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Leej twg ntawm peb tsis tau tsaug zog thaum hmo ntuj, tsis tuaj yeem xav txog tej yam tsis zoo? Thiab thaum nruab hnub, thaum ua haujlwm ntawm cov dej num zoo tib yam, kev ntxhov siab yuav tsis mus qhov twg. Yuav ua li cas thaum ntawd?
Qhov kev ntshai ntawm kev ntshai no yog qhov tsis txaus siab tshwj xeeb thiab tsis tuaj yeem tiv taus vim tias nws nyuaj heev kom tshem tawm. Nws zoo li hluav taws kub uas tsuas yog kub thaum koj tshuab hluav taws xob. Yog li peb qhov kev sim kom tsis txhob xav txog qhov phem tsuas yog ua rau muaj kev xav ntau ntxiv, thiab, raws li, muaj kev ntxhov siab ntau ntxiv.
Nov yog 7 yam uas yuav pab nws yeej:
1. Tsis txhob ntshai
Kev ntshai tsis yog koj, tsis yog koj tus cwj pwm, tab sis tsuas yog kev xav xwb. Thiab rau qee yam nws xav tau. Kev tawm tsam thiab kev mloog rau kev ntshai pub rau nws, yog li ua ntej koj yuav tsum tau txo qis ntawm nws qhov tseem ceeb. Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws.
2. Ntsuas nws
Xav txog tias muaj qhov ntsuas qhov twg 0 yog "tsis txaus ntshai" thiab 10 yog "kev ntshai txaus ntshai". Qhov tshwm sim ntawm qee qhov kev ntsuas yuav pab koj kawm koj cov lus teb thiab cuam tshuam kev ntshai rau hauv nws cov khoom: "Dab tsi hauv zaj dab neeg no ua rau kuv ntshai 6 ntawm 10? Muaj pes tsawg lub ntsiab lus yuav haum kuv? Qhov kev ntshai no yuav zoo li cas yog tias kuv tsuas yog 2-3 ntsiab lus ntshai? Kuv yuav ua li cas thiaj tau mus txog qib ntawd?”
3. Xav txog kev ntshai paub
Siv qhov xwm txheej phem tshaj plaws: Dab tsi yog qhov phem tshaj plaws uas tuaj yeem tshwm sim yog tias koj qhov kev ntshai tshwm sim? Feem ntau, tib neeg tuaj txog qhov xaus tias qhov tshwm sim hauv qhov xwm txheej no tuaj yeem ua rau tsis kaj siab, mob, tab sis tsis tsim nyog rau kev zoo siab. Txawm zoo dua, yog tias koj coj lub tswv yim ntawm kev ntshai heev mus rau qhov tsis txaus ntseeg, nthuav tawm cov xwm txheej tsis tseeb tshaj plaws. Koj yuav hnov funny, lom zem yuav dilute ntshai, thiab nro yuav txo.
4. Saib kev ntshai ntawm lwm sab
Sim nkag siab txog qhov txiaj ntsig uas nws tuaj yeem nqa tau, thiab lees txais nws. Piv txwv li, kev ntshai feem ntau ua haujlwm kom peb muaj kev nyab xeeb. Tab sis ua tib zoo saib: qee zaum kev ntshai tsis ua qhov zoo, uas yog, qhov "ua" zoo. Piv txwv li, yog tias koj ntshai nyob ib leeg, qhov kev ntshai no tuaj yeem ua rau koj txoj kev tshawb nrhiav rau tus khub tshwj xeeb yog kev ntxhov siab thiab ua rau tsis ua haujlwm. Yog li ntawd, nws tsim nyog lees txais nws qhov kev xav zoo, tab sis sim ua kom zoo rau qhov teeb meem no kom zoo thiab muaj kev xav.
5. Sau ib tsab ntawv kom ntshai
Qhia koj txoj kev xav rau nws thiab ua nws tsaug rau qhov txiaj ntsig uas koj nyuam qhuav pom hauv nws. Kuv paub tseeb tias thaum koj sau ntawv, kev ris txiaj yuav nce ntxiv. Tab sis ua tsaug rau nws los ntawm hauv qab ntawm koj lub siab, vim kev ntshai xav tias insincerity. Thiab tom qab ntawd koj tuaj yeem hais ncaj ncees rau nws kom loosen lub vise thiab muab kev ywj pheej rau koj. Tej zaum koj kuj tseem xav sau tsab ntawv teb sawv cev ntawm kev ntshai - qhov no yog qhov pib ua haujlwm tob dua.
6. Ua rau koj ntshai
Nyob rau theem no, kev ntshai obsessive feem ntau yuav tsis thab koj, tab sis yog tias qhov no tseem tsis tau tshwm sim, kos nws raws li koj xav.
Cia nws tsis kaj siab, nrog tentacles thiab ib tug txaus ntshai twisted lub qhov ncauj. Tom qab ntawd, sim ua kom nws npub, daj ntseg, qhov muag plooj - tshem tawm nws cov duab nrog cov lwv, cia nws maj mam sib koom ua ke nrog daim ntawv dawb thiab nws lub zog tshaj koj tsis muaj zog. Thiab nws kuj tseem tuaj yeem ua rau nws ntxim hlub txaus: "dawb thiab fluffy", nws tsis lees tias yog lub zog ntawm npau suav phem.
7. Tsis txhob zam Nws
Cov tshuaj tiv thaiv rau ib qho kev txhawb nqa yuav ploj mus: koj tsis tuaj yeem ntshai ntawm qhov siab yog tias koj nyob hauv ib lub skyscraper. Yog li ntawd, sim nrhiav koj tus kheej hauv cov xwm txheej uas koj ntshai. Taug kev mus rau hauv lawv, taug qab koj cov kev cuam tshuam ib kauj ruam. Txawm hais tias koj ntshai, koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias koj muaj kev xaiv rau koj li cas tam sim no. Koj tuaj yeem ua rau koj tus kheej nyob rau hauv ib qho kev ntxhov siab ib ntus thiab kev ntxhov siab thiab tawm tsam kev ntshai lossis tsis kam ua txhua yam.
Nco ntsoov tias koj nyob ib leeg hauv koj lub tsev, thiab saib xyuas koj tus kheej tsis yog nyob rau lub sijhawm ntawm kev ntshai, tab sis thoob plaws koj lub neej. Khaws qhov chaw nyab xeeb hauv koj tus kheej thiab zam kev sib tshuam ntawm cov xeev ntxhov siab tshiab nrog kev ntshai yav dhau los. Ua tib zoo saib xyuas koj tus kheej, thiab tom qab ntawd tsis muaj qhov xwm txheej sab nraud yuav cuam tshuam koj ntawm lub xeev ntawm kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb thiab kev ntseeg siab hauv ntiaj teb.
Hais txog tus kws tshaj lij
Olga Bakshutova - neuropsychologist, kws kho mob. Lub taub hau ntawm kev pab tswv yim kho mob ntawm lub tuam txhab.