Cov lus nug tau nug los ntawm cov kws tshawb fawb loj. Thiab tam sim no txhua yam meej! Tab sis cov kws tshaj lij ceeb toom tias kom txhua yam ua haujlwm, kev qhuas tsis tas yuav yog kev ua haujlwm. Cov menyuam yaus rhiab heev rau kev dag.
Niam txiv sib txawv. Kev ywj pheej thiab kev tswj hwm, muaj kev saib xyuas zoo thiab tub nkeeg. Tab sis qhov tseeb txhua tus paub tseeb tias cov menyuam yuav tsum tau qhuas. Tab sis yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob overpraise? Txwv tsis pub, nws yuav dhau los ua neeg khav theeb, so ... Qhov lus nug no tau nug los ntawm cov kws tshaj lij, cov kws tshawb fawb los ntawm University of de Montfort hauv Great Britain.
Cov kws tshaj lij tau ua txoj kev tshawb fawb hnyav uas npog 38 tsev neeg nrog cov menyuam txij li ob txog plaub xyoos. Cov niam txiv tau hais kom sau cov ntawv nug uas lawv teb cov lus nug txog tus cwj pwm thiab kev nyob zoo ntawm lawv cov menyuam. Nws hloov tawm tias niam thiab txiv uas qhuas lawv cov menyuam rau tus cwj pwm zoo tsib zaug hauv ib hnub muaj cov menyuam zoo siab. Lawv tsis tshua muaj feem yuav muaj cov tsos mob ntawm hyperactivity thiab tsis mloog. Ntxiv mus, cov kws tshawb fawb tau sau tseg tias "vaunted" cov menyuam muaj kev ntseeg ruaj khov dua thiab yooj yim dua rau kev sib cuag nrog lwm tus. Lawv kev sib raug zoo yog mus nrog lub suab nrov!
Tom qab ntawd cov kws tshawb fawb tau mus ntxiv. Lawv tau teem sijhawm rau niam txiv thaum twg thiab yuav qhuas tus menyuam li cas. Niam thiab txiv yuav tsum qhia tus menyuam tias nws zoo npaum li cas, thiab tom qab ntawd sau cov kev hloov pauv hauv nws tus cwj pwm thiab kev sib raug zoo nrog tsev neeg thiab phooj ywg. Plaub lub lis piam tom qab, txhua tus niam txiv, tsis suav nrog, tau sau tseg tias tus menyuam tau nyob ntsiag to, nws tus cwj pwm hloov pauv mus rau qhov zoo dua, thiab feem ntau tus menyuam zoo siab dua li ua ntej. Nws hloov tawm tias kev hnyav hnyav ua rau menyuam yaus? Tsawg kawg tsis tsim nyog - kom paub tseeb.
Sue Westwood, tus kws qhia ntawv laus ntawm de Montfort University hais tias "Tus menyuam coj tus yam ntxwv zoo dua thiab zoo dua vim tias qhov ua tau zoo tau txais txiaj ntsig nrog kev qhuas".
Yog li dab tsi tshwm sim? Cov menyuam yaus xav tau kev sib txuas lus kom tau txais kev zoo siab - qhov no tau ua pov thawj ntev lawm. Tab sis kev xav ntawm lub siab, nws hloov tawm, tsis muaj qhov tseem ceeb dua.
Ntxiv mus, cov kws tshawb fawb teev tseg tias tsib zaug yog kev pom zoo, yuav luag los ntawm lub qab nthab, los ntawm kev pom zoo kom noj tsib pluag zaub thiab txiv hmab txiv ntoo ib hnub.
- Koj tuaj yeem qhuas ntau lossis tsawg zaus. Tab sis menyuam yaus yuav tsum tau hnov cov lus sov so tsis tu ncua rau ntau lub lis piam lossis hli, tsis yog ib hnub lossis ob hnub, hais tias Carol Sutton, ib tus kws tshawb fawb.
Txawm li cas los xij, txhua tus poj niam paub tias kev ua ntu zus yog qhov tseem ceeb hauv kev lag luam.
- Peb pom tus menyuam ntau zaus ntau thaum nws quaj ntau dua thaum nws nyeem phau ntawv ntsiag to. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom "ntes tau" lub sijhawm no, qhuas tus menyuam kom coj tus cwj pwm zoo txhawm rau coj ua qauv yav tom ntej. Koj tuaj yeem qhuas koj li kev ua tiav txhua hnub, xws li pab cov hluas, kawm caij tsheb kauj vab, lossis taug kev tus dev, Sutton qhia.
Tab sis nws kuj tseem tsis tsim nyog nqes kev qhuas rau txhua qhov txham. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tawm tsam qee qhov nyiaj tshuav.
Thiab los ntawm txoj kev, hais txog txiv hmab txiv ntoo. Koj tseem tuaj yeem qhuas tus menyuam thaum kawg noj zaub qhwv. Tej zaum tom qab ntawd nws tseem yuav hlub nws.