txheem
- 1. Tsis txhob hnov qab hais ib zaug ntxiv tias hlub ib leeg
- 2. Sim mus pw tib lub sijhawm
- 3. Tua cov xov tooj thiab lwm yam khoom siv
- 4. Saib xyuas kom noj qab nyob zoo thiab pw tsaug zog tag nrho
- 5. Nco ntsoov ua Vajtswv tsaug
- 6. Tsis txhob sim txheeb tej yam tawm
- 7. Siv sijhawm los tham txog kev xav.
- 8. Tsis pub menyuam yaus nyob hauv chav pw.
Nrog rau kev ntxhov siab ntawm lub neej niaj hnub no, kev saib xyuas menyuam yaus, cov nqi them tsis tau them, kev ntxhov siab txhua hnub, nws tsis xav tsis thoob tias ntau tus khub niam txiv nyuaj nrhiav sijhawm los txuas. Yog li ntawd, lub sij hawm thaum koj tswj kom nyob ib leeg yog qhov tseem ceeb. Nov yog yam uas psychologists qhia kom ua kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog tus khub.
Lub txaj txij nkawm yog qhov chaw uas koj nyob ib leeg nrog ib leeg, nws yuav tsum yog qhov chaw pw, pw ua ke thiab sib tham. Cov khub niam txiv zoo siab siv sijhawm zoo, txawm tias nws yog ib teev ib hnub lossis 10 feeb. Lawv ua raws li kev cai dab qhuas uas pab tswj kev sib raug zoo hauv kev sib raug zoo.
1. Tsis txhob hnov qab hais ib zaug ntxiv tias hlub ib leeg
"Txawm hais tias muaj kev txhawj xeeb ntawm hnub thiab txhua yam uas cuam tshuam rau koj ib leeg, kev ntxhov siab txog tag kis, tsis txhob hnov qab qhia koj tus khub tias koj hlub nws npaum li cas. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tsis txhob yws ib yam dab tsi zoo li "Kuv hlub koj," tab sis hais kom nws tiag," tus kws kho mob hlwb Ryan House tau hais.
2. Sim mus pw tib lub sijhawm
"Feem ntau cov neeg koom tes tsis pom ib leeg txhua hnub, siv sijhawm yav tsaus ntuj sib cais thiab mus pw thaum sib txawv," tus kws kho mob hlwb Kurt Smith hais. “Tab sis cov khub niam txiv zoo siab tsis nco lub sijhawm los nyob ua ke - piv txwv li, lawv txhuam hniav ua ke thiab mus pw. Nws pab kom muaj kev sov siab thiab kev sib raug zoo hauv kev sib raug zoo. "
3. Tua cov xov tooj thiab lwm yam khoom siv
"Nyob rau hauv lub ntiaj teb niaj hnub no, txhua yam yog nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, thiab qhov no tsis muaj sijhawm rau cov neeg koom tes sib txuas lus - kev sib tham, kev sib nyiam, kev sib raug zoo ntawm lub hlwb thiab lub cev. Thaum tus khub tau nkag mus rau hauv lub xov tooj, nws zoo li nws tsis nrog koj hauv chav, tab sis lwm qhov, tus kws kho mob hlwb Kari Carroll hais. - Ntau tus khub niam txiv uas tuaj kho thiab paub txog qhov teeb meem no qhia txog kev cai hauv tsev neeg: « xov tooj raug kaw tom qab 9 teev tsaus ntuj» lossis « tsis muaj xov tooj hauv txaj. »
Yog li lawv tawm tsam kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj hauv kev sib raug zoo, uas txhawb kev tsim cov tshuaj dopamine (nws yog lub luag haujlwm rau kev ntshaw thiab kev txhawb zog), tab sis suppress oxytocin, uas cuam tshuam nrog kev xav ntawm kev sib raug zoo thiab kev hlub.
4. Saib xyuas kom noj qab nyob zoo thiab pw tsaug zog tag nrho
"Piv rau cov lus qhia kom hnia ib hmo zoo, sib hlub, los yog qhia rau koj tus khub tias koj hlub lawv, cov lus qhia kom tau pw tsaug zog zoo tsis zoo li romantic," hais tias psychotherapist Michelle Weiner-Davies, tus sau ntawm Stop the Kev sib nrauj. "Tab sis kev pw tsaug zog zoo yog qhov tseem ceeb heev rau kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev noj qab haus huv, nws pab koj muaj kev xav ntau dua rau hnub tom qab. Yog tias koj muaj teeb meem nrog kev pw tsaug zog thiab koj daws tsis tau koj tus kheej, tham nrog tus kws kho mob tshwj xeeb uas tuaj yeem pab koj txhim kho kev noj qab haus huv. "
5. Nco ntsoov ua Vajtswv tsaug
“Kev xav ua tsaug muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau lub siab thiab tus cwj pwm, vim li cas ho tsis qhia kev ris txiaj ua ke? Ua ntej yuav mus pw, qhia peb tias vim li cas koj ua tsaug rau ib hnub thiab ib leeg, Ryan House qhia. - Tej zaum cov no yog qee qhov zoo ntawm tus khub uas koj txaus siab tshwj xeeb, lossis cov xwm txheej zoo siab ntawm hnub dhau los, lossis lwm yam. Ua li ntawd koj tuaj yeem xaus hnub ntawm daim ntawv zoo. "
6. Tsis txhob sim txheeb tej yam tawm
“Hauv cov khub niam txiv zoo siab, cov neeg koom tes tsis sim daws txhua qhov sib txawv ua ntej yuav mus pw. Nws tsis yog ib lub tswv yim zoo uas yuav muaj kev sib tham loj txog cov ncauj lus uas koj muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb, thaum koj ob leeg nkees thiab nyuaj rau tswj kev xav, Kurt Smith ceeb toom. "Muaj ntau tus khub niam txiv ua yuam kev ntawm kev sib cav ua ntej pw, nws yog qhov zoo dua los siv lub sijhawm no los ntawm kev nyob ze dua es tsis txhob txav deb ntawm ib leeg."
7. Siv sijhawm los tham txog kev xav.
“Cov neeg koom tes niaj hnub sib tham txog txhua yam uas ua rau lawv ntxhov siab thiab muab sijhawm rau sib tham. Qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias yav tsaus ntuj yuav tsum mob siab rau kev sib tham txog teeb meem, tab sis nws tsim nyog siv 15-30 feeb los qhia cov kev paub thiab txhawb nqa koj tus khub. Yog li koj qhia tias koj mob siab txog qhov ntawd ntawm nws lub neej uas tsis cuam tshuam ncaj qha rau koj, qhia Kari Carroll. "Kuv qhia cov neeg siv khoom kom mloog lawv tus khub kev txhawj xeeb thiab tsis txhob sim nrhiav tam sim rau kev daws teeb meem.
Feem ntau, tib neeg ua tsaug rau lub cib fim hais tawm. Kev nkag siab thiab kev txhawb nqa ua rau koj muaj zog uas pab koj daws kev ntxhov siab rau hnub tom ntej. "
8. Tsis pub menyuam yaus nyob hauv chav pw.
“Lub chav pw yuav tsum yog koj thaj chaw ntiag tug, nkag tau rau ob leeg xwb. Qee lub sij hawm cov me nyuam thov kom nyob hauv lawv niam lawv txiv lub txaj thaum lawv mob lossis npau suav phem. Tab sis feem ntau, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tso me nyuam mus rau hauv koj chav pw, hais Michelle Weiner-Davies. "Ib nkawm niam txiv xav tau qhov chaw ntawm tus kheej thiab ciam teb kom nyob ze."