Tsev neeg quarrels, aggression, kev nruj kev tsiv… Txhua tsev neeg muaj nws tus kheej teeb meem, tej zaum kuj ua yeeb yam. Yuav ua li cas tus me nyuam, txuas ntxiv hlub nws niam nws txiv, tiv thaiv nws tus kheej ntawm kev ua phem? Thiab qhov tseem ceeb tshaj, koj yuav zam txim rau lawv li cas? Cov lus nug no tau tshawb nrhiav los ntawm tus ua yeeb yam, tus kws sau ntawv thiab tus thawj coj Maiwenn le Besco hauv zaj yeeb yaj kiab Excuse Me.
«"- thawj txoj haujlwm ntawm Mayvenn le Besco. Nws tau tawm hauv xyoo 2006. Txawm li cas los xij, zaj dab neeg ntawm Juliette, uas tab tom ua yeeb yaj kiab hais txog nws tsev neeg, cuam tshuam txog qhov mob hnyav heev. Raws li zaj dab neeg, tus heroine muaj lub sijhawm los nug nws txiv txog qhov laj thawj ntawm kev ua phem rau nws. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, peb tsis tas yuav twv kom tsa cov teeb meem uas cuam tshuam rau peb. Tab sis tus thawj coj paub meej: peb yuav tsum. Yuav ua li cas?
IB TUG ME NYUAM TSIS XAV TIAS
"Lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb thiab nyuaj tshaj plaws rau cov menyuam yaus yog kom nkag siab tias qhov xwm txheej tsis zoo li qub," Maiwenn hais. Thiab thaum ib tug ntawm cov niam txiv tsis tu ncua thiab pheej kho koj, yuav tsum ua raws li cov lus txib uas tshaj nws niam txiv txoj cai, qhov no tsis yog ib txwm muaj. Tab sis cov me nyuam feem ntau yuam kev rau qhov kev qhia txog kev hlub.
Dominique Fremy, tus kws kho mob neuropsychiatrist hais ntxiv tias "Qee tus menyuam yaus tuaj yeem tswj kev ua phem ntau dua li kev tsis quav ntsej," hais ntxiv.
Paub txog qhov no, cov tswv cuab ntawm Fab Kis lub koom haum Enfance et partage tau tso tawm ib daim ntawv qhia uas cov menyuam yaus piav qhia lawv txoj cai yog dab tsi thiab yuav ua li cas rau cov neeg laus ua phem.
RAIS lub tswb yog thawj kauj ruam
Txawm tias thaum tus menyuam paub tias qhov xwm txheej tsis zoo li qub, kev mob thiab kev hlub rau cov niam txiv pib tawm tsam hauv nws. Maiwenn paub tseeb tias feem ntau qhov kev xav tau qhia cov menyuam yaus kom tiv thaiv lawv cov txheeb ze: "Kuv tus kws qhia ntawv hauv tsev kawm ntawv yog thawj tus ua suab ceeb toom, leej twg, thaum nws pom kuv lub ntsej muag, nws yws rau cov thawj coj. Kuv txiv tuaj kawm ntawv rau kuv los kua muag, nug vim li cas kuv thiaj qhia txhua yam. Thiab lub sijhawm ntawd, kuv ntxub tus xibhwb uas ua rau nws quaj.”
Nyob rau hauv qhov xwm txheej tsis meej, cov menyuam yaus tsis yog ib txwm npaj los tham txog lawv niam lawv txiv thiab ntxuav cov ntaub pua chaw qias neeg. "Nws cuam tshuam nrog kev tiv thaiv cov xwm txheej zoo li no," Dr. Fremy hais ntxiv. Tsis muaj leej twg xav ntxub lawv niam lawv txiv.
IB TUG TXIV NTXIV
Loj hlob tuaj, cov menyuam yaus hnov qhov txawv ntawm lawv qhov raug mob: qee qhov sim tshem tawm cov kev nco tsis zoo, lwm tus ua txhaum kev sib raug zoo nrog lawv tsev neeg, tab sis teeb meem tseem nyob.
"Feem ntau, nws yog lub sijhawm pib lawv tsev neeg uas cov neeg raug tsim txom hauv tsev yuav tsum paub meej tias qhov kev ntshaw kom muaj menyuam muaj feem cuam tshuam nrog kev xav rov qab los ntawm lawv tus kheej," said Dr. Fremy. Kev loj hlob ntawm cov menyuam yaus tsis xav tau kev ntsuas tawm tsam lawv cov niam txiv tsim txom, tab sis kev lees paub ntawm lawv qhov kev ua yuam kev.
Nov yog qhov Maiwenn tab tom sim qhia: "Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog cov neeg laus lees paub lawv tus kheej ua yuam kev ua ntej lub tsev hais plaub lossis pej xeem xav ua."
THOV LUB ROOJ
Feem ntau, cov niam txiv uas coj tus cwj pwm nruj rau lawv cov menyuam, dhau los, tau txais kev hlub thaum yau. Tab sis tsis muaj txoj hauv kev los rhuav tshem lub voj voog no? Maiwenn hais tias, "Kuv tsis tau ntaus kuv tus menyuam," tab sis ib zaug kuv hais rau nws hnyav heev uas nws hais tias: "Niam, kuv ntshai koj." Tom qab ntawd kuv ntshai tias kuv tau rov ua tus cwj pwm ntawm kuv niam kuv txiv, txawm hais tias nyob rau hauv ib daim ntawv sib txawv. Tsis txhob me nyuam koj tus kheej: yog tias koj tau ntsib kev ua phem thaum ib tug menyuam yaus, muaj feem ntau uas koj yuav rov ua tus cwj pwm no. Yog li ntawd, koj yuav tsum tau tig mus rau ib tus kws kho mob tshwj xeeb kom tso koj tus kheej los ntawm cov teeb meem sab hauv.
Txawm hais tias koj tsis zam txim rau koj niam koj txiv, tsawg kawg koj yuav tsum tso tseg qhov xwm txheej kom txuag tau koj txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog koj cov menyuam.
Source: Doctissimo.