Tsis tuaj yeem cais lub ntsiab ntawm qhov thib ob? Tsis tuaj yeem hais tsis tau rau cov neeg ua haujlwm? Tom qab ntawd koj yuav nyob hauv chaw ua haujlwm kom txog thaum lig. Yuav ua li cas los ua ib tus neeg ua haujlwm zoo, qhia Psychologies cov neeg sau xov xwm thiab tus sau xov xwm Oliver Burkeman.
Txhua tus kws tshaj lij thiab cov kws tshaj lij ntawm kev tswj hwm lub sijhawm tsis tau nkees ntawm kev rov ua dua cov lus qhia tseem ceeb. Cais qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov tsis tseem ceeb. Lub tswv yim zoo, tab sis hais yooj yim dua li ua. Yog tias tsuas yog vim muaj kev kub ntxhov, txhua yam zoo li tseem ceeb heev. Zoo, los yog, cia peb hais tias, koj ua txuj ci tseem ceeb cais qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov tsis tseem ceeb. Thiab tom qab ntawd koj tus thawj coj hu thiab hais kom koj ua qee yam haujlwm ceev. Sim qhia nws tias qhov project no tsis nyob hauv koj cov npe ntawm qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws. Tab sis tsis yog, tsis txhob sim.
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Tus sau zoo tshaj plaws ntawm XNUMX Tus Cwj Pwm ntawm Cov Neeg Siv Tau Zoo Stephen Covey1 xav kom rov hais dua cov lus nug. Sai li qhov tsis tseem ceeb hauv kev khiav dej num tsis pom, ces nws yuav tsum tau cais qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov ceev. Dab tsi, yam tsawg kawg nkaus theoretical, tsis tuaj yeem ua, los ntawm qhov tseeb tias nws yooj yim ua tsis tau.
Ua ntej, nws yeej muab sij hawm los ua qhov tseem ceeb. Thiab qhov thib ob, nws pab ua kom pom lwm qhov teeb meem tseem ceeb - tsis muaj sijhawm. Feem ntau, qhov tseem ceeb ua haujlwm yog qhov zais rau qhov tsis txaus siab qhov tseeb tias nws yooj yim ua tsis tau raws li tag nrho cov haujlwm tsim nyog tsuas yog los ntawm kev txhais. Thiab koj yuav tsis tau mus rau qhov tsis tseem ceeb. Yog tias qhov no tshwm sim, ces qhov zoo tshaj plaws uas yuav tsum tau ua yog ua ncaj ncees rau koj txoj kev tswj hwm thiab piav qhia tias koj cov haujlwm ua haujlwm dhau ntawm koj lub peev xwm.
“Rau peb feem coob, lub sijhawm zoo tshaj plaws yog thaum sawv ntxov. Pib hnub thiab npaj tej yam nyuaj tshaj plaws. "
Zog tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb
Lwm cov lus qhia tseem ceeb yog kom tsis txhob xav txog cov xwm txheej ntawm lawv qhov tseem ceeb. Hloov cov txheej txheem ntawm kev ntsuam xyuas, tsom tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb, tab sis nyob ntawm tus nqi zog uas lawv qhov kev siv yuav xav tau. Rau peb feem ntau, lub sijhawm zoo tshaj plaws yog thaum sawv ntxov. Yog li ntawd, thaum pib ntawm hnub, koj yuav tsum npaj tej yam uas yuav tsum tau siv zog thiab siab concentration. Tom qab ntawd, raws li "kev tuav tsis muaj zog", koj tuaj yeem txav mus rau cov haujlwm uas siv zog tsawg dua, txawm tias nws tau txheeb xyuas cov ntawv xa tuaj lossis hu xov tooj tsim nyog. Txoj kev no tsis zoo li yuav lav tias koj yuav muaj sijhawm rau txhua yam. Tab sis, tsawg kawg, nws yuav cawm koj ntawm cov xwm txheej thaum koj yuav tsum tau ua lub luag haujlwm ntawm lub sijhawm thaum koj tsis tau npaj txhij rau qhov no.
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Lwm qhov kev pom zoo los ntawm tus kws kho mob hlwb Josh Davis.2. Nws tawm tswv yim ib txoj kev ntawm "kev puas siab puas ntsws nyob deb". Sim xav txog tias koj tab tom saib ntawm koj tus kheej los ntawm qhov muag noog. Kaw koj ob lub qhov muag thiab xav txog. Pom tus txiv neej me me ntawd nyob deb li cas? Nws yog koj. Thiab koj xav li cas los ntawm qhov siab: dab tsi no tus txiv neej yuav tsum tsom rau tam sim no? Yuav ua li cas ua ntej? Nws yeej suab txawv txawv. Tab sis nws yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo.
Thiab thaum kawg, tus kawg. Tsis nco qab kev ntseeg. Yog tias cov npoj yaig (lossis cov thawj coj) nug (lossis xaj) kom tso tseg txhua yam thiab koom nrog qee qhov haujlwm tseem ceeb ntawm lawv, tsis txhob maj mus ua tus phab ej. Ua ntej, xyuas kom cov neeg ua haujlwm thiab cov tswj hwm paub meej txog qhov yuav raug tso tseg vim yog koj qhov kev hloov pauv. Nyob rau hauv ntev, muaj peev xwm hais tau rau thawj hu ntawm tus nqi ntawm cov hauj lwm koj ua yuav tsis txhim kho koj lub koob npe nrov nyob rau hauv tsawg tshaj plaws. Es qhov opposite.
1 S. Covey “Xya Cwj Pwm ntawm Cov Neeg Ua Tau Zoo. Cov cuab yeej tsim kho tus kheej muaj zog” (Alpina Publisher, 2016).
2 J. Davis «Ob Lub Sijhawm Zoo Tshaj Plaws: Kev Tshawb Fawb Txog Kev Tshawb Fawb los siv koj lub sijhawm zoo tshaj plaws thiab ua tiav koj txoj haujlwm tseem ceeb tshaj plaws» (HarperOne, 2015).