Ntau tus niam txiv paub tseeb tias kev hais lus ua phem rau tus menyuam - nws cuam tshuam nws txoj kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus, qhia nws kom hloov cov lus thiab feem ntau ua rau kev loj hlob ntawm tus cwj pwm. Puas yog li ntawd? Cia peb mloog cov kev xav ntawm tus kws kho mob tshwj xeeb, tus kws kho mob hlwb perinatal Elena Patrikeyeva.
Me nyuam tham yog ib hom lus siv los ntawm cov niam txiv hauv ntau lub teb chaws. Thaum tham nrog cov menyuam yaus, lawv tsis tuaj yeem ua kom ntev lub suab, distort suab (ua rau lawv ntau "me nyuam yaus" thiab tsis meej), thiab kev hais lus feem ntau ua suab nrov dua.
Cov neeg uas hais lus Lavxias siv cov lus tsis txaus ntseeg (khawm, lub raj mis, pob). Thiab, ntawm chav kawm, "lisping" (txhua yam "usi-pusi", "bibika" thiab "lyalka"), uas nyuaj rau kev txhais.
Qhov no yog li cas cov niam txiv feem ntau tham nrog lawv cov menyuam. Vim li cas thiab vim li cas?
Ua ntej tshaj plaws, qhov no yog ib qho kev xav ntawm cov xim uas hais rau tus menyuam. Nws suab mos thiab sov. Nrog luag luag ntxhi.
Qhov no yog qhov peb tsim kev sib cuag nrog tus menyuam, soothe nws.
Yog li peb tshaj tawm tias txhua yam zoo, nws zoo siab txais tos ntawm no thiab nyab xeeb ntawm no.
Txij li thaum ancient sij hawm, cov niam txiv nyob rau hauv txawv haiv neeg muaj ib tug me nyuam rhymes siv. Thiab tsis muaj leej twg muaj lus nug, tab sis nws puas tsim nyog, tab sis nws puas ua tau, thiab nws tsis muaj teeb meem los hais lus thiab sib txuas lus zoo li ntawd nrog tus menyuam. Empirically, tib neeg pom tias cov menyuam yaus ua siab mos siab muag, mloog zoo rau tus neeg laus, ua raws li lawv lub qhov muag, thiab tom qab ntawd, ib hlis thiab ib nrab, muab nws thawj luag nyav. Cov lus zoo li no yog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog cov menyuam mos.
Tam sim no peb muaj kev nkag tau mus rau tam sim no qhov tsis pom cov ntaub ntawv, uas ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab inevitably. Vim hais tias cov ntaub ntawv yog contradictory nyob rau hauv qhov chaw. Thiab ntawm txhua qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb, koj yuav tsum txiav txim siab qee yam ntawm koj tus kheej.
Thiab tam sim no cov niam txiv pib nug cov lus nug: feem ntau nws puas yog ib qho uas kuv dheev poob rau thaum yau ntawm lub tshuab nrog kuv tus menyuam yug los thiab pib lis? Yuav ua li cas yog nws loj hlob mos thiab pampered vim qhov no? Yuav ua li cas yog tus me nyuam tsis xav zoo li ib tug neeg? Yuav ua li cas yog, distorting cov lus, kuv lwj nws articulation?
Kuv yuav teb luv luv. Zoo. Tsis muaj.
Thiab tam sim no ntxiv.
Tus cwj pwm, tus cwj pwm thiab lus
Kuv rov hais dua: Cov lus tshwj xeeb yog xav tau rau kev sib txuas lus ntawm kev xav. Thiab nws yog ib qho kev lees paub ntawm kev nyab xeeb ntawm tus menyuam, thiab yog li nws txoj kev loj hlob ib txwm muaj. Nws puas cuam tshuam rau kev tsim tus cwj pwm?
Cia peb qhia meej: lub hauv paus ntawm tus cwj pwm (tus cwj pwm zoo thiab cov qauv ntawm cov lus teb rau ntau yam xwm txheej) yog nteg conditionally mus txog tsib xyoos. Thiab cov menyuam mos tseem muaj cov yam ntxwv ntawm kev npau taws thiab kev ua haujlwm ntawm lub paj hlwb. Thiab ntev heev, nrog rau peb tus cwj pwm, peb tsuas yog them nyiaj los yog txhawb kom meej meej cov kev tshwm sim no. Maj mam, thaum tus me nyuam loj hlob tuaj, peb, nrog peb cov kev cuam tshuam rau nws qhov kev ua (ua ke nrog nws tus yam ntxwv), pib ua tus cwj pwm.
Txawm hais tias tus me nyuam yuav tsim kev qhuab qhia tus kheej, yuav ua li cas, thiab lwm yam, nyob ntawm seb cov neeg laus txhawb nws txoj kev tshawb fawb li cas, kev pib. Lawv puas yuav pab kawm tej yam tshiab lossis, piv txwv li hais, lawv puas yuav nkaum hauv lub cocoon ntawm niam txiv kev ntxhov siab.
Ib tug mos mos babble tsis muaj dab tsi ua nrog nws. Yog tias koj muab sijhawm rau koj tus menyuam kom maj mam cais tawm ntawm koj, txiav txim siab, ntsib qhov tshwm sim ntawm cov kev txiav txim siab no, koj tuaj yeem hu nws "bubusechka" mus txog rau hnub nyoog laus.
Ntxiv mus. Nyob rau hauv niaj hnub humanistic haiv neeg, tus cwj pwm ntawm tus me nyuam tau hloov. Peb sim kho cov me nyuam raws li ib tug neeg txij thaum yug los. Tab sis cia peb xam seb nws yog dab tsi.
Qhov no feem ntau txhais tau tias: “Kuv hwm koj cov kev xav tau thiab kev xav, tus me nyuam, thiab kuv paub tias koj tsis yog kuv lub cuab tam. Kuv nkag siab tias tej zaum koj yuav muaj koj tus kheej xav, koj tus kheej nyiam thiab saj txawv ntawm kuv. Koj, zoo li txhua tus neeg, xav tau kev hwm rau koj thaj tsam thiab kev nyab xeeb. Koj tsis xav kom qw, ntaus lossis thuam. Tab sis tib lub sij hawm, koj me me thiab nyuam qhuav yug los. Thiab ib qho ntawm koj cov kev xav tau yog kev sib raug zoo nrog kuv, koj niam koj txiv. Thiab lisping zoo kawg nkaus txaus siab rau qhov kev xav tau no.
Kev hwm zoo heev. Extremes nyob rau hauv dab tsi - tsis yog.
3D
Raws li rau articulation. Tib neeg hais lus tsim los ntawm kev coj ua, nws muaj tseeb. Yog vim li cas 2D cartoons muaj kev cuam tshuam tsis zoo rau kev loj hlob ntawm kev hais lus (nyob rau hauv rooj plaub uas, sib nrug ntawm lawv, tus me nyuam tsis muaj lwm yam qauv).
Xav tau 3D qauv. Ua kom pom tseeb thiab pom tseeb raws nraim li cas daim di ncauj thiab tus nplaig txav. Thaum xub thawj, tus me nyuam tsuas yog nqus cov suab thiab cov duab, thiab cooing (thawj "hais lus") tsuas yog muab los ntawm 2-4 lub hlis. Cov lus babbling yuav tshwm sim los ntawm 7-8 lub hlis.
Thiab txawm tias thaum koj distort lo lus nws tus kheej, tus me nyuam nyeem li cas koj articulate (saib li cas koj quav koj daim di ncauj, qhov twg koj muab koj tus nplaig), thiab tseem yuav xyaum koj.
Tsis tas li ntawd, los ntawm ib lub hnub nyoog - qhov tseeb, txij li lub hnub nyoog ntawm ob peb lub hlis - nws yuav muaj peev xwm mloog zoo heev ntawm kev hais lus ntawm cov neeg laus, ntawm niam txiv thiab lwm tus menyuam. Thiab koj lis lus, thiab kev sib tham nyob ib puag ncig nws - qhov no yog qhov chaw muaj txiaj ntsig uas hais lus tau tsim yav tom ntej.
Thaum twg thiaj li yuav ploj mus? Ntawm no yog ib qho exaggerated los ntawm lub xyoo feem ntau mus deb ntawm nws tus kheej. Tab sis txawm tias tom qab ib xyoos cov lus "me nyuam yaus" tsis ploj mus, tsis txhob maj mus dai cov ntawv thiab kuaj mob. Ib qho "cov tsos mob" yuav tsum tsis txhob siv los xaus qhov tshwm sim nrog cov txheej txheem ntawm kev sib cais lossis ciam teb hauv tsev neeg.
Puas muaj hnub nyoog thaum nws yuav tsum tsis txhob hnia cov tub? Qhia kev hlub? Tenderness thiab warmth tsis suav nrog kev noj qab haus huv thiab txaus ciam teb. Hauv ib lo lus, tsis txhob ntshai "overlove" koj cov menyuam.