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Thawj kev hlub nyob rau hauv kindergarten
Raws li tus naas ej Italian psychologist Francesco Alberoni, cov me nyuam muaj feem yuav poob rau hauv kev hlub thaum lub sij hawm hloov loj nyob rau hauv lawv lub neej. Thaum lawv pib kawm kindergarten nyob ib ncig ntawm 3 xyoos, lawv feem ntau ntsib lawv thawj qhov kev xav. Thaum lub tsev kawm ntawv theem pib, lawv muaj peev xwm paub txog kev hlub tiag tiag. Nws pab lawv ntawm qee lub sijhawm kom xav tias tseem ceeb rau lwm tus menyuam, ib tus phooj ywg uas pab lawv sib haum xeeb nrog lwm tus. Raws li yog tus hlub me me yog "qhia", "txhawb" rau txoj kev mus rau lwm lub ntiaj teb.
Tsis txhob luag yog tias koj pom tias me ntsis tsis zoo los yog saum toj kawg nkaus. Qee cov menyuam yaus muaj kev xav zoo heev. Hloov chaw, tsis txhob ua nws lub neej hlub rau nws los ntawm kev tawm tswv yim tias nws muab khoom plig rau Valentine hnub piv txwv! Cia nws tswj tej yam uas twb muaj nyob rau hauv private sector!
Nws muaj tiag crushes
Cov menyuam yaus muaj kev xav tob heev rau qee tus phooj ywg. Lawv tau hooked atoms, nws yog qhov pom tseeb thiab qee zaum hnov zoo tiag tiag crushes. Lawv yog li tsim kom muaj " khub niam txiv" rau qhov zoo dua, kev ua si, tawg ntawm kev luag, thiab qhov phem dua, ntsib lwm tus, koom ua ke hauv pab pawg, tsis txhob cais tawm. Tab sis nws yog peb, cov neeg laus, uas feem ntau tawm tsam peb tus cwj pwm zoo rau lawv los ntawm kev xa lawv mus rau cov lus nug muaj hmoo: "Yog li, koj puas muaj tus hlub me me?" ".
Tsis txhob thawb nws los ntawm kev nug nws txhua 5 feeb yog tias nws hlub. Qee cov menyuam yaus tsis muaj ib lossis nyiam khaws cia rau lawv tus kheej. Nws yuav tsum tsis txhob xav tias nws yog ib lub luag haujlwm, lossis phem dua, tias nws yog "weird" vim nws tsis muaj.
Nws ntsia ib tug phooj ywg
Tib tus phooj ywg nws xav tau - txawm lees txais - caw yog Eléonore, "vim nws zoo nkauj thiab nws hlub nws thiab nws yuav yuav nws". Yog tias hmoov tsis nws tsis tuaj kawm ntawv ib hnub, nws nyuaj siab heev thiab cais nws tus kheej. Nws yog qhov xav xav tiag tiag, uas yuav luag ntshai koj! Cov menyuam yaus, txawm tias hluas heev, tuaj yeem hlub tag nrho. Lawv tuaj yeem ntsib kev mob siab rau tiag tiag nrog nws txoj kev xav thiab kev tsis txaus siab. Txawm li cas los xij, nws txawv ntawm kev mob siab rau ntawm cov neeg laus vim tus menyuam tsis muaj nws txoj hmoo hauv tes thiab nyob ntawm kev xav thiab khoom siv ntawm nws niam nws txiv.
Tsis txhob sim cais nws ntawm nws tus kheej ego. Qhov kev sib raug zoo no tseem ceeb rau nws, txawm tias nws zoo nkaus li tshwj xeeb rau koj. Txawm li cas los xij, qhov txaus ntshai nyob rau hauv hom "poj niam" no yog kev sib cais uas yuav tsis muaj tshwm sim ntawm ib zaug lossis lwm qhov, piv txwv li thaum hloov tsev kawm ntawv lossis chav kawm. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws yog npaj nws me ntsis. Los ntawm kev caw lwm tus comrades, los ntawm kev ua ib yam dab tsi cuam tshuam tag nrho, zoo li lub club ncaws pob uas lwm tus tsis mus.
Nws muaj ntau tus hlub
Niaj hnub no nws yog Margot lub brunette, thaum nag hmo nws yog Alicia nrog nws ntev blond ntxhais fuabtais plaub hau. Koj tus tub hloov cov neeg nyiam nyiam txhua lub sijhawm thiab nws zoo li ntxim nyiam txhua lub sijhawm! Nws yog hais tias lub hnub nyoog no suav peb zaug. Nws tuaj yeem muaj kev mob siab rau nrog Alicia uas yog "zoo nkauj li tus ntxhais huabtais" thiab tam sim no tau ntxim nyiam Margot vim nws tab tom ua kev cob qhia pleev xim nrog nws thiab tam sim no mus. Nco ntsoov tias lub neej yog lub luag haujlwm rau kev sib cais cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ntawd (tsiv, sib nrauj, hloov chav kawm). Zoo dua "paub" yuav hloov li cas! Qhov no tsis yog qhov zoo rau yav tom ntej. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum zam kom tsis txhob xauv nws hauv kev hlub engraved hauv pob zeb. Thiab nws yog qhov kev nyab xeeb thawj koom ruam uas koj tus menyuam muaj 4 xyoos Don Juan tus hlub yuav tsis dhau los ua koj tus ntxhais xeeb ntxwv!
Kuv tus menyuam thawj lub siab
Thawj lub siab mob thaum muaj 5 xyoos. Koj tsis tau xav txog nws! Thiab tseem nws yog heev tiag. Koj tus me nyuam muaj kev xav ntawm kev tso tseg thiab kev kho siab tiag tiag. Cov menyuam yaus feem ntau paub yuav ua li cas thiaj li tsim tau qhov tshwm sim rau lawv: "Kuv tu siab vim kuv tsis pom Victor lawm." Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem txo qhov kev raug mob: "Peb yuav caw nws rau lub lis piam" tab sis yuav tsum tuav lawv tus menyuam kom zoo hauv qhov tseeb, "Nws yuav tsis zoo li thaum koj nyob hauv tib chav kawm". Tsis txhob txo qhov mob siab vim tias koj tus menyuam yuav raug thuam. Qhov nws pom muaj zog heev, txawm tias nws tuaj yeem dhau mus sai heev. Thiab ntau qhov zoo dua! Saib xyuas nws lub vaj zais cia yog tias nws xav tau kev ceev ntiag tug, tab sis nyob twj ywm. Koj tseem tuaj yeem qhib qhov kev sib tham los ntawm kev tham txog koj tus kheej qhov kev paub: “Thaum kuv yog koj hnub nyoog, Pierre tau tsiv mus rau lub xyoo thiab kuv tu siab heev. Puas yog qhov tshwm sim rau koj? ”.
Nws siv nws lub siab zoo
Koj pab tsis tau tab sis saib hauv koj tus menyuam rau tus neeg laus nws yuav dhau los. Yog li thaum nws tus hluas nkauj ua rau nws ua txhua yam nws xav tau koj pom nws twb tso siab rau hauv nws txoj kev sib raug zoo. Kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov menyuam yaus feem ntau yog raws li kev sib raug zoo / kev sib raug zoo. Txhua tus neeg pom hauv qhov kev sib raug zoo no cov cim lawv tsis muaj: qhov tseem ceeb, kev siab zoo thiab kev ua siab mos siab muag, kev tswj hwm, lub zog thiab kev ua siab loj, piv txwv li. Lawv kawm ntau yam los ntawm cov kev sib raug zoo no. Nws tso cai rau lawv tso lawv tus kheej hauv kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus thiab paub txog lwm txoj hauv kev. Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj kom cia koj tus menyuam muaj lawv tus kheej kev paub thaum ua kom qhib kev sib tham. Tom qab ntawd nws tuaj yeem tham nrog koj txog yam uas yuav cuam tshuam rau nws. Feem ntau, tsis tas li ntawd, cov kws qhia ntawv tau mob siab rau kev sib raug zoo ntawm kev hlub lossis kev phooj ywg uas menyuam yaus muaj thiab ceeb toom koj yog tias lawv pom tias koj tus menyuam muaj kev ntxhov siab.
Nws xav tau koj kev txhawb nqa
Cov neeg laus nyiam muaj kev lom zem nrog cov "kev hlub". Rau Francesco Alberoni, lawv tsis nco qab qhov kev xav uas lawv tau ntsib thaum muaj hnub nyoog ntawm lawv tus menyuam, xav tias kev hlub yav dhau los tsis tseem ceeb dua li niaj hnub no. Qee lub sij hawm nws kuj yog qhov tsis muaj sij hawm los yog kev hwm rau kev ceev ntiag tug uas lawv niam lawv txiv tsis nyiam los yog tsis txaus siab rau nws. Txawm li cas los xij, kev sib pauv tseem ceeb. Tus me nyuam yuav tsum paub tias qhov nws xav li cas yog ntuj, yog li ntawd tej zaum koj yuav tau dhau los ntawm ib yam ntawm nws lub hnub nyoog. Nws yuav tsum tau muab cov lus rau nws lub siab me me uas ntaus nyuaj, rau txoj kev xav uas yuav kov yeej nws lossis ua rau nws ntshai. Nws tsim nyog "paub qhov seem": kom paub tias nws yuav loj hlob tuaj, paub tias tej zaum yuav dhau mus, lossis tsis, kom paub tias tej zaum nws yuav nyob hauv kev hlub nrog nws lossis nws yuav ntsib lwm tus. thiab hais tias nws muaj cai ua li ntawd… Koj tuaj yeem qhia nws tag nrho cov no, vim tias koj yog tus vector zoo tshaj plaws ntawm kev paub.