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Hauv cov khub niam txiv uas muaj lub siab sib txawv, nws tuaj yeem nyuaj rau kev nkag siab txog kev sib nrig sib. Thaum cov neeg koom tes pib ua neej nyob ua ke, qhov sib txawv ntawm qhov sib txawv ntawm lub neej thiab kev saj tuaj yeem ua rau kev sib raug zoo. Yuav zam tau li cas? Cov lus qhia los ntawm Sophia Dembling, tus sau phau ntawv nrov The Introvert Way.
1. Sib tham ib thaj tsam
Introverts hlub ciam teb (txawm tias lawv tsis lees nws). Lawv zoo siab tsuas yog nyob rau hauv ib tug zoo-mastered, paub qhov chaw. Qhov no siv rau ob yam khoom thiab rituals. “Koj puas noj kuv lub mloog pob ntseg dua? Vim li cas koj ho rov kho kuv lub rooj zaum? Koj ntxuav koj chav, tab sis tam sim no kuv nrhiav tsis tau dab tsi. » Tej yam uas zoo li tej yam ntuj tso rau koj tej zaum yuav pom tau los ntawm koj tus khub introverted li intrusion.
Sophia Dembling hais tias "Nws yog qhov zoo thaum tus khub qhib ntau hwm tus kheej ntawm lwm tus," Sophia Dembling hais. Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias koj yuav tsum tsis nco qab txog koj tus kheej. Ib yam li lwm qhov xwm txheej, kev sib haum xeeb tseem ceeb ntawm no. Siv sij hawm los tham txog qhov zoo ntawm ib puag ncig koj pom zoo. Sau cov sij hawm thaum koj muaj kev nkag siab tsis zoo - tsis yog qhia koj tus khub "sib nqi", tab sis txhawm rau txheeb xyuas lawv thiab nkag siab yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb.
2. Tsis txhob coj koj tus khub qhov kev xav ntawm tus kheej
Oleg zoo siab tham txog nws cov tswv yim yuav ua li cas siv lub lis piam. Tab sis Katya zoo li tsis hnov nws: nws teb nyob rau hauv monosyllables, hais nyob rau hauv ib tug indifferent tone. Oleg pib xav tias: "Yuav ua li cas yog nws tsis ncaj ncees lawm? Puas yog vim kuv? Dua nws tsis zoo siab rau ib yam dab tsi. Tej zaum nws yuav xav tias kuv tsuas xav txog kev lom zem xwb.
"Introverts yuav tshwm sim tu siab lossis npau taws. Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias lawv npau taws tiag tiag lossis tu siab. »
"Introverts tuaj yeem thim rov qab rau lawv tus kheej kom mloog zoo, xav txog qhov kev xav tseem ceeb lossis cov txheej txheem kev xav," Sophia Dembling piav qhia. – Thaum lub sij hawm ntawd lawv yuav tshwm sim tu siab, tsis txaus siab los yog npau taws. Tab sis qhov no tsis txhais hais tias lawv npau taws tiag tiag lossis tu siab. Cov kev xav ntawm introverts tsis yog ib txwm pom tseeb, thiab koj yuav xav tau ntau dua los paub txog lawv.
3. Qhia koj tus kheej kom nug cov lus nug
Ib qho kev paub tsis meej ntawm introverts yog kev ntseeg tias lwm tus pom thiab nkag siab qhov lawv pom thiab nkag siab. Piv txwv li, ib tug introvert yuav nyob lig ntawm kev ua hauj lwm thiab tsis xav txog tag nrho cov lus ceeb toom rau ib tug khub txog qhov no. Los yog mus rau lwm lub nroog tsis hais dab tsi. Cov kev ua zoo li no tuaj yeem ua rau khaus thiab ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab: "Nws puas tsis nkag siab tias kuv txhawj xeeb?"
"Lub tswv yim muaj txiaj ntsig ntawm no yog nug thiab mloog," hais Sofia Dembling. Koj tus khub txhawj xeeb txog dabtsi tam sim no? Nws xav tham txog dabtsi? Nws xav qhia dab tsi? Qhia rau koj tus khub tias koj qhov kev sib txuas lus yog thaj chaw nyab xeeb uas nws tsis tas yuav tiv thaiv nws tus kheej thiab ua tib zoo xaiv nws cov lus.
4. Xaiv lub sijhawm zoo los tham
Introverts muaj lub koob npe nrov rau kev qeeb-witted. Nws tuaj yeem nyuaj rau lawv los tsim lawv txoj kev xav tam sim, teb sai rau koj cov lus nug lossis lub tswv yim tshiab. Yog tias koj xav tham txog tej yam tseem ceeb, nug koj tus khub thaum twg nws yuav yooj yim rau nws ua qhov no. Teem sijhawm ib ntus los tham txog cov phiaj xwm, teeb meem, thiab kev xav txog koj lub neej ua ke.
"Rau tus neeg nkag siab, tus khub nquag tuaj yeem pab tau zoo."
Sophia Dembling sau hais tias "Rau tus neeg nkag siab, tus khub koom tes tuaj yeem pab tau zoo thaum nws los txog rau kev txiav txim siab nyuaj lossis hloov qee yam ntawm koj tus kheej," Sophia Dembling sau tseg. - Ib qho piv txwv uas kuv nyiam los ntawm phau ntawv yog zaj dab neeg ntawm Kristen, uas tau siv los "cheb hauv qab cov ntaub pua plag" txhua qhov teeb meem cuam tshuam nrog kev sib raug zoo. Tab sis nws tau sib yuav ib tug txiv neej nquag heev uas txhua zaus txhawb kom nws ua, thiab nws ua tsaug rau nws.
5. Nco ntsoov: introvert tsis txhais hais tias yog neeg txawv teb chaws
Anton pom tias Olga mus kawm seev cev yam tsis tau qhia nws dab tsi. Hauv kev teb rau nws qhov kev tsis txaus siab, nws sim ua kom pom tseeb rau nws tus kheej: "Zoo, muaj ntau tus neeg nyob ntawd, suab paj nruag nrov. Koj tsis nyiam qhov no. » Qhov xwm txheej no zoo heev rau cov khub niam txiv uas muaj lub siab sib txawv. Thaum xub thawj, cov neeg koom tes sim hloov ib leeg. Tab sis tom qab ntawd lawv tau nkees thiab poob rau hauv lwm qhov siab - "txhua tus ntawm lawv tus kheej."
Sofia Dembling hais tias "Koj tus khub yuav zoo siab siv sijhawm nrog phooj ywg lossis mus concerts nrog koj." "Tab sis rau nws, lo lus nug ntawm "yuav ua li cas" yuav tseem ceeb dua li "dab tsi". Piv txwv li, nws tsis nyiam incendiary Latin seev cev, tab sis nws txaus siab teb rau qhov kev kawm yuav ua li cas seev cev waltz, qhov twg cov kev txav tau zoo dua qub thiab zoo nkauj. Koj tuaj yeem yuav luag txhua qhov kev xaiv thib peb uas yuav haum rau ob qho tib si. Tab sis rau qhov no koj yuav tsum tau nyob rau hauv kev sib cuag nrog ib leeg thiab tsis saib kev sib raug zoo raws li ib tug tsis kawg txoj kev nrog kaw qhov rooj.