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Kev ntshai tshiab hauv cov menyuam yaus, dhau lawm
Cov me nyuam ntshai qhov tsaus ntuj, hma, dej, ntawm kev tso tseg ib leeg… Cov niam txiv paub los ntawm lub siab lub sij hawm thaum lawv cov me nyuam me ntshai thiab quaj heev lawv ntshai. Feem ntau, lawv kuj paub yuav ua li cas rau siab rau lawv thiab txhawb lawv. Nyob rau hauv xyoo tas los no, kev ntshai tshiab tau tshwm sim ntawm cov hluas tshaj plaws. Hauv cov nroog loj, cov menyuam yaus raug hais kom nthuav tawm cov duab tsausmuag uas ua rau lawv ntshai. Kev txiav txim siab nrog Saverio Tomasella, kws kho mob hauv tib neeg kev tshawb fawb thiab kws kho mob hlwb, tus sau ntawm "Kev ntshai me me lossis kev ntshai loj", luam tawm los ntawm Leduc.s éditions.
Kev ntshai dab tsi hauv cov menyuam yaus?
"Ib qho xwm txheej tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas tus menyuam muaj hnub nyoog 3 xyoos yuav ntsib yog thaum nws rov qab mus rau tsev kawm ntawv qib qis," piav qhia Saverio Tomasella ua ntej. Tus me nyuam mus los ntawm lub ntiaj teb kev tiv thaiv (cov chaw zov me nyuam, tus nais maum, niam, pog ...) mus rau lub ntiaj teb uas muaj ntau tus me nyuam me, tswj hwm los ntawm cov kev cai nruj thiab kev txwv. Nyob rau hauv luv luv, nws plunges mus rau hauv qhov kev ntxhov siab ntawm kev ua neej nyob. Qee lub sij hawm dhau los ua "lub hav zoov", lub tsev kawm ntawv yog thawj qhov chaw ntawm txhua qhov kev tshawb pom. Qee cov menyuam yaus yuav siv sijhawm ntau los sis tsawg dua los hloov mus rau qhov chaw tshiab no. Qee zaum txawm tias qee qhov xwm txheej yuav ntshai tus me nyuam yaus uas tab tom ua nws thawj kauj ruam hauv qib kindergarten. “Nws yog qhov zoo tshaj rau cov neeg laus kom ceev faj heev thaum lub sijhawm tseem ceeb no ntawm kev pib kawm ntawv. Qhov tseeb tiag, tus kws tshawb fawb txog kev puas siab puas ntsws qhia txog qhov tseeb tias peb yuam cov menyuam yaus yuav tsum tau tiv thaiv lawv tus kheej, ua tus tswj hwm, ua raws li ntau tus neeg laus, ua raws li cov cai ntawm tus cwj pwm zoo, thiab lwm yam. rau tus me nyuam. Nws feem ntau ntshai tsam ua phem, ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab, tsis ua raws li, "tus kws tshaj lij hais. Yog tus menyuam khaws nws daim pam nrog nws, nws yuav nplij nws siab. "Nws yog ib txoj hauv kev rau tus menyuam kom rov hais tau nws tus kheej, suav nrog los ntawm kev nqus nws tus ntiv tes xoo, daim ntawv ntawm kev sib cuag nrog nws lub cev yog qhov tseem ceeb", qhia txog tus kws kho mob hlwb.
Kev ntshai tshiab uas ntshai cov menyuam yaus
Dr Saverio Tomasella explains that he receives more and more children in consultation who evoke fears linked to new modes of communication in large cities (stations, metro corridors, etc.). “The child is confronted with certain violent images on a daily basis”, denounces the specialist. Indeed, screens or posters stage an advertisement in the form of a video, for example the trailer of a horror film or one comprising scenes of a sexual nature, or of a video game, sometimes violent and above all which is meant to be adults only. “The child is thus confronted with images which do not concern him. Advertisers primarily target adults. But as they are broadcast in a public place, children see them anyway, ”explains the specialist. It would be interesting to understand how it is possible to have a double talk to parents. They are asked to protect their children with parental control software on the home computer, to ensure that they respect the signage of films on television, and in public spaces, “hidden” and not intended images. toddlers are displayed without censorship on city walls. Saverio Tomasella agrees with this analysis. “The child says it clearly: he is really afraid of his images. They are scary for him, ”confirms the specialist. Moreover, the child receives these images without filters. The parent or accompanying adult should discuss this with them. Other fears concern the tragic events in Paris and Nice in recent months. Faced with the horror of the attacks, many families were hit hard. “After the terrorist attacks, televisions broadcast a lot of highly violent images. In some families, the evening television news can take up a fairly large place at mealtimes, in a deliberate desire to “keep informed”. Children living in such families have more nightmares, have less restful sleep, pay less attention in class and sometimes even develop fears about the realities of everyday life. “Each child needs to grow up in an environment that reassures and reassures them,” explains Saverio Tomasella. “Faced with the horror of the attacks, if the child is young, it is better to say as little as possible. Do not give details to the little ones, talk to them simply, do not use vocabulary or violent words, and do not use the word “fear”, for example ”, also recalls the psychoanalyst.
Cov niam txiv tus cwj pwm hloov mus rau qhov kev ntshai ntawm tus menyuam
Saverio Tomasella yog categorical: “Tus menyuam nyob hauv qhov xwm txheej tsis nyob deb. Piv txwv li, cov ntawv tshaj tawm lossis cov ntxaij vab tshaus yog nyob rau hauv qhov chaw pej xeem, sib koom los ntawm txhua tus, cov neeg laus thiab menyuam yaus, nyob deb ntawm kev txhawb nqa tsev neeg cocoon. Kuv nco qab ib tug me nyuam tub muaj 7 xyoo uas tau hais rau kuv tias nws ntshai npaum li cas hauv metro thaum nws pom daim ntawv tshaj tawm ntawm chav pw poob rau hauv qhov tsaus ntuj ", ua tim khawv rau tus kws tshaj lij. Cov niam txiv feem ntau xav tias yuav ua li cas. “Yog tias tus menyuam tau pom daim duab, nws yuav tsum tham txog nws. Ua ntej tshaj plaws, tus neeg laus tso cai rau tus menyuam los qhia nws tus kheej, thiab qhib qhov kev sib tham mus rau qhov siab tshaj plaws. Nug nws seb nws xav li cas thaum nws pom cov duab zoo li no, nws ua li cas rau nws. Qhia rau nws thiab paub tseeb tias qhov tseeb, rau ib tug me nyuam ntawm nws lub hnub nyoog, nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum ntshai, tias nws pom zoo nrog qhov nws xav. Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem hais ntxiv tias nws yog qhov txaus ntshai tiag tiag uas tau nthuav tawm cov duab no, "nws piav qhia. "Yog, nws txaus ntshai, koj hais yog lawm": tus kws tshawb fawb txog kev puas siab puas ntsws xav tias ib tus yuav tsum tsis txhob yig piav nws li no. Lwm cov lus qhia, tsis tas yuav tsum nyob ntawm qhov kev kawm, thaum cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb tau hais, tus neeg laus tuaj yeem txav mus los, tsis muaj qhov tseem ceeb heev rau qhov xwm txheej, thiaj li tsis ua rau qhov xwm txheej. "Hauv qhov no, tus neeg laus tuaj yeem coj tus cwj pwm zoo, mloog zoo rau qhov tus menyuam tau xav, rau qhov nws xav txog nws", xaus lus tus kws tshawb fawb psychoanalyst.