus menyuam mus thiab tawm tsam lub ntiaj teb sab nraud (kawm taug kev, tshawb nrhiav, tham…). Nws tso cai rau nws tswj kev sib cais zoo dua; nws paub tias nws hlub nws niam, yog li ntawd nws zoo dua tias nws mus lawm.
Thaum kawg, nws yuav pab ua neej nyob nrog lwm tus.
Nyob nruab nrab ntawm 0 thiab 3 xyoos, peb tham tsawg dua txog kev hwm tus kheej dua li kev paub txog tus kheej, uas yog hais txog kev xav tias ib tus neeg sib cais los ntawm nws niam thiab rau tus uas peb muab ib qho txiaj ntsig. Tus nqi no yog qhia los ntawm niam txiv.
Hauv luv luv, kev hwm tus kheej yog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis nws tsis tshwm sim ntawm nws tus kheej. Ua haujlwm puv sijhawm rau koj niam koj txiv!
Cov niam txiv, nws nyob ntawm koj!
Tseeb tiag, qhov zoo ntawm kev mloog koj them rau koj tus menyuam, qhov tseeb ntawm kev lees paub nws ua ib qho kev kawm thiab muab nws qhov chaw hauv tsev neeg, yog qhov tseem ceeb los ntawm nws thawj lub sijhawm ntawm lub neej. Qhov no yog qhov Emmanuelle Rigon hu "Inner stability".
Ua tsaug rau qhov no, tus menyuam tsim ib qho kev ruaj ntseg ntawm kev xav uas yog qhov tseem ceeb thaum nws paub, me me, tias nws tsis muaj hwj chim tag nrho thiab nws tsis tuaj yeem muaj txhua yam txhua lub sijhawm. Tab sis qhov yooj yim narcissism tsis txaus thiab nws yog nyob ntawm cov niam txiv los tuav. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb, lub sij hawm no, qhia koj tus me nyuam tias nws yog ib tug me nyuam zoo nkauj thiab muab tag nrho nws txoj kev hlub uas nws xav tau.
Li no qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib txuas lus zoo ntawm koj thiab koj tus menyuam. “Thaum cov niam txiv hais rau lawv tus menyuam, lawv yuav tsum tuaj koom vim tias lawv cuam tshuam ntau dhau thaum tham nrog lawv. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas lawv tau tso lawv tus kheej tawm ntawm lawv lub luag haujlwm (tsev neeg, ua haujlwm, TV ...) rau ob peb lub sijhawm los mloog lawv cov menyuam yaus tiag» Pom zoo tus kws kho mob hlwb.
Nrog cov niam txiv zoo thiab txhawb nqa, hauv txoj ntsiab cai, tus menyuam tuaj yeem txhim kho nws tus kheej kom sib haum xeeb, muaj kev ntseeg siab rau nws tus kheej.